I started my freshman year totally clean. I didn’t know anyone there was no drama. My slates were clean. I started as a journalist and made a group of friends that say with me in my classes. Two girls and a guy. So I met my roommate late. She was late to the dorm or something. She comes off as super shy. She had NO friends at this school. I see her sitting alone at dining times and always has her earbuds. She even attempts to ditch classes. She works as a photographer, and our branch kinda works together. My friends and i had an assignment due on Sunday and it was Friday night. So we all got together in the commons and worked on our interview questions for a press confrence. I ended up going to bed at around 12:02 and she was still in the shower. Not to mention her music was blasting super loud. We also had connected rooms so I felt bad for the other girls. By the look on their faces I knew they felt bad for me too. That night I decided I would put my pjs on and slip under the covers with a thriller novel. So when she got out of the shower and had her pjs on, she didn’t stop blasting her music. She literally just brought it in her hand while I was reading. Then she turned off the lights and turned her music down a little but not much. I could still hear it and she quickly went to sleep. I saw a pair of headphones on her nightstand. RIGHT NEXT TO HER BED. Like what?? I like her as a person but she is really inconsiderate. There are many other ways she can be obnoxious but that would take a long time. In conclusion I tiptoed to her bed and turned down her music and placed her earbuds next to her ear. I hope she takes a hint! She is really racist too! She’ll face time her Uncle or sister , and they’ll make fun of Anglo or Caucasian people (white). She sometimes tells them to stop but it’s really rude because sometimes she laughs at those dumb racy jokes. I don’t think she knows I’m biracial either (it’s really offensive) My mother is pale white and my father is Puerto Rican . My half sisters are all Caucasian. So i sat there just trying not to burst. Well that’s her in a summary. Hope yours isn’t as bad as mine is.
You can’t expect your roommate to read your mind. 1. I don’t see where you said, “Hey, I’m reading and getting settled down to sleep, could you please use earnuds?” 2. I’d tell her sometime during the day, “Hey, I try not to listen in on your conversations, but can’t help overhearing some of your chats while I’n in the room. Some of the jokes your relatives are telling bother me. I’m biracial, so it’s me they are talking about, and it feels pretty uncomfortable. Can we figure out a way to have you chat with them elsewhere when I’m in the room?” It sounds like she does know they are being offensive – this comment may be enough to embarrass her into trying to get them to stop (maybe sorta futile, I have racist relations so I know, but it sounds like she does try), and also think about her own reactions.
You have to (politely) ask for what you need.
You’re in for a bad time if you try to solve roommate conflicts with “I hope she takes a hint!” There’s literally no reason why you can’t just say, “do you mind using headphones past 9PM?” or whatever you request. If I was your roommate, I’d probably be posting about how my “bad roommate” messed with my radio and moved headphones near my face while I was sleeping.