<p>Hey guys I'm pretty new to this whole discussion thing but I need some advice. I am a sophomore in college and my girlfriend is a senior in high school. We dated the year prior to this but broke up when I left for my freshman year. My problem is that I do love and care about this girl but I'm not too sure if I'm 100% happy in my relationship with her. I don't want to hurt her. She thinks that when we see each other again that it will be okay but I'm not too sure. I don't want to hurt this girl because she really is amazing and doesn't deserve it. On a side note she is thinking of going to my school, but anyway I also don't want to be that creepy/weird guy who goes back for high school dances when he's 20 years old. Any advice on what we should do? Should we end things and maybe if she comes to my school try it again, should we keep it going, or should we call it quits all together? This girl will literally do anything for me to stay with her. She is madly in love with me, but I'm the only serious boyfriend she's had. I'm afraid that what she is could just be puppy love. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you!</p>
<p>You are thinking like many many others have thought…you are in a different place in your life than your GF. It sounds like she is more in love with you than you are with her. </p>
<p>You say you broke up…what is the status? That your relationship is on “pause”? </p>
<p>I think I would tell her “Because I care for you, I want you to pick the best college for you. I chose this because it was the best choice for me. I don’t want you to make your decisions based on where I am.”</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I started dating when I was a sophomore in high school and he was a senior (so same age difference as you and your girlfriend). I’m now a freshman in college and he’s a junior, and we’ve made it through the past three years relatively smoothly. Sure, we fought a ton, and it was pretty tough when he first went off to college and I was stuck in high school. But we truly cared for each other and everything worked out. We visited each other a ton, and I ended up in college only an hour away from him, so we make the drive every weekend. It is definitely a commitment and does take up a lot of time (you probably won’t be partying a ton on the weekends). If you are really serious about your relationship, then go for it. Otherwise, you may be better off going your separate ways. Maybe you will get back together once she starts college too, maybe not. Either way, I wish the best for you!</p>
<p>Honestly? I think you should start dating other girls. As kindly as you possibly can, explain to her that you do care for her but you want to be clear that your relationship is not the same now and will not be the same if she comes to your school. She doesn’t realize this yet, but when she gets to college there is a good chance she will want to date other guys, too.</p>