Bad Relationships with Stepparent

<p>Hey guys.
Hear my rant. Thank you if you are.</p>

<p>I have a pretty strict, demanding, obnoxious stepfather who thinks he controls my entire life (sometimes.. He's okay most of the time.. But this issue means a lot to me). Okay, sounds pretty confusing, let me tell you a couple of examples. Today he told me if I move anywhere in a city, he won't help me. If I go to anywhere except this certain state school, he won't help me. Basically he thinks if I do anything he didn't like to do, I can't do it either. Last weekend, I went to a leadership camp. And he was completely against it because he thought "leadership won't get you anywhere in life". NHS. He was against it the whole way. He thinks its a waste of time and now he gives me more chores because I said NHS was worth my time. He doesn't allow me to join any clubs, because he thinks that clubs are useless crap. </p>

<p>Get the point? Tonight, I was discussing my future plans (JHU, major in biomedical (oh did I say? He told me I shouldn't major in the medical field because it's expensive and apparently I don't have the 'dedication'), live in NYC. And I got this lecture. </p>

<p>What should I do? What scholarship should I apply? I need so much help. </p>

<p>Thanks for reading this.</p>

<p>Study your butt off, get a full ride, and leave your stepdad forever. Seriously, if you’re at the top of your class with a good SAT score and 4 years of dedication to something, you should get a full ride to Berkeley or USC (only schools I know that give full rides to amazing students). Apply to Gates Millennium Scholarship or look up scholarships at fastweb.com </p>

<p>But um, sorry if this question is offensive, where is your mom in this? If she’s around, you should tell her to support you.</p>

<p>Lol, one time I forgot to drain the tub after taking a bath and my stepdad banned me from taking baths.</p>

<p>Seriously. </p>

<p>I feel your pain.</p>

<p>My mom can’t afford it. Also after this I don’t want anyone to support me. Like you said, I want to leave basically forever.</p>

<p>@Leah: That SUCKS! Once I went on a date and I didn’t answer my phone (duh, common courtesy?) and he would let me wash my clothes for the rest of the year (well at least it was nov). So I literally gave all of my clothes to my friend to wash and paid them like 5 bucks.</p>

<p>Robot, I’m adorable obvs. </p>

<p>Lawlz I know baths are childish but they help me relax. </p>

<p>Kimmy, I plan to get a full ride to college so I never have to rely on my parents again. I know I can get them at Pitt, Northeastern, and Bama. Hopefully Vandy or Duke will give me one…but that’s more of a dream…</p>

<p>Support you as in stand up to your stepdad, unless she thinks he’s right or can’t go against him :(</p>

<p>Like to be honest, I know for a fact I can go into a state school full ride. But my state doesn’t have the best biomed program. So now I’m deciding on UCs (san diego or berkeley) </p>

<p>LAWL. I just go over the weekends and get my clothes clean.</p>

<p>A UC is going to cost you 55k a year and rising, and they suck… Such a bad choice.</p>

<p>Got any other cheap good schools?
Biomed kiddo here! :D</p>

<p>Do your parents make enough to qualify for FA? How much do you think they will pay?</p>

<p>they will not pay for anything but state. </p>

<p>so zero.</p>

<p>And they are middle class.</p>

<p>No OOS publics will work then. None. </p>

<p>University of Alabama would give you a full ride of you make national merit, other than that look at midwestern LACs where you are above the average GPA. </p>

<p>OH. Pitt would be perfect for you. You could probably get a full ride or close to it, they have an amazing medical center with a strong bio program, etc.</p>

<p>Also, if your parents will pay like 30k, Minnesota at Twin Cities and Cal Poly SLO are good options. What’s your state school?</p>

<p>I’m guessing Pitt is University of Pittsburg?</p>

<p>Also, leah, just wondering if you knew, how is university of arizona’s biomed program?</p>

<p>Yeah it is. I have a friend who’s going there next year on a full ride. She turned down Cornell for it. </p>

<p>I don’t know too much about UA, but I do know they have really strong research so I would assume the bio program is strong as well.</p>

<p>To expand on what Leah said, you could try googling what other colleges give out full rides to national merit scholars (if you apply). There’s actually a lot of them (schools).</p>

<p>Thanks guys.</p>

<p>I think my new problem is raising my PSAT by 15 points. And BAM. Full ride (:</p>

<p>Thank you all for the advice, tips, and recommendations (especially leah. thanks for recommending pitt! definitely considering that school)</p>

<p>No problem :)</p>

<p>Slave over that PSAT. It’s so important (which is stupid). </p>

<p>I did, and I got my sophomore score (197) up to a 222 and BOOM FULL RIDES. </p>

<p>It’s awesome.</p>

<p>Lucky! Sophomore I got a 173. Now I’m around 200 mark.</p>

<p>Just keep working. It’s really not that hard of a test. Just tell yourself you can do it and get through as many prep books as possible.</p>