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<p>Hmm, well, I have never elected an expensive boarding school (for two reasons…wanting to bring our kids up at home but also could never afford it), but if I had done so, it would not be just to have “more opportunities.” It would be more for the learning environment and what the school offers that is a better fit for my kid. I would not see it as “more opportunities” so much but just DIFFERENT opportunities.</p>
<p>Also, at an elite boarding school, there is more “competition,” so to speak, for placement in high level classes, for for being chosen for a certain EC endeavor or having a leadership position, or for becoming a standout on campus. That’s OK but realize that is what you are dealing with. There are trade-offs to get the kind of environment at the boarding school to possibly being more of a standout back home at the public school and so on.</p>
<p>Here is a little example, albeit it is not boarding school, which I haven’t experienced first hand. My younger D is a talented singer/actor/dancer. At our local public schools, she has played the leads time after time. She was even the leads in the high school musicals and plays when still a middle school student. She went away every summer to a theater program out of state (costs a lot!) that draws kids nationally and internationally from the time she was 9. Many of the kids there were the standouts in their local communities back home, as she was. We had no idea how she’d fare given how much more competitive the talent pool was. She ended up faring very well for the 8 summers she attended and was leads many times and chosen for an elite troupe they have there starting her first year, but she wasn’t always a lead and knew the competition was WAY stiffer there than at home. She had to lower the expectations a bit. Fast forward to getting into specialized musical theater programs for college that accept anywhere from 2-8% who audition/apply, and then she was dealing with all the STANDOUTS from around the country. Very tough odds. She fared well but again, we were very nervous about making it in since the talent pool was very concentrated. Now, she is Equity and is up against the very very best when she attends an audition, for say, Broadway. This type of thing is how it goes in many fields and many EC areas.</p>
<p>Your post about how much it is costing reminds me of something from my D’s summer theater program (ages 8-18) which is very costly and a well known program with a national reputation. Every kid who attended was cast in a show (they put on 36 full scale productions every summer) and so every kid got to participate. But they also have an elite “cabaret troupe” by audition which selects the top kids, so to speak, in musical theater, usually ranging from 13-18 roughly. This troupe is at a very high level and was taken off campus to perform in resort nightclub venues to the public. My D was fortunate to make it into this troupe at age 9 which was rare. The experience of that group was a highlight of her summers (the level of the kids in it was very high and many go onto top colleges in the field and many are now on Broadway, national tours and the like). But every year, there were parents who complained that their kids did not make it into this cabaret and they were paying a lot of money for their kid to attend. I don’t get it as in every situation for this age group, there are “varsity teams” and not everyone can make it in! Granted it is easy for me to say since my kid was selected from day one at a young age and in this troupe every summer, I realize. But every kid who attended the program was in a show, but certain kids were selected basically for this additional show. The complaints went on and on. Since my D “graduated” that program (she is now 21), they have made a change. They still have the select cabaret troupe by audition, but they no longer take that group to perform off campus at resort nightclubs, which had been a big deal when they had done so. Now, they just perform for the other kids and for parents. I think it is too bad and I don’t get the concept that every kid should be chosen for everything. It’s life. Not everyone makes it in. This is good to know before your kid applies to elite colleges where terrific kids are denied admission.</p>