Being the Middle Child

<p>It's like a curse. My brother, 2 years older than me, just got accepted into college and he received all these gifts, cards, new friends and a new girlfriend. My sister, 5 years younger, she just 'graduated' from the 5th grade and stepping into the 'big' world of middle school... She was showered with love, care and gifts. I remember being in the fifth grade, so scared of sixth grade lol, and when I 'graduated' I got a pat on the back with a, "good job" from my parents and everything was normal. We moved houses just so my sister can have her own room, she wanted for so long, and now she doesn't use it. She sleeps on the couch by the T.V. or in my parents' room. The only thing in her room is her clothes. I call it the storage room lol. When my brother needs anything, my parents rush out the house to get that thing. When I need something, their response, "Why do you always ask for something" or (my favorite one) "Get a job". I get it, I'm jealous that my siblings are the ones that get all the attention, have love lives (My little sister is always getting asked out by some boy, it's pretty funny lol), do things outside of the house while I sit at home doing nothing. This is bad to say, but when my brother, especially when my sister gets bad grades, I feel good. Knowing that I'll come home and show my good grades. When I got my first C in Physics, I was in so much trouble, this was the highlight of the house for awhile. My sister have gotten C's in math in 4th and 5th grade. My parents would put her in math programs and made sure she would do better.</p>

<p>I'm sorry, I'm just venting. This was on my mind for awhile.</p>

<p>Only child right here. Only thing is, it does get lonely sometimes.</p>

<p>I’m the youngest of two and I can definitely say it has its perks. I got a phone, computer, car, and various other privileges/luxuries before my older sibling. I don’t have a curfew or any other restrictions because my mom has “loosened up”. My sibling can’t stand this. The only way my mom knew that this really bother my sibling is that they told my mom. You should speak to your parents if it really bugs you. If you want more support, tell them you want more support. If you want more attention, tell them you want more attention. They don’t know if you don’t tell them.</p>

<p>I tried talking with my mom, but she said that she doesn’t believe in special treatment and stuff like that. Maybe I’m crazy, but I’m going to let this thing pass and try not to think like this. I’ll talk to them tonight.</p>

<p>Yeah, you’ll have to let it pass. My mom says to both of us this: “There are times when I’m closer to her and there are times when I’m closer to you. This just means that at that moment your sister or you needs me more at the moment. I don’t love either one of you more than the other.” I understand that my sister has more situations dealing with my mom lately so I just do my own thing and let them do whatever they’re doing. Although I feel that my mom does play favorites :/</p>

<p>I am the middle child of 7. I’m lucky because my parents aren’t like that. We’re all treated pretty much equally or based on behavior.</p>

<p>I’m the second of 4, and obviosuly at times it feels as if I’m given less attention than my brothers, but when I think through it we all actually get similar overall. My oldest brother was an only child for three years, my youngest brother gets the most attention now because he’s the baby (he’s actually 10) the 2nd youngest gets a lot of time because he’s a sports prodigy, and I’m the only girl. Although the younger ones probably had a better childhood because my family had a lot more money when they had them, but they’re always in our shadow.</p>

<p>Maybe it really is the case that your parents aren’t treating you and your siblings equally, but at the same time you’re different people and shouldn’t be treated identically. Also things always seem unfair towards you, so have a think about whether your perception is accurate before going to your parents about it.</p>

<p>Apparently middle children are supposed to be more focused and hard working, so it’s not all bad :)</p>

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<p>lolwut. :o</p>

<p>Anyway, I’m the second of four. I get a lot less attention, especially because two of my siblings have serious special needs. I don’t mind, I like that I slip through the cracks and can mostly do what i want.</p>

<p>I think your parents expect more out of you and believe more in you that’s why they push you around . I’m a middle child too , I can relate :)</p>

<p>@alwaysleah Ah well, I wasn’t really paying attention.</p>