<p>So what do you think is the nicest/best way to break up with a girl?
She is great, and I really DO want to stay friends (if possible). We have been together for about 6 months. The problem is, for about the three weeks or so,I find myself seriously drawn to someone else.<br>
I want to try to cause as little hurt as possible.
Thanks ahead of time for your ideas.</p>
<p>When you break up with her, be nice and tell her why. Be as truthful as possible and make sure you don't bash her on anything. Hope this helps.</p>
<p>Thanks, CaplicoGirl.
I am concerned that if I am honest, and tell her that I am strongly attracted to someone else, that will hurt her. So, what do you think I should say?</p>
<p>Hmm. That's a tough choice. Because of the fact that you did fall for another girl, she will inevitably get hurt. The important thing here is the way you say it. As I said before, be honest about your feelings and what you think has lead to the current state of your relationship. Be prepared to hear her opinion, even if it's difficult. Then, go from there. As far as telling her about another girl being involved, I think it would be easier if you told her how you got to where you're feeling and then bringing in the topic of the other girl...</p>
<p>Also, I hope that you're SURE of this decision. It's very sad if you break up with a really good girl and the girl that you're currently drawn to right now doesn't return your feelings.</p>
<p>If she's so great, why split up?</p>
<p>OP, are you using your mom's CC account? Just wondering because of the username :P.</p>
<p>hee-hee,...uhhh..yeah.
Some of my classmates know me on the CC and I didn't want anyone to know about this before I talk with GF.</p>
<p>DON'T do this. Seriously. You won't remember everything you loved about her until a few months down the line and by then it will be too late. Even if the replacement girl falls in love with you you won't be able to return it, purely because you resent her for not being the person you want her to be. Your dreams will be haunted for years.</p>
<p>This is the voice of experience here.</p>
<p>^so he (OP) should only have one girlfriend his entire life?</p>
<p>Thanks, siglio21! That's just what I was thinking.</p>
<p>Break up with her, even if there wasn't another girl.</p>
<p>When you say you're strongly attracted to the other girl, what are we talking about here? You've known this one for 6 months, but how do you know the other girl? Are you positive that in 2-3 months, you will still be attracted to her? The girl you're with now will eventually see you with the other girl, so one way or another you'll have to let her know. But yeah definitely know for sure if you like the other girl long term.</p>
<p>Well, to be completely frank, girls DON'T want to hear that you are more attracted to other girls. The best way to do it is to tell her that you just feel that you;re not sure how you feel about the way things are going. Give it a couple weeks and then tell her you just have problems and you can't do the relationship. Wait for a few weeks and then go out with the other chick. This may seem somewhat brutal, but in the end, it is actually the safest route, and probably the one that will save her feelings (and your overall relationship with her) the most.</p>
<p>^that's what I would do...but OP should be careful if he does this, esp. if he isn't strongly attracted to the other girl (or if the other girl rejects him)</p>
<p>The guy is questioning already if he should stay with his current gf or not, that in and of itself is a sign that he should break up with her, no matter what the reason he would not want to stay with his gf would be. Tell her you aren't ready for a relationship or some other bs to make her feel good if you want to still be her friend, it doesn't really matter, but the longer you stay with her while not wanting to be in a relationship, its just wasting your time and hers.</p>
<p>Just honestly tell her that you like her a great deal --as a friend--, but don't want to be a couple anymore because you aren't ready for an exclusive relationship, and you want to date other girls. (This actually is truthful and reasonable as most high school students, and many college ones, aren't ready for exclusive relationships.)</p>
<p>Yes, that will hurt her, but any break-up would hurt her. If you don't tell her why, she'll keep torturing herself and probably you to find out what she did to cause the break-up.</p>
<p>Do not try to be just friends right after the break-up. It usually takes at least 6 months for the romantic feelings to wear off enough for the dumped person to be able to be just friends. Otherwise, if you keep seeing her as just a friend, she'll keep looking for signs that you'll get back together. </p>
<p>During the interim, don't do things like call her just to talk or to see how she's doing. All that will do is give her hope that you'll get back together with her.</p>
<p>Out of kindness to your ex, try to wait at least 2 weeks before dating the other girl.</p>
<p>text her saying "We should break up. Found nother grl"</p>
<p>quick and to the point, without any of the awkwardness of conversation!</p>
<p>Do NOT text -- that's awful!! Be a man and tell her face to face!</p>
<p>haha it was a joke!!!</p>
<p>the OP doesn't seem like the sort of guy who would be so heartless.</p>
<p>Hit on her mom..that way she breaks up with you.</p>