<p>Hey! The admissions cycle has recently ended, but I have a pretty weird dilemma.</p>
<p>To put it simply - I feel as if I do not want to keep contact with the vast majority of my high school friends. One may ask, "Why?". Well, recently as i've met some of my new (pre) college peers, I find myself relating more and more to them, and less and less to the majority of my high school friends.</p>
<p>Also, compared to my new peers, i've started to notice gaping holes in the attitudes of most of my high school friends. It seems that they are always asking me about my personal business while always avoiding the questions that I ask them in return. Additionally, because I got accepted to a top college, they always joke about how I will "forget" about them and how I "feel too good to be around them". These jokes just began out of the blue shortly after my acceptance, but they have just continued (despite me not doing anything to incite them). I'm starting to think that these are their hidden fears, and not really the "jokes" that they disguise them as. </p>
<p>At this point I don't know what to do. Each day I try to be friendly with them, but I just feel so out of place now. In addition, if I drop any of them, they will most likely say that I "feel too good to be around them". Should I just keep trying to be friendly? And if not, how can I drop them?</p>
<p>And i'm sorry if this sounds d*ouchebaggish in any way. I've just been holding this inside of me since the start of April.</p>
<p>Graduation is coming up. After you graduate, set up a new private FB account, don’t answer your phone or return calls, decline invitations to parties and get togethers and don’t wave hello when you see those useless HS buddies. Although they are not good enough for you, they will get the picture and stop trying. By the time you come home for your first winter break, you will have nobody at home who even cares.</p>
<p>Have you ever thought that maybe your friends are becoming as tired of you as you are of them?</p>
<p>Party like it’s 1999</p>
<p>“…useless HS buddies. Although they are not good enough for you…”</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice, but i’d like to note that if none of these jokes had started in the first place, we most likely would still have the great relationships that we had before I got my admissions decision. </p>
<p>And also, I did think of that. I spent a few days trying to keep to myself, and only talking when I really had to (i.e.: classes). However, they always find me and start making jokes about exactly what I said in the original post: how I will “forget” about them and how I “feel too good to be around them”. </p>
<p>In addition, I did not mention my college at all after my initial acceptance, but they seem to keep bringing it up.</p>
<p>I am making this post at the risk of being insulted(I was ■■■■■■■ by a high school student with the username Daxlo on this board in the past) and I am not a high school student.</p>
<p>However uncomfortable you feel around your high school friends, I don’t recommend intentionally “dropping” any of your friends. Attending and succeeding at a top college will help your success in life, but you will find over time that success is often a product of the relationships you make and the effort you put into those relationships.</p>
<p>At college I have met many exceptional people, but I am still closest to my high school friends. In fact, I’m closer to my high school friends than my fraternity brothers. Bonds built in childhood are the strongest. College relationships are often transparent “connections.” Everyone is consciously networking to gain a safety net for themselves. I will tell you that when my father was at the lowest point of his life, many of his college friends would not touch him with a 39 1/2 foot pole. It was as if he had become radioactive. But one of his friends from boarding school(a friend who had not gone to a top college and who had not been a strong student) came out of the woodwork and rescued him by forming a business partnership and raising significant capital.</p>
<p>You don’t need to go out of your way to hang out with your high school friends. Just be respectful and responsive if any of them contact you. Don’t burn any bridges or close any doors unless it’s absolutely necessary.</p>
<p>I see…thank you for the great advice! I’ll try my best to keep an open mind about my friends (and i’ll try to not burn any bridges)! Thanks so much!</p>
<p>^^ We meet again, my capitalistic inclined collegiate. I thought this kid fell off of the side of the earth. No joke.</p>
<p>Yea, but dude, no hard feeling on the previous so called “■■■■■■■■”? I was playing around with you, seeing if you could spar. I like playing with people. No need to take it personal Mr. Woodrow.</p>