Can I recover from this mistake?

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<p>So there is this girl in my poli sci class with whom I always talk after class, when I see her in the library, and we see each other around campus all the time. When we talk, she goes on about random things or regular things and I always listen to everything she says and she thinks I'm interested. She initiates conversation with me recently, after I did so with her in the beginning. She appears to be being flirty. But I didn't get into a position I felt which I could ask for her number in a smooth way, so I didn't. So I decided tonight to ask her to go to dinner with me, but I sent her a facebook message. I got turned down, tho she claimed she had a class at 6:30 (when I wanted to eat with her) and at the end of the message, she said "maybe tomorrow." </p>

<p>I'm scared I may have blown my first opportunity to get a girlfriend or at least a female friend because I asked her out on facebook. She is REALLY cute too, and she's my major which means we have a lot in common. How can I recover when I see her again, either around on campus or in class on Friday? I KNOW one is not supposed to ask out on facebook but I really wanted to be with her and didn't have any other way of getting in contact. She wan't even on Facebook chat, which I may have used at least to get her number to call to ask her out by phone.</p>

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<p>Don’t freak; it’s not a big deal. Simply reply to the message with “Oh, okay, that sounds great.” And give her your number. If she texts/calls you tomorrow asking for that raincheck, then you know she’s interested and all is good. Don’t be the one to ask her again tomorrow though. You’ll come off as pushy or desperate.</p>

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<p>^^ That sounds good to me. I wouldn’t have suggested tomorrow if I didn’t mean it.</p>

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<p>You are acting way too desperate. The key is not worrying or caring (or seeming to care) about the outcome of conversations. Also, facebook is a weak way to ask someone out, just ask her in person. Use real interactions first, don’t rely on a crutch of technology. Next time just say, do you wanna grap coffee/lunch/dinner sometime. If she wants to see you and you give her some opportunities, SHE WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN. Otherwise, her loss.</p>

<p>You’ll be fine, just don’t put her up on a pedestal.</p>

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<p>Yeah ask her in person, it’s harder to say no anyhoo I think in person.</p>