<p>You are talking In circles. Must be a slow stock market day.</p>
<p>BTW, son didn’t have to do any legwork to get his job. A former classmate gave his name to another former student at his school and got him in for a contract to hire position.</p>
<p>Gee, thats funny. Didn’t you chronicle his long, protracted and difficult job search in this thread? <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1125494-son-about-graduate-no-job-offer-yet.html?[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1125494-son-about-graduate-no-job-offer-yet.html?</a></p>
<p>Yes, I did. In fact he had the great GPA, did the job hunting, went on many interviews while working a part-time job and through really rough labs and didn’t come up with anything though he did come very close. After spending some time in grad school, he got a job through his network.</p>
<p>All of the efforts in looking for a job in his senior year through conventional means didn’t amount to anything. So doing all of the right things can result in a lot of effort with no tangible results.</p>
<p>So I guess based on his experience you are advocating that students shouldnt look for jobs while they are in school? :rolleyes: No need to answer- rhetorical question</p>
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<p>Please review the original topic.</p>
<p>Sorry bc. Can’t play your game any more today. Have a deadline. Maybe someone else will.</p>
<p>Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time.</p>
<p>Your circular jousting has nothing to do with the OP’s question, BC, which was “What would you do if your child moved back home after college and was not looking for a job?”
Feel free to get the last word in, and maybe someone else will bite.</p>
<p>Careful now, you better watch your deadline.</p>
<p>Have a boomerang kid (May 2011 grad) currently at home and know many that are home due to circumstances, not desire. We live in the suburbs of a very expensive city and in some ways it makes sense for kids to live at home and save money early in their careers. Others just can’t get jobs (especially kids with marketing or general buisness degrees). Between car payments, students loans, commuting and other job-related expenses, it is hard to make enough in many first jobs to get an apartment, even with roommates. I know two older kids, who have worked for several years and lived out of the house, that just moved back home to save money prior to their weddings. </p>
<p>There are some kids that are “spoiled” and don’t want to share or to live in a less desirable area. There are others, however, that are practical and are saving money for graduate school or even to buy a home. IMHO, there is nothing wrong with kids coming home for a couple of years to build up a nest egg. </p>
<p>My kids did not have cars handed to them. My kids don’t have a lot of savings because they had to use their money for college and pay their own expenses (beyond tuition and room and board) and my oldest has a student loan. He is working, some weeks full and others part time, in his field but not making a lot of money. He would be hard pressed to live in an apartment, even with other people, and afford it, let alone buy a car, pay for health insurance and save for grad school. I know other kids that had to take unpaid or very low paying internships. I also know a kid that is living at home for law school, because he is borrowing almost all of the cost and it certainly makes sense to reduce his expenses. </p>
<p>I did not move home after college, nor did my husband. I lived with one roommate and we had a very nice apartment that was affordable on my very measly salary. That would be impossible today. I had fully paid health insurance through my job and a very small repayment for a subsidized student loan. </p>
<p>I was not interested in movnig back home. I went back to grad school after a few years and finished grad school with no debt (tuition was paid) but with almost no savings. My husband graduated with student loans. When we got married we had to do a pre-cana weekend and most of the other young couples were moving from their parents homes to their married homes. Most had saved enough to buy a nice house and take nice trips. We were not in that position. While I would not trade the time I spent living in the city, it certainly made me realize that if I had lived at home and worked, my financial picture would have been brighter. </p>
<p>While I want my kids off my payroll and out of the house, I would not kick them out right after college. While it is kind of nice having him home (when working), I still feel like he is missing something and look forward (for him) to move out and really launching his own life.</p>
<p>One of our kiddos is happy in his 2nd new condo since he moved out there in June (the 1st had someone smoking in the building which caused him to wheeze). Our other kiddo will be graduating this spring and then we will see what she’s able to figure out. She is much less of a planner than her brother but will try to stay in LA, where the field she’s in (cinema) has many more opportunities than here in HI. Am keeping my fingers crossed for her than things work out. So far, she’s been pretty good at having things work out as she wants & needs them to, overcoming great odds. We’re hoping she will continue to do so.</p>
<p>Both of our kids know they will always have a home with us.</p>
<p>Our '10 grad never came home after graduation as she got a job and stayed in her OOS apartment and is now married and bought a house . Our '13 grad will probably come home after graduation as she will be attending grad school locally. She could decide on an apartment but she would pay for it on her own as she has a good part time job while attending school full time. Our girls are always welcome here and yes, they do like being with us! ;)</p>
<p>I’m not expecting either kid to move back home but I would not consider it a problem if they did. I think Starbright is completely on target. Lots of Americans kids wouldn’t behave as adults (e.g., wash the dishes, cooked, do laundry, take responsibility for fixing things or making them better, etc.) if they moved back home. Lots of American parents wouldn’t treat their kids as adults (“my house, my rules” – as one poster here and several posters in another thread wrote – seems to imply that the kids wouldn’t be treated as full adults). If my kids were going to move back, I’d have a conversation with them about a) being an adult; and b) being treated like an adult. [I actually have a similar (but obviously different) conversation with some of my younger employees.] </p>
<p>I’m pretty confident that both kids would be aggressive about pursuing employment. But, the proof of the pudding is in the eating and the pudding is still in the oven at the moment.</p>
<p>Interestingly, my freshman daughter has started to look for an apartment rather than live in a dorm next year. She wants to do so because a) it will be less expensive to live in an apartment; and b) she wants to eat healthy food. I’ve had to encourage her to think about paying more (I’m paying) because she was going to look in a pretty unsafe area. She expects to have a couple of roommates. This is not really indicative of the spoiled behavior that some of the posters see in others’ kids (and maybe their kids too). I’m not so worried about that outcome.</p>
<p>Like romanigypsyeyes and HImom’s kids, my kids know that they will always have a place if they need it and that I will always have their backs.</p>
<p>“I earned so little when I started out I would go to Happy Hours at the bars that had free food along with your drink … and that was dinner.”</p>
<p>me too! LOL</p>
<p>I moved home to my parent’s house after graduation for about 5 months. I took care of my niece for part of that time, took a class to improve some business skills, and worked part-time while I figured out my next move.
Then I moved back across the country and moved in with a friend and her sister, studied for grad school entrance exam, worked part-time in a bar and finally landed a full-time job. I was very lucky to have the chance to stay with my parents for a while, and very lucky that my friend’s mother was our landlady and our rent was very cheap. I could not have survived, and saved up for grad school without the cheap rent, the OT hours at work and the happy hours!</p>
<p>If my kids want to move home after they graduate, I’m all for it, as long as I still have room for them. But I expect that they will be working - if not in their careers at least part time doing something else while they look. They’ll both graduate with student loans and if I can help them by giving them a place to live for a while so that they can pay down that debt, it makes sense to me.</p>
<p>Fairly positive article on Boomerang Kids.</p>
<p>[‘Boomerang</a> generation’ upbeat about living with parents](<a href=“'Boomerang generation' upbeat about living with parents”>'Boomerang generation' upbeat about living with parents)</p>
<p>LOL, the first thing I did when I was that you revived this thread was check the stock market!! Up 44 points right now.</p>