<p>Yeah JGMTgun, I kinda see why you wouldn't want to get into a relationship any time soon. You're probably VERY busy. If you're a senior, I wouldn't blame you! Part of the reason why I'm not actually "on the prowl" is b/c I'm simply too busy to seek a relationship (of course I'll always yearn for one). You're right, I'll wait for college. Hopefully, if I get into Harvard, I'll be able to find some sincere guys (or wherever I end up going).
Thanks for your advice! You know what, it's funny, b/c several girls I know (ranging from 9th - 12th grade) like me, and want me to get into serious relationships. How do I get them off my back? 1st of all, I'm gay and I'm not looking for a g/f. How do I tell them to back off in a nice way w/o revealing that I'm gay.
I tried it w/ one of them today actually. I told her that I'm too busy. Then she thought that was a ridiculous excuse, so I added, that I wouldn't think it fair to commit myself to a relationship in which I wouldn't be able to devote the time I'd like for the "girl." She really thought my answer was sweet, genuine, and sincere. It doesn't work w/ all girls. What can I say? Please help! Thanks!</p>
<p>You should be as honest as possible I guess. I know you don't want to reveal that your gay, so you can't exactly be too forward with them. However, you should just tell them you don't like them like that. It is fair for you to not have feelings for a person right? And don't worry about turning so many girls down that people get suspicious, I turned every girl down from 6th to 8th grade, and everyone just thought I was really picky, which... I was/am. They'll probably think the same of you. Just be nice when you do it. If you are sweet, genuine, and sincere then the girls will be fine.</p>
<p>APDoolittle, If it gets very bad, you can tell those girls that you already have a g/f (if you dont want to reveal that you are gay). But I would advise against this because a lie can always turn against you. If a girl doesn't respect your decision to not want a "relationship", then just tell her that you are not interested in her. It may sound mean at first, but I can't imagine a scenario where a girl won't catch your hints earlier on.</p>
<p>Hmmm.... thanks gunner and Lily. There is one particular girl who's really clingy (in SUCH an annoying way). I know she means well....she's head over heels crazy over me (as conceited as that may make me sound :D ) So, I don't know how to make her get the hint. I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings by blatantly saying I am not interested in her. That's my problem - I'm too nice! I appreciate everyone's advice. Keep it coming! :)</p>
<p>i've never had any kind of a bf gf relationship with anyone....which is sad, because i had so many crushes on so many guys. i never can say it. that's why boys are weird. they get you like that.</p>
<p>Well, as a guy, I'm here for you if you need advice. SOME of us aren't as weird as you think. If you get to know us, we're actually really nice and somewhat sensitive people. Don't knock boys so quickly Scholarship.</p>
<p>umm jon is a rather popular name and some ppl here arent so paranoid about the whole confidentiallity thing.. in fact my name, first and last, is all over the place on cc</p>
<p>Yes. Do this:
1. Pull her aside (whether it be at lunch or after school, w/e)
2.Tell her that you appreciate the fact that she likes you, and tell her that you think she is a nice girl (whether she is or isn't)
3. Then tell her that you are not ready to be in a relationship (make it serious)
4. Then tell her that you didn't want to hurt her (hmm..most girls like that)(also make it serious)
5. Then give her a hug or something and ask if she understands(make this serious too)
6. Hopefully, she will, if she doesn't, then I dont see how else you can get rid of her :p</p>
<p>^ i think i understand how jon will feel, but if i was the girl i would pretend i don't know what he was talking about and laugh it off....and go home crying :p</p>
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<p>Speaking from past eperiences and from all the other girls I speak with, its not entirely the boy we cry about. Sure, we cry about the boy, how much we miss/want him (w/e), but then we cry about how dumb we were, then we cry about crying about the above, and then we cry because sometimes its just hard to stop. (sounds dumb but if you think about it, its is kind of true). Of course, this isn't the case with every girl, but I'm thinking it is for the majority of high-school girls.</p>
<p>the boys and girls that make us cry are the ones we have the most passionate relationships about, i think a moments worth of true happiness is well worth ten times that in sadness.... if they arent worth crying over then chances are their not worth the time</p>