<p>One thing I must comment is just because you have hot girls with you, doesn’t mean you will get into any party. For the most part, you won’t be turned down from house/apartment parties, but you would probably be turned down from the frat party. They will simply let your girls in the party and leave you waiting outside.</p>
<p>If you want to get into a frat party, and you’re a guy, you want to be friends with someone in the frat, otherwise they will just take your girls. That’s what the frats are all about, that’s their game, they just stack the number of girls at their party super high in their favor.</p>
<p>Everyone befriends hot people all the time because they are hot. Or, at least members of the opposite sex.</p>
<p>If not for hopes (or delusions) of the possibility of future sex (whether this is a good tactic or not a separate discussion) - then because, like other people have mentioned, having hot girls around you DOES raise your social status, makes people want to be around you, can get you access to parties, and makes you more attractive to other women watching you.</p>
<p>Not only is this true in my own experience (and obvious) - but psychological research has proved that a man is found more attractive by women when he is among other girls.</p>
<p>By the way, the concept that a place will only let the hot girls in, but not the guy, is just plain naive and contrived. Have you ever been to a club?</p>
<p>I guess it’s assumed that if you are friends with these hot girls, then you ARE ACTUALLY friends with them. Hence, they will not ‘abandon you’ to go to a party when you are refused entry. It seems most doormen have basic social skills to realize this.</p>
<p>Any frat party that will turn down one guy among a group of 3 or 4 hot girls is monumentally stupid and let us thank Darwin that they will not be getting laid anytime soon.</p>
<p>Part of me is greatly disappointed at the large misinterpretation of my original post. I am not here to fight my point but I’d be VERY surprised if anyone who has posted on this thread so far has seen near the amount of success I have. I daresay a few asperger nerds have voiced their aggressive points on this thread (congrats!). At this point I’ve lost faith. I love helping people but this is not the place, and I can understand why so many of you take so much offense to my post, you’re the same people who walk around bitter wondering why college is not the dream its supposed to be. Forget it guys. Close this post. You won’t hear from me too much in the near future as reality calls, but look for me on the other side of things if you know what I mean, the success is there to back to it up.</p>
<p>gotta agree with the colllegeboss on this one. he knows what he is talking about, whether or not you want to agree with it. he has provided a way for people to socially successful, a very hard task for some people. I back everything that he has to say, especially the part about making hot friends. It may not be the nicest or sweetest thing to do, but it is what works. the tip of befriending them in the first days is a good one, because they will prolly be lost just like you. All in all, very good advice. One thing I would add though, is to be confident. It doesn’t matter what you look like, as long as you have decent social skills and you ooze confidence, people will come to you in the same way they would if you were unbelievably attractive. Studies have shown that confidence is attractive on both sexes lol. </p>
<p>good post collegeboss. I love advice like this because I often try to help ppl in the same way. don’t listen to the haters,we both know what works. Ciao</p>
<p>Whether you agree with it or not, alcohol/parties are one of the easiest ways to meet new people and get invited back for future social interactions.</p>
<p>i think a lot of what this guy says is on the dot w/ respect to the party scene. it’s not the only way though. i’m currently a senior at berkeley right now.</p>
<p>I have seen incredible success in my college career regarding my social life. But I don’t throw parties and I don’t hook up. I do drink, however.</p>
<p>But my party buddies (the “hot people” in the OP) are not my friends. Our relationships are completely insubstantial. We go out together, but we see each other more as means to an end than as friends. That’s not a problem because not all of my relationships are this way.</p>
<p>My actual friendship circle developed naturally around my extracurricular activities, my classes (occasionally), etc.</p>
<p>What you’re describing is how to have lots of people want to be you before they realize your life is totally empty and devoid of actual friendships. I suggest a more substantial approach to human relationships.</p>
<p>Social success can be defined in many ways. For some, having an entourage of the attractive is important. For others, it is not. How can you unilaterally decree what social success is?</p>
<p>I agree with everything else you have said except this. I don’t know how it is in other cities, but I remember it was more often than not that my friends (even girl/guy group, all just friends) would go out to a club in NYC and the girls would get in for free but we guys had to pay an arm and leg to get in with them. Our girl friends would end up paying us back. It obviously doesn’t work like that at frat parties though, but upscale or popular clubs with quotas? Definitely.</p>
<p>I just have to say…I met some of my best friends by partying with them in the first days of college. We already had stuff in common, and then our adventures partying with ridiculous stories to tell the next morning really seemed to cement our friendships. I’ve probably met more of my best friends by inviting/going out with them to a party than in an extracurricular/in my classes. I’m not saying that this is will be the case for everyone else. And don’t get me wrong - I was the average CC nerd in high school and I still hold grades in high regard. But especially freshman year when you don’t know lots of people, parties are a very good social tool (drinking optional) to build friendships. Ultimately, it really comes down to what kind of people they are but a lot of good people like to party too.</p>