<p>Alright, thanks for the advice catch. I wasn’t really planning on stealing the guy’s girlfriend (although they are hardly that close-they’ve dated less than 2 weeks.) I’ll just wait it out to see if the relationship ends, but I’m not WAITING waiting, if you get what I mean. I’m not gonna stay fixated on her, but she actually is the only girl I’ve talked to all year that I’ve had interest in. Well time to move on. Thanks, though.</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice stressedouttt (love your username! it’s very relevant to this website) and catch (your analogy made perfect sense.) Thinking about it, I’ve put so much effort into trying to keep this friendship alive this whole school year but to no avail. If she doesn’t try to talk to me or spend anything with me, then perhaps I shouldn’t either. I considered talking to her about it, but we probably won’t see each other much next year, because we won’t have any classes together. So I figure we won’t even talk much anyways because she doesn’t walk to talk to me outside of school or even at school. I’m really tired of being the only one who’s trying, so I’m done. I’ll spend time with other friends in my classes, and try to become closer to some of them. Thanks for the great advice!</p>
<p>you’re welcome 
good luck with all of that.</p>
<p>So there’s this guy I’ve known for years, and for some reason people have always randomly said we’d make the best couple. Lately I’ve realized that I actually do like him, and he may like me back (he’s shy, but he’s said some ridiculously sweet/flirty stuff to me). </p>
<p>The thing is, he’s in another country for the whole summer, and this other guy has recently started talking to me more. He’s really sweet and funny-- not the player type–and has asked me out to the movies with him. So I guess my question is: should I go out with him and see where it leads, or should I hold out for the first guy who I definitely do have feelings for?</p>
<p>Thanks!</p>
<p>I regret getting a job this summer (sounds weird, I know). I’ll be taking art and design seminars at this special art college, and then I’ll be painting at different sites throughout the city. I also already work every weekend.</p>
<p>I wanted to dot this summer internship so badly. It was this science research thing at another college. I would’ve done a civil engineering project with graduate students and professors. I think I had a really good chance of getting it: my math teacher already wrote a recommendation, i already wrote an essay i worked really hard on, and my transcript was almost flawless (it had my full freshman year and only first semester of soph year, so my grades were unsually high). If I were to apply for this program next year, it wouldn’t be as easy because I know for a fact that my junior grades will bring me down.</p>
<p>The reason I didn’t apply for it was because when i reminded my mom that i needed to mail in the application with a $50 check, she totally flipped out. (I even told her I was paying for it myself!) If i was was rejected from the program, they’d give my money back. If I got in, they would keep it. </p>
<p>My mom thought this was a ■■■■■■■■ idea because
a)I’d be wasting $50 of my hard-earned money and
b)the internship was unapaid. She reasoned that at least my painting job would pay me.</p>
<p>I wanted to something academic this summer, not physical labor. But it’s too late to change, and I don’t mind getting money, anyway. I can’t tell whether one will look better than the other in the eyes of admissions officers. </p>
<p>I want to go to a school like Penn Wharton, UVA, U Mich or Cornell CALS. If you were part of an adcom at a top school, what’s better:
interning for free doing energy and environmental design or
working for money doing packaging design and painting?</p>
<p>Dearest allpurpose,</p>
<p>Speaking from the point of view from someone who’s in a study abroad program in China at the moment, I am very, very biased. I’m gonna let you know that right now.</p>
<p>Just about all the college boys here have girlfriends. Yet a good percentage of them go out clubbing every night. To do what, you ask? Dance with other girls, make out with them, and create lots of drama (if they remember the next morning. Usually they don’t). Remember, THEY HAVE GIRLFRIENDS AT HOME.</p>
<p>Do they care? No, not really. (Those unnfaithful jerks.)</p>
<p>/endrant</p>
<p>I’m not even sure if this is relevant to your question. Probably not. But I wouldn’t trust a guy who studied abroad for a whole summer; you don’t know where he’s been.</p>
<p>Go with the guy closer to home, he seems sweet. If he’s not a player, that is a very, very good thing. A VERY GOOD THING. </p>
<p>These are some other reasons you should consider Guy #2:</p>
<ol>
<li>You don’t want to wait all summer for Guy #1, especially if you don’t even know if he wants to be in a relationship with you when he comes back. (Just because other people tease you about it doesn’t mean it’ll become a reality.)</li>
<li>Is Guy #1 sweet and flirty to just you? Or to everyone? Make sure he’s not leading you on. (He studied abroad. I already don’t trust him.)</li>
<li>Guy #2… He’s already made a move, right? Asked you to the movies. That’s a start. In guy language, that means HE’S INTERESTED IN YOU. </li>
<li>You described the first guy as shy, but saying some ridiculously sweet/flirty stuff to you. You described the second as “sweet and funny and not the player type.” OBVIOUSLY, GO WITH THE LATTER.</li>
</ol>
<p>Go out with Guy #2 already. Good luck; let me know how it goes.</p>
<p>Best,</p>
<p>Catch</p>
<p>Dear qtpiginger,</p>
<p>Both looked fantastic to me.</p>
<p>Don’t you worry about what college adcoms think. You’re going to worry anyway, aren’t you? </p>
<p>(Really, though, don’t. Life is a one-way street. Live with no regrets.)</p>
<p>Plus, your artsy job looked more fun. I would’ve preferred it, although it seems like you wanted to do the other one more. Could it be because your mom prevented you from applying that you couldn’t help but regret the missed opportunity? Would an acceptance or rejection letter have made a difference in your plans?</p>
<p>Listen, it’s too late for the internship this summer. But apply next year anyway. If you really wanted the internship, save up money this summer from your job, mail in the application next year, and don’t bother telling your mom about it (unless they accept you, that is). Don’t ever be afraid of taking risks. If you work hard, I’m sure your junior grades alone won’t keep you out of the program. What’s Nike’s famous slogan again? “Just do it.” Also, forgive your mom for not letting you apply this time; the last thing you’d want is to hold a grudge against her. Just remember, parents are pretty wise sometimes, but don’t ever let them dictate your life. </p>
<p>Have fun. Make bank. Don’t worry; your resume will survive.</p>
<p>Best, </p>
<p>Catch</p>
<p>Long story short, I want to go into a field related to Economics, Public Relations, or Marketing. My major or concentration will optimally be one of the three, or something involving all of the three. My current schedule is somewhat lackluster and not as advanced as it could be. </p>
<p>I’m taking Geometry over the summer for credit so I can enroll in Honors Algebra 2 next year. Is there anything else you’d suggest? Some good topics to self-study? Anything that I can devote 4ish hours a week to that would improve my experience and depth in the world of financing/marketing/public relations/economics?</p>
<p>I’ve looked into quite a few internships, but they’re all starting junior year OR require time commitments during the same time I’ll be taking Geometry.</p>
<p>Help!</p>