balancing high school friends & college friends

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<p>I'm from a very small town so I had a very clearly defined friend group--about 7 people--spanning across three grades (we all did the same extracurricular which is how we became friends). They were my closest friends in high school but I wouldn't say we were best friends or anything like that.</p>

<p>Anyway, three of us graduated this past year, leaving the other four behind. The three of us went on to make amazing college friends (seriously. the friends I made at college will be in my wedding.) and it was hard to maintain my high school friendships because it was weird to talk about college stuff with high schoolers. The three of us entering our sophomore year now are still really close but we're definitely drifting apart from our friends in high school.</p>

<p>The problem is, this is causing a lot of drama (which I hate and never have any of in college) and at this point I'm ready to just call it a day. Everyone left in our friend group except for one person will be off to college in the fall and they will probably make better friends there.</p>

<p>Is it bad that I'm not really into keeping these friendships going if I feel like they're not going anywhere? I will only be home for about three weeks over the next year (for winter break--I'm not coming back for spring or summer). However, I don't want to burn bridges or be one of those people that just basically said "f___ you" to the town I came from once I found something better.</p>

<p>How are you all handling balancing high school and college friends, particularly if you get along better with your college friends and don't really like being around your high school friends anymore?</p>

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<p>sma, you are not facing something new.</p>

<p>This happens every year with College students.</p>

<p>and if you go to graduate school, you will obseve the same thing happen, but to a lessor extent</p>

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<p>I don’t hang out with people that cause drama. If they start drama, I leave. I stay in touch when I come back for breaks, but that’s it. I don’t really talk to people while I’m at school. A lot of my friends never left, most don’t go to school. But we’ve had a lot of shared experiences, and they have a different perspective than my friends at school. It’s nice to switch it up. Some of my friends from home are very immature, and I limit my interaction with them. There’s always ways to avoid drama tactfully. People change and grow apart. You’ll also reconnect with people you didn’t hang out with in HS, as in I just randomly run in to people or online, and we start hanging out. A lot of the people I chill with at home I didn’t hang with in HS.</p>