<p>My son got into his first choice school which was very exciting and gratifying and I am so happy for him.</p>
<p>But I admit I felt a twinge because there is this other school that I like better. It's ridiculous, I know. He knows I like it better and has always been clear that he didn't. It's kind of a joke between us, because I just love the campus and the town and it feels right...to me.</p>
<p>Anyways, obviously he will go to the right place for him and it's going to be great.</p>
<p>But has anyone experienced that sort of bizarre disappointment because they really like a school and their kid just....doesn't.</p>
<p>I’m in a similar position. I don’t love ds2’s no. 1. I’m sure he’ll do we’ll there, but I didn’t feel the love for it like I did ds1’s school. I don’t have another school in mind that I’d prefer for him; I just didn’t love the one he did.</p>
<p>I had a favorite school that I convinced both kids to apply to and they were both accepted. I could see each of them attending and it fitting either of them quite well. </p>
<p>The closest it came for either of them was runner-up for S. Sigh, if only I were going off to college I know where I would apply.</p>
<p>@Sports246, Luckily, I have really liked both my son’s choices of girlfriends so far, although I admit I am always suggesting this one girl to my son because she is so nice and cute and he just rolls his eyes! They generally think I take their girlfriend’s “side” anyways.</p>
<p>My boys are not swayed by my opinions in love or college apparently! They understand that I don’t really care, so it’s all in fun.</p>
<p>I think my D had 2 other schools that would have been better for her overall than the school she picked. She will be fine wherever she goes, and that is what is important in the end.</p>
<p>When DD1 and I were looking at schools I was entranced by one - the architecture, the faculty discussions they scheduled, everything. I wanted to go back in time to attend the school. On the way to the dining hall for lunch she told me “I will never go here. Can we leave now?” I was disappointed but got over it.</p>
<p>This seems to happen a lot. A friend of mine told me that when they visited MIT it was clear that her H would LOVE to go there. Her S, not so much. :)</p>
<p>I was a little disappointed that my daughter didn’t love on of the schools she and I toured. But in the long run, she was better off being at the school she chose. And I also love that she is living in the city she attended school in since my other daughter is there and it is also close to my extended family</p>
<p>I just felt like such a funny reaction for me, because I never expected I would feel like I had a stake in anything but his complete happiness! I am glad my son is clear that I want the school because (not so secretly) I want to go there. </p>
<p>His choice is amazing and fantastic and gorgeous. It was a vibe thing for me…maybe it is just more nostalgia than anything because the school I love reminds me very much of the college town/university where I grew up.</p>
<p>I was a little disappointed when S1 got a scholarship that could have taken him to many different schools nationwide but he chose to go to our big state u. He refused to even visit other schools. I had so many college possibilities (gleaned from CC) that I was sure would be great for him but he just wasn’t interested. His mind was made up. </p>
<p>It all worked out for the best. He got a fullride at big state u.,his friends were there, had a LOT of fun, graduated w/ honors and now has a good job that he loves.</p>
<p>OP, I had the exact same feelings — twice. In my field, the University of Chicago has produced the most Nobel prize winners while MIT is traditionally considered the top graduate department. Needless to say, I would have been thrilled if our kids had gone to either institution. D1’s BC calculus teacher was a U of C grad and he impressed her enough that she applied. She went to the accepted student days but decided to go elsewhere. D2 was recruited to play her sport at MIT. She visited, met the coach, iiked the campus, but also decided to go elsewhere. It is abundantly clear in hindsight that each made the correct choice for her.</p>
<p>I felt this too, only it’s with my sister’s college process! I found a school I thought was absolutely perfect for her and while excited at first, she sort of forgot about the school. I still maintain that it’s a good option for her but ultimately, it is her decision.</p>
<p>@Coase: The school my son is going to is Chicago. I liked Northwestern :D</p>
<p>Do you think it would be weird if I just MOVED to Evanston? It’s not to stalk him…maybe I could take a couple classes and hang out in the cafes. </p>
<p>If he wants to meet up at Yolk for coffee and pancakes every once in awhile–> even better.</p>
<p>Okay, Jamiecakes, you’ve just lost all my sympathy! I think the world is divided into people who love Northwestern and people who love the U of C. I’m a U of C person, all the way. (BTW, my S, chose Dartmouth over the U of C, which stunned just about everyone, since he seemed like a quintessential U of C kid. You just never know.)</p>
<p>How funny, my S is at Northwestern, which is a really great fit for him in the end. I liked the small LAC close to home, which were two strikes against it in his book.</p>
<p>I was hoping, after this long winter, that D would pick one of her sunny west coast schools. She decided to do the opposite, cold, northeast, large urban school. Oh well.</p>
They understand that I don’t really care, so it’s all in fun.</p>
It’s not to stalk him…maybe I could take a couple classes and hang out in the cafes. </p>