<p>Lol, ok... if you're nice looking AND smart... hell ya you'll succeed. If you're average looking (not that it's bad, some girls actually go for the average looking guys because usually good-looking guys go through girls like candy) and smart, ofcourse you'll succeed. If you're geeky, ugly, but smart... gotta work on your social skills before you can really succeed becuase no hella way anyone will want to work with you if you're Mr. Jedi-Knight Cheese Puff... even if you are the nerd who knows all. </p>
<p>The nice-looking smarty IS kinda like the alpha male of the group. He is the one who is strong both physically and mentally, and according to the laws of nature, he is the one who succeeds more than all else. </p>
<p>It's just something called life. But then again, look at Bill Gates. He isn't good-looking, but look at what he has become (he made up his ugliness with alot alot alot of smarts, stubborness, and he KNOWS how to manipulate people and society. That's why he is the richest person on Earth).</p>
<p>Bill Gates isn't very attractive, but ugly? That's sort of harsh :)</p>
<p>Anyway, generally if someone is attractive, but mean, people will still like them (the shallow people) but many more people will dislike them. And if someone is average-looking but funny/engaging, people will ignore them (shallow people) but more people will like them and want to be around them. These things just take time. But in the meanwhile, wearing nice clothes, maybe little makeup, and getting a nice haircut help things progress and make for nice first impressions.</p>
<p>Case in point- I wear name-brand clothes that are associated with a certain lifestyle, and this tends to draw a lot of popular/rich kids towards me. However, later they realize that I live almost the opposite of the lifestyle that my clothes would have them think I do, but by then they are already engaged by my amazing personality and would never regret befriending me in the first place. And although you may think of these friends as shallow, chances are many of them are doing the same thing as I did. </p>
<p>Basically, it's like fishing- you cast the biggest, brightest net, and get a bunch of fish, but then you weed out the best ones and keep them in your fishtank :)</p>
<p>I really agree with you. Ugly or goodlooking, it doesn't really matter. Don't think about what other people think of you. ONly how you think of yourself, and how your FRIENDS think of you. If you don't have any friends, well, then you're not really human are you?</p>
<p>Wait, i believe it's 2,000$ more. Yea i'm pretty sure about that. But hahahahahaha! i have to tell you guys something. You know whats WAY WAY more important than how you look? It's confidence. As long as you yourself think that you look good, then confidence will build up. As confidence builds up, you can show your "alpha male" features by showing off how confident, stubborn, and smart you are.... which will give you a leg up beyond those good-looking people.</p>
<p><em>Hereandthere</em> was right.<br>
People often use first impressions to make snap judgments and assumptions about others, and these first impressions seem to carry heavy weight.</p>
<p>The answer to your question concerning why people don't judge based on interesting personalities is simply that it would require a more systematic judgment made over time, meaning it has to go far beyond a stare and assumption--do you seriously think someone can judge the personality of someone in a split second? Not correctly at least. </p>
<p>If you want people to realize the gem you are, you'll actually have to let them get to know you. This means being socially active and exposing your great qualities.</p>
<p>Right off the bat, I'll tell you I'm old. (54 YO) I'm a very average looking person and I married a average looking guy. But in my time, I have dated very good looking guys, most were boring, boring, boring! so I married the average guy because of one reason (not that one). He's wicked smart with a good sense of humor. We have a daughter who is very beautiful (don't ask me how this happen-DNA is a funny little soup!) But, but having lived with this kid for 19 years, I have to agree that these people have an advantage on life. I never knew this before living with the kid. Its kind of disturbing really. However, my point in commenting is this: She is a pretty smart kid and has never had her head turn by a "good looking guy". She really avoids them and goes for the smart artistic type. And they must be really kind spirit. She only had one boy friend. So I agree that beauty counts, but like anything in life, its only one factor. Most people worth the wait will take time to get to know a wonderful person. Strive to be the type of person people want to get to know.</p>
<p>osage, why does she automatically avoid the good-looking ones? there are plenty of highly attractive people who are also highly intelligent and educated.</p>
<p>What if you're really attractive (say, top 5%) but very socially awkward, and you don't want anything to do with the other attractive or shallow people. How can you avoid being approached by them?</p>
<p>it took you until college to realize that most people are like this? I find that 60-90 percent of people are not worth getting to know (depending on location) because they usually want something from you like sex, money, or just to have you as a friend so they can say they are your friend instead of forming a real friendship</p>
<p>after all there are plenty of girls out there who say they have guy friends that "are just friends" or "is like my brother" but notice that the guy is rarely "out of her league"....interesting isn't it? Turn it around and you'll discover that guys RARELY make friends with girls they consider undesirable unless they are doing so to get to one of her "hot" friends.</p>
<p>you have to find cool people and let the fools dance with the fools :) filtering through people is most of the work</p>
<p>Your father: I agree with you. There are beautiful people who are really wonderful. Maybe her experience guides her a different way. Her young man right now is darling to her, but not classically good looking. she was looking for a partner who would enjoy museums, art openings, independent movies, and lectures at the local art college. I'm not sure there were that many boys at 16 and 17 who were willing to do these things...good looking or not. I think she found one who shared the same interests (and I love him because he treats her so well).</p>