<p>I have been accepted to OSU, and I live in Columbus, Ohio. I have applied to Barnard and I am positive I will get in. I love the school, I LOVE NYC, and I want to leave Ohio ASAP. However, I have very strict parents that told me that if I leave Ohio, not only will they not pay a dime for college, but they will never speak to me again. However, if I attend OSU they will pay for everything, my gas for my car, they will let me stay home, and they will pay full tuition for school. This seems drastic but I am not lying they are very serious. They don’t think I can handle living in NYC myself at 18. I can’t believe they are doing this to me, I wish they would accept that I want to attend Barnard, which is an obviously much better school than OSU. I feel they are being selfish and tying me down. I know I’m not meant to stay in Ohio like 95% of my class. Can someone help me convince my parents?</p>
<p>plz do not take it in a wrong way…but how do you know you will positively get in?? did you receive some kind likely letter from barnard already?? I’m just nervous…</p>
<p>lol i don’t! i’m just sure with my stats and i’ve been emailing a admissions officer i met a while ago, and she said with everything i have, my shot of getting in is quite high.</p>
<p>But someone please give me ADVICE! this is a crucial time in my life and i feel so conflicted!</p>
<p>All you can do is calmly talk to your parents about this. Have you visited the campus with them, by any chance? Our visiting with our daughter when she was in the application process sealed it for us. We loved the place.</p>
<p>The fact of the matter is that Barnard is an expensive place to go to school, and your parents may well be unable or unwilling to pay for you to attend there. They may feel that it makes no sense for you to go to Barnard when you have a viable option at Ohio State.
Or they may honestly not be able to afford to pay as much as $50,000 (and more) PER YEAR for you to go there. I don’t really consider that to be selfish of them, though they might need to be a little more up front if that is their primary reason for not wanting you to go to Barnard.</p>
<p>Also, regardless of your relationship with this admissions officer, you cannot know positively that you will be admitted.</p>
<p>So you need to have a calm and rational discussion with your parents about this. If the real and primary reason is the money, you deserve to know that. If not, then you should encourage them to learn about Barnard. Discuss with them (calmly) concrete reasons why Barnard is a better “fit” for you than Ohio State. Beyond your wanting to live in NYC and “get out” of Ohio. Convince them as you would the admissions committee in your “Why Barnard” essay!</p>
<p>In addition, Ohio State and Barnard are about as different as possible … are there schools closer to home more similar to Barnard your parents might be more OK with you attending (and willing to pay and have you live on campus) … schools such as Oberlin, Dennison, or Miami of Ohio?</p>
<p>I live in columbus, am also an applicant for Barnard 2016, and completely understand your desire to get out of ohio. Luckily, my parents are much more supportive of me attending a school in NYC. I have to agree with 3togo however that Ohio State and Barnard could not be more different. Did you apply to any other liberal arts schools that would provide similar experiences to those that Barnard will offer us?? (obviously it’s too late now to apply to any additional selective schools). I can say nothing but try to explain to your parents the differences between the two programs and why Barnard is the better choice. </p>
<p>Maybe ask your parents why THEY want you to go to Ohio State. Is it simply money or do they have some other motivation? If you know their reasoning, you will be more able to form you argument and hopefully change their minds!! 
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<p>What school do you go to?? I am at Granville High School (the town where Denison University is located)</p>
<p>Point out to your parents that Barnard is undefeated in NCAA football.</p>
<pre><code> On second thought don’t.
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<p>Sorry, I couldn’t resist. D1 is a Barnard alum currently attending school at Michigan.</p>
<pre><code> Don’t tell them that either.
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<p>To OP: CC has a feature that makes it easy to read past posts from a user. So it’s generally a bad idea to make up a story that is different than the others you have posted. </p>
<p>You claim now that you are sure to get into Barnard with your stats, but last fall you said you had a 3.2 GPA, 28 ACT. </p>
<p>Now you say that you have “very strict parents” – but 3 weeks ago you posted that your mother had recently died. (I’d think under those circumstances it would be very understandable if your father did not want you to leave home, but then I also think you would be referring to a “very strict father” rather than “parents”)</p>
<p>Well, what are you planning to major in OSU?
Maybe you should compare the different statistics and rankings.</p>
<p>i go to gahanna lincoln! i just love nyc, i visited this past summer and fell in love. i have visited miami of oh, and i HATED it. no diversity, in the middle of nowhere, totally not what i want. oh and to calmom, trust me, i will get in. and did it ever occur to you i have a step mother? my dad and birth mother divorced when i was 2 years old, and my stepmom has been in my life since i was 6. i consider her a second mom.</p>
<p>No one can help you effectively until you explain what your parents’ reservations are. (Cannot overcome the obstacles until they are identified.) Is it just that they are concerned about your living in New York, or is there more to it? Have they “given way” on such issues in the past, or are they unlikely to yield? Did they know that you were applying to Barnard? If so, did they support that fact/application?</p>
<p>Ultimately, if your parents are paying for college, the sad fact is that they do get to call the shots. From your point of view, that is “unfair.” From their point of view, they are paying tens of thousands of dollars a year for the privilege of indulging their own opinion of what is best for you.</p>
<p>By the way – I know that it can be difficult to control “tone” in written messages. All the same, no need to be quite so snippy to CalMom. mmmmm’kay ?</p>
<p>to piglette: my parents are just worried, they think nyc is a really dangerous place and they feel i’m too young to live there. they also want me closer to my family. they are unlikely to yield. yes, they knew i was applying to barnard, but they let me apply to many schools initially to open my options.
and btw- i think my tone can sound however the hell i want it to sound, mmmmmm’kay? my mother DIED. as in, i will never see her as long as i live and calmom accused me of lying. she’s a mother, i’m assuming by her name? then she should be mature enough to know not to jump to conclusions. not everything is in black and white, mmmmmmm’kay?</p>
<p>I call ■■■■■.</p>
<p>julynyc, with a 3.2 GPA and 28 ACT, I am not convinced you can possibly be assured of admission to Barnard. Why don’t you just wait and see if you are actually admitted and then discuss this with your parents? If you are admitted, you will then know the financial aid situation. </p>
<p>I will also observe that if discussions with your parents are anything like your “discussions” here on this board, it’s no wonder that communication is an issue. You need to listen to what is being said and actually respond in a fashion that is productive and not antagonistic. Calmom called you on conflicting info that you had written. She never used the term “liar”…all you need to do is explain if you truly want helpful advice here.</p>
<p>Easiest to help people who pick up on the parts of messages where one tries to actually help. Difficult (and generally not pleasant) to try to help any poster/■■■■■ who selects bits and pieces of even well-meant advice and lashes out at folks who are, in the main, probably just trying to help. Clarification need not be nasty. Assume the best in people.</p>
<p>I, for one, am done with this poster. I could add a few observations about personality traits revealed even in a few web postings, but why bother…?</p>
<p>For the record: I was actually trying to help. The “mmmm’kay” was meant to be as soft and even self-mocking as possible (as I said, though, difficult to control “tone” in written dialogue). If I wanted to savage you for your response to calmom (which went beyond “snippy”), believe me, I could and would have done so.</p>
<p>Okay, really done. You’ve alienated me, daaaaaaarlin’.</p>