Yes I agree @doschicos ! That’s what I’ve been saying to her, and she probably will. But now that we’ve established the no-ED route, I’m leaving the rest of it up to her & the Cate CC (who is fantastic and has been VERY patient with me!) I’m quite risk-averse, so this has been a challenge to my psyche!!! She really has taken complete ownership of this process so will “own” the results as well, whatever they may be.
Speaking of which, have you all read today’s NYT article about teenage anxiety? I’ll post it separately but it’s worth a read.
@GMC2918 Take comfort in the fact that a list crafted of reaches, matches, and safeties will result in choices come April 1st. Of course, first choice might not pan out but your child will have good options available to them and places where they will be happy and learning.
My 19-year-old-daughter is struggling with anxiety, and it perplexes me, to be honest. Any kind of choice stresses her - “OMG, I don’t know which dessert to pick!” She’s on medication and sees a counselor weekly, but I worry for her. So I guess I’m developing anxiety about her anxiety! Sigh.
@MaineLonghorn In our time and culture, we tend to think that more choices and opportunities make life better, but really, an excess of choices often makes life unnecessarily complicated and provokes anxiety.
I don’t know if this is helpful, but we use coin tosses for low-stakes decisions around here. Don’t know whether to order strawberry or salted caramel? Flip a coin. Red shirt or green shirt? Crest or Colgate? Flip a coin. If a decision does not have huge consequences, we try not to dwell on it. YMMV, but we’ve found it helpful with the kids.
Just be prepared for a roller coaster in March. In many ways it was better when college acceptances came in the mail - you check the mailbox once a day and most came in a few day period. The entire month of March was waiting for decisions - very up and down and craziness - waiting to hear from all (and some drag out until March 30/31) to decide about revisits. Good luck to everyone.
Us too! YAY @twinsmama !! We got our rolling admissions safety school admission today too! And they gave him a $19,000 scholarship. As DS said, “Even though it is his safety, it removes a small layer of stress.” And, the nice thing, is that even though it is his safety, he really liked it when we visited and can envision himself happy there, if the worst happens and none of the other schools come through. Pizza’s on us this weekend for the dorm guys.
