I think your school has done very well by you so far.
When they put you into the lowest track in ninth grade, you managed a GPA below a B average for that year - with support. After your having effectively failed two grades in your prior school, what else were they supposed to do? In a higher track, you might have failed out again.
10th grade, you managed an A average - with support. Great, so they put you in honours classes for 11th grade. And you managed a A average, again with support. (Was it all honours btw? Or just a few classes?
That might explain why they felt you needed a mix of honours and one AP as opposed to more APs for senior year, especially as your learning support will go away.
I understand that they offered you a chance to skip into a higher math track by talking precalc over the summer - which I assume would have meant AP calc AB. You didn’t take it.
You also needed quite a lot of persuasion to consider taking an ACT test in two months - you initially balked because you would have had to work hard and weren’t sure about the outcome.
Two opportunities for “show, not tell” and you balked. With your history, it’s understandable, but it means you need to take a good long hard look at yourself.
How many of your peers applying to top 20 schools do you think will be applying with that mindset? How many of them do you think will be saying “I want this, but I don’t want to work extra hard or take a risk”?
You think your school, that you pay so much to (you? Really?) has an obligation to support you in your application to super reaches. Guess what - they are not in the risk taking business either. They have a stake here. They know their risk free candidates they can recommend and you are not one of them.
And guess what - the top 20 are not in the risk taking business either.
You can say it’s unfair that you are the only one required to take risks here, but you are aspiring to move into shark infested waters.
Being full pay, you have a great chance at an excellent ED outcome at schools that are need aware, do not expect calc AB und like your literary spike. Are you going to throw away your shot?