<p>I'm in a situation like this. He's a year older than me, but we practically live together already (he's here from sunup til midnight if he isn't spending the night). He's moving with me (when I go to college because he isn't going to go to college), but we've already decided that he's gonna have an apartment and I'm gonna live on campus for the first year. It'll be hard, but I also want some of the "traditional college experience". </p>
<p>Maybe you guys can do something like this? I hope it works out for you.</p>
<p>While I usually hate his posts, chuy got it right. You're only seventeen. Don't even try to tell me you know what you want. High schoolers are so foolish to think that their "relationships" are as relevant as they believe. You should focus on YOUR future...not the future of your so-called "relationship." Might I add, a seventeen year old has absolutely no business living with a member of the opposite sex who isn't a relative.</p>
<p>Im going into college with a girlfriend of 2 1/2 years and we're not going to the same college, i think its better that way, we both agreed its better to get the true college experience, you only live once.</p>
<p>Your willing to go get a marriage lisence at 17??? All my friends who got married/engaged b4 20 have since divorced/disengaged(?). Thats crazy girl. Come on now.</p>
<p>My previous post stated that I'm not serious about that, plus I'm turning 18 soon. : P Anyway, it doesn't really matter, I've worked the problem out.</p>
<p>By 18 years old you should damn well be an adult, independent (or at least trying to be, it seems like every CCer on here has their parents paying for college), paying your own bills, and taking care of yourself. </p>
<p>I know that's not the case for CC, but before I ever came here, that was the general perception of being 18. It seems like everyone here is really smart but adulthood comes a bit later for them.</p>
<p>18 is when you are legally independent of your parents, but it doesn't mean you should instantly stop listening to them.
The whole separating from your parents at 18 (or 22..or 27) is a cultural thing.
In ancient times, people in what is now the middle east were married at 13-17 years of age... on the other hand, in most cultures pushing your parents aside was socially taboo and if you were disrespectful to your father, he could have you simply put to death.
Only in the good ol' U.S.A. (and in modern times it's spread somewhat globally) do we have such an emphasis on rebelling against our parents' values, beliefs, etc.... just because our parents say something isn't good for us, doesn't mean we should go running for it, does it?</p>
<p>If your parents do think a relationship with someone is a good idea, you should at least consider what they're saying as a caution -- they <em>have</em> had more experience in that area than you have!</p>
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18 is when you are legally independent of your parents, but it doesn't mean you should instantly stop listening to them.
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ITA with you.
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By 18 years old you should damn well be an adult, independent (or at least trying to be, it seems like every CCer on here has their parents paying for college), paying your own bills, and taking care of yourself.</p>
<p>I know that's not the case for CC, but before I ever came here, that was the general perception of being 18. It seems like everyone here is really smart but adulthood comes a bit later for them.
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If you think adulthood just means paying bills, you are sadly mistaken.</p>
<p>Well since you know everything about adulthood, why don't you tell me?</p>
<p>Obviously you should be able to take care of yourself, hold a job, act maturely, etc. but taht should have been developed long before 18 years old. </p>
<p>I'll agree it's a cultural thing. I'm Latino, and most of the Latinos that I know (not the whitewashed ones) leave the house at 17 - 18 years old, usually senior year or right after it. </p>
<p>By 18, you should be an adult in my culture, but apparently not in America's culture. And yes, you always respect your parents. Our culture usually dictates that we take in our parents when they are older and take care of them as they did for us. </p>
<p>But you don't go to mommy and daddy for money at that point.</p>
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Well since you know everything about adulthood, why don't you tell me?
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When did I say I "know everything about adulthood?" I was simply stating that financial independence does not make you an adult. I don't care if a Latino boy or girl leaves his or her home and gets a job. I'm not going to call him or her an adult. If you think s/he's an adult that's your opinion, I suppose. Someone who is receiving $$$ from "mommy and daddy" can be more "adult" than someone who isn't.</p>
<p>Acc. to your old posts, you're only a sophomore in HS. Grow up a little before you post on here again. Your post in the freshman thread on the HS life board was absolutely nauseating. You clearly think you're special because you're one year older than them. :rolleyes:</p>