How is the college social life like? Is there really "college loneliness"?

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<p>It is kind of scaring me. Isn't the college social life similar to high school, but without the immature drama and bullying? Don't people talk during classes, hang out afterwards, and build long lasting relationships? Isn't there still school clubs, partying, drugs, and "losing yourself" kind of fun? Or is college really the time you grow up and the fun times kind of end...</p>

<p>I thought this was some time after college, or in your late 20s, not after high school.</p>

<p>I talked to one person and he had a negative view on college that depressed me. I thought college was the best 4 years of your life.</p>

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<p>College is the worst 4 years of your life. You would be better off working at McDonalds, working your way up to managers, then start owning 100s of them.</p>

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<p>it certainly does take effort to get yourself a “college life”</p>

<p>those who just sit in the dorm and dont go out are lonenely 25/8</p>

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<p>■■■■, can someone explain this a little?</p>

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<p>It is what you make it.</p>

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<p>For some people, yes, but it’s not automatic. You have to take the initiative and be social. If you don’t then yes you will sit in your dorm all the time.</p>

<p>There’s plenty of partying, drugs, and “lose yourself” fun though.</p>

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<p>College can be a lot of fun and it can definitely be the time of your life. As Vanechka said “It is what you make it”. If you sit in your dorm all the time then of course you’ll be bored and won’t really have a social life, but if you put yourself out there and go to parties, events and join clubs there’s no reason yo won’t enjoy it.</p>

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<p>What RoxSox said.</p>

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<p>plenty of drugs and losing yourself. just get a crack addiction. because everyone knows you go to college for the drugs.</p>

<p>consider the university of miami. close to cuba so you will easily find cocaine there.</p>

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<p>you’ve watched too many movies</p>

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<p>There is college loneliness, at least in the beginning, but it’s generally manageable and there are dozens of ways of alleviating it.</p>

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<p>If you are a girl there’s always drama. </p>

<p>If you are a guy all you have to do is talk to people and be outgoing and you won’t be lonely. </p>

<p>If you want the whole college experience think about rushing a fraternity.</p>

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<p>Okay here we go. I just finished my freshman year in the dorms and well after this I decided I would be moving back home and commuting to University. And the reason is definitely due to “College Lonliness”. </p>

<p>Isn’t the college social life similar to high school, but without the immature drama and bullying?
*No, drama exists, and college life is completely different from high school, in that you do ALOT less classwork and homework. Bullying does not exist if you do not go into fraternity life, if you do, you will deal with some BS from older members, but they wont harm you, just tease you. </p>

<p>“Don’t people talk during classes, hang out afterwards, and build long lasting relationships?”
*No the people you meet in class are usually people who you only “talk shop” with. Meaning you usually only meet with them to study or work on homework, unless you have really really similar interests and live close by each other. Otherwise, I haven’t seen the people I met in class ever outside of that class or quarter. I didn’t really figure out how to find a big group of new friends like I did in high school because people are really anti social to people outside of their stereotype group here in college. </p>

<p>“Isn’t there still school clubs, partying, drugs, and “losing yourself” kind of fun?”
*School clubs exist, but unless you are a minority or love sports enough to give up some of your academics you wont have one that will suit you </p>

<p>*Partying drugs and such are plenty, the problem is getting into parties and the only was is to meet a group of friends who can get into and know parties. As a dude, good luck, you have to join a frat or meet older friends. As a girl, its easy, just find a group of girls and get instant entrance and booze to any party you wish as long as you fit that group’s look. Partying culture didnt really click with me, cause im a dude and dont have older friends and hate the bro lifestyle, but it may with you, and for some people thats enough to satisfy their college experience. </p>

<p>“Or is college really the time you grow up and the fun times kind of end…”
*As grim as what I said sounds, no it isn’t. Some people manage to meet many people, get drunk and live their college life in a drunken and high haze. Others find joy in other things, I for example am going to study abroad in Japan this summer and plan to study abroad again all Junior year in Osaka, Japan. Some people find joy in their studies and can keep them selves busy with their studies. You just have to find the thing you like and do it, life long friends and such I hope will come on their own. </p>

<p>This is all I can really say about this subject as I have only finished my first year. So good luck to you and I hope you have a better “freshman experience” (one of those lame buzzwords college recruiters chuck around) than I did!</p>

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<p>^Most of these points definitely do not apply to everyone. It all depends on the person and the school. </p>

<p>If you make the effort to make connections with people and not isolate yourself, you will find your place. It is totally possible to find groups to join that you like. Most colleges have some kind of party scene. And your college years have the potential to be some of the greatest of your life. </p>

<p>Like someone said before, it’s what you make it.</p>

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<p>Get to know the people from your major because you will likely to see them all four years of your college life. There are over 100+ organizations on campus. There is no reason for you to not participate. However, I did feel lonely because I missed my Highschool friends and making friends in college wasn’t the easiest thing to do for me. But I eventually got myself involved in several activities, played intramural sports, and had a chance to know more people.</p>

<p>Dont worry. I saw an infographic last month stating that over 20% of the people who attended college felt as if they could have done more in college. People do have regrets but if you keep youself focus you will be fine.</p>

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<p>It is what you make of it and if you don’t enjoy it then you really have no one to blame but yourself</p>