<p>Barely anyone knows where I've applied too. Less know my admission decisions. I don't feel comfortable telling anyone, but that's another story.</p>
<p>When my friends announce that they were accepted, I'm incredibly happy for them because it was something important to them and they deserve it. I would react by cheering for them and congratulating them repeatedly.</p>
<p>When it's my turn looking at my decision alone in my room, I am excited but silently. If it were an acceptance, I'd smile...and that's all. I really am happy for the opportunities given to me, but I fear...what if I'm not satisfied? what I will never be happy?</p>
<p>Then, if rejection/waitlist come, my mood turn silently depressed. Most people can seek comfort from others, but I just let myself be absorbed in it. If I can encourage others, then why not myself?</p>
<p>hellogoodbye983,</p>
<p>I am mom of a college bound S, and felt I should write to you. Being able to post on CC is a step in the right direction! Vent you thoughts here on CC. I am trying hard to be sensitive as a mom, but I wanted to know if you have any family member to share both good and bad news with. </p>
<p>Your statement “I really am happy for the opportunities given to me, but I fear … what if I’m not satisfied?” struck me. Always remember that life is like running a long distance race. It’s not how you start, but how you finish it. Happiness/satisfaction will be define by you. </p>
<p>I don’t know you, but you sound like a fine human being, who is happy for others welfare. Hang in there, and take comfort in the fact that you have the talent to cheer for others! - A rare talent! Although it’s easier said than done, I will encourage you not to be absorbed in your failures. Trust that it’s a period in time, and it shall pass! Remember that it’s not the load that matters, but it’s how you carry it! You can do it! Best of LUCK.</p>
<p>This is a time of great anxiety over a big change for all of the students and their parents. You’re thinking about your future: not just next week, or next year, but the next four years, where you will live, your career, maybe for the rest of your life… it is probably the first time you have had to make a decision with such high stakes. Everyone is anxious and excited, but each person shows it differently. Your friend who is excited about her acceptance at school might have much quieter moments of contemplation at home.</p>
<p>Also – even though this decision POTENTIALLY has a big impact, it’s not permanent or irrevocable. People take gap years, transfer, change careers, move to different cities… important as the college selection process is, it’s just one step toward your future.</p>
<p>To the OP, thank you for posting this thread. I feel the same way. It’s a period of uncertainty, not knowing where we’d end up this fall, or how we will “fit” with the campus. I’m also wondering what to do besides wait.</p>
<p>I sort of felt underwhelmed when I was accepted to my favorite school. Happy, but not wildly elated. When I told my friends, their congratulations certainly made me happier (because like everyone else I enjoy a pat on the back ;). Really what the problem is (for me) is the waiting; yeah so I am going to college… in 6 MONTHS! Just do your best to enjoy the admittedly lame remainder of high school. Start going out with your friends, meeting new people, and making lots of plans to do stuff. One question I have, though: why can’t you tell people about your acceptances? Tell your “other story”!</p>
<p>I know exactly how you feel. You hear stories of people extremely happy when they get into their colleges, but I never felt anything like that. I was just like “oh” and just tossed the envelope aside. I realized that this time period is just a time to figure out things. We’re transitioning from high school to college, which is a really big deal. It’s ok and totally normal to be thinking, thinking that we didn’t deserve our acceptance and deserve our scholarship. I definitely know how you feel about not deserving it, seeing all the people who are a lot smarter than me, more hardworking than me, and definitely more deserving than me. But hey, this is what I tell myself: They did give us our decisions because that’s what the college felt was right, so they did. It doesn’t matter if they think we’re a good fit to the college, or just because they pick it randomly. Accept your results and move on. I know it’s tough love, but that’s how I deal with these kinds of situations.
Personally, I find more happiness and feel more excited for other people when they get in. It’s more impersonal and it’s easier to congratulate them than actually congratulating yourself.</p>
<p>It’s really not that uncommon. If, like myself, you weren’t particularly attached to the schools you appled to (even the great schools), you won’t be jumping off the walls when you get in, but the rejection will be a little painful no matter what.</p>
<p>No matter what you feel about getting accepted, at the end of the day, you’ll end up at a great college and have a blast.</p>