<p>My freshman year started with a really sucky roomate.
First of all, she is super ignorant of her surroundings. She has this, <em>sorry</em> ghetto, loud and obnoxious music turned on whenever she receives a text message, and the problem is SHE ALWAYS TEXTS. I was fine with the first few days but when it goes on and on - it gets freakin annoying.
Secondly, she has ANNOYING friends: she met them during this summer program that prepares high school students for college and often brings them to our dorm on the weekend. They spend their time watching Jersey Shore and being ridiculously loud. Their voices are like crappy squeaky anime voices that are pitch high. One of them could even manage to pierce through my headphones (at max volume) and echo the whole floor.
Third, she keeps giving me these dirty glances (maybe because i'm a low maintenance girl?) and practically keeps everything on her own. I try to be nice to her a few times (inviting to dinner, offering fruits, initiating the conversation) - I even called her up when she overslept for her morning classes!!
She is ignorant so to a point that she doesn't even bother to open the door when it is knocked - even when I'm listening to music with my headphones on - and I had to apologize to some people who thought being ignored when they knock on my door.
augh. any advice anyone?</p>
<p>Talk to her.</p>
<p>You can take the ***** outta the ghetto, but you can’t take the ghetto outta the *****.</p>
<p>^ rotfl. so freaking hilarious</p>
<p>Im sorry I cant even give you any advice since im just laughing so hard at this:
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<p>ROTFLLLL!!</p>
<p>What I would do if I were you is to think about why she is being mean to you first of all. She probably is not happy about something or doesn’t like being there alot. It probably isn’t because of you. I get stared at alot by my mom even ehrn I don’t do anything wrong. So I think that you should talk to her and see what her problem is. Maybe she thinks that you want something but it sound like she is being rilly rude. And maybe you should ask the RA because thats what they are suposed to help you with. They are kind of like your big brother sometimes they are nice to you but sometimes they try to get you in trouble for stuff. Her friends sound like they are kind of wierd. I wouldnt be friends with them either if I were you.</p>
<p>Kick her ass.</p>
<p>It sounds like she’s first gen college and comes from a lower class background than you do. Much of what you are complaining about seem like class differences.</p>
<p>You don’t like her text message music or how her friends’ voices sound. Those are minor things to get upset over.</p>
<p>Maybe she doesn’t like your music tastes or thinks that your friends’ quiet voices sound sneaky or snotty.</p>
<p>If her text message music is too loud for you, ask if she would please turn it down. If you’d like her to answer the door, tell her. Maybe she hasn’t because she figures you are in the room and it’s probably your friends. She may not realize that you can’t hear the door over your headphones.</p>
<p>You could take the time to get to know her friends instead of writing them off because they talk loudly and like tv shows you don’t like.</p>
<p>A big part of college is sociallymixing with some people you’d otherwise not encounter.</p>
<p>I suspect you have more in common with her and her friends than you’ve let yourself discover. I also suspect you come across to them as a rich snob even though you don’t mean to.</p>
<p>For instance, living in a 2-parent home, coming from a place where most students are college-bound, being able to go out for an off campus movie or meal may be things she and her friends don’t have or can’t afford.</p>
<p>She may even be concerned about her table manners or she may fear not having money to reciprocate when you share things with her.</p>
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<p>College is about an education, not about mollycoddling some bratty kid who thinks that she can play inner-city punk while living in someone else’s dorm room. Tell her to grow up or report her to the Office of Residential Life.</p>
<p>^hahahhaahahhahahahah</p>
<p>somehow I feel like she’s not inner city if she watches Jersey Shore</p>
<p>^ You’d be surprised! I know this girl who grew up in Newark, NJ. She is in the Equal Opportunity Program at my school. She watches Jersey Shore religiously!</p>
<p>To the OP: Maybe she perceives you as being condescending because of the class difference. Also, I know there are people as well that can sense someone’s behavior. I can detect sometimes if a person feels uncomfortable or annoyed. Maybe she senses that you are annoyed by her, her music, her friends, etc. so she feels like she doesn’t want to have anything to do with you =</p>
<p>I was thinking about a post I saw here a couple of months ago where a girl (black) stated how she wanted to switch roommates because she saw her roommate was white. As silly as this may sound, perhaps your roommate feels uncomfortable about that as well, if you do happen to be of another race, OP. She doesn’t know how to relate to you and feel comfortable around other inner city kids or people of similar background. </p>
<p>I mean, it is harsh to say, but it is reality. I’m sure there are times where you kind of wished that you got paired with a person of a particular background or probably dreaded the fact that you will get a ______ girl who ________. Insert whatever; it doesn’t have to be a race or background. I didn’t want a barbie girl who partied every night and came to our dorm wasted. I didn’t want a black girl who acted ghetto and had no respect. These are two things I dread each time it came for housing assignments. I’m sure there are people that share the same sentiments.</p>
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<p>What makes you think she comes from a first gen and has a lower class background?</p>
<p>And yes I’m calling you out on your stereotyping so I may correct you.</p>
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<p>I think it was this part that the OP stated that made Northstarmom assumed this. We have a program like this at my university. They reach out to inner city youth in high schools to encourage them to go to college</p>
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<p>Okay I’m not familiar with the program.</p>
<p>yeah Mushaboom but I think the main demographic for Jersey Shore is white 18-25 year old girls</p>
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I was thinking about a post I saw here a couple of months ago where a girl (black) stated how she wanted to switch roommates because she saw her roommate was white."</p>
<p>lol where is this thread?</p>
<p>Here ya go DCHurricane! It was from July. The thread made me a laugh a bit because of how serious the OP was:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/962741-roommate-issues.html?highlight=white+roommate[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/962741-roommate-issues.html?highlight=white+roommate</a></p>
<p>I’m pretty sure it was a ■■■■■. Only 5 posts from the OP total? Definite ■■■■■, heck I could see myself posting a thread like that.</p>
<p>More than just white girls watch Jersey Shore…</p>
<p>well no ****, and more than just white males are serial killers. That doesn’t mean there’s not a major demographic associated with either thing.</p>
<p>If it annoys you when she brings over friends, leave the room when they come. Go to a study room, the common room or library. It’s immature to rant about a ringtone, bottom line. There are plenty of real things to be upset about. Maybe she doesn’t answer the door because she knows it’s not for her (her friends probably text her when they are coming over). Like I said, if she annoys you so much, spend less time in the room. Pretty simple solution.</p>