Can't decide between Rice + Wesleyan!

<p>I fell in love with Rice and was so sure that I was destined to be there. I also loved it when I visited, but I also felt like something was missing.</p>

<p>I'm a very right-brained, creative, artsy person and I'd like to major in psychology and graphic design. I love fashion and I like to dress up a bit. Sometimes I get a few looks from my fellow homogenous prep school friends, and I want to break free from the social mold. I love vintage, 80s movies, classic rock music. My ideal guy would be cute, quirky, silly, and not afraid to dress a little weird. I love to talk intellectually and philosophize. I DO NOT drink or do drugs due to personal reasons. What I love about Rice is the residential college system because I feel like it is a built-in family. However, I am worried that being surrounded by engineers and science and math majors will get overwhelming. And to be honest, I want to date a bit in college too.</p>

<p>Right now I'm leaning towards Wesleyan based on my preferences. However, there are so many things that Rice has and Wesleyan doesn't have: residential college system is a big one, but drug use is not very apparent at all at Rice and I've heard that the people are friendlier. I don't know which one to choose!</p>

<p>My S (engineering major) is good friends with a philosophy major. His suitemate is in the orchestra (and majoring in music). One of the things that appealed to my S about Rice is the opportunity to explore his right brain. He chose Rice over a very well known left brained school. </p>

<p>My S does not drink or do drugs and he finds plenty to do and fun to have without those things. </p>

<p>I couldn’t tell you anything about Weslyan, which I think in and of itself says alot. </p>

<p>Apply to both, get your FA offers and sit down and really think about where you want to be, not only over the next 4 years, but “down the road” too.</p>

<p>I applied to both Wesleyan and Rice. I didn’t receive a good aid package from Wesleyan and thus couldn’t seriously consider the school, but from what I remember from my research the drinking scene at the two schools is very similar, but the drug scene at Wesleyan is a good bit more prevalent.</p>

<p>I’m not saying that’s bad or anything, but if you don’t do drugs or drink that might be a factor. And I can’t say any more than those generalizations–Wesleyan students might be some of the friendliest, least pressuring students around so you could go there and never be pressured to do drugs, for all I know. That’s the thing, I simply don’t know.</p>

<p>What I can speak to, though, is that alcohol is a large part of campus life at Rice, but it is most certainly not the only part. I know a ton of people who don’t drink at all yet still go to parties, etc. and it’s completely fine. No pressure from anyone to do something you’re not comfortable with. I also know people who don’t go to parties and still have a great social life.</p>

<p>In fact, just last night two of the colleges on campus hosted a bonding event which had milk and cookies, a root beer keg, etc. All non-alcoholic drinks and a ton of food. I couldn’t make it, but a ton of people went and had a good time.</p>

<p>As far as the social scene in general goes, if you are a creative, artsy person that’s completely fine and completely acceptable here. The thing about Rice and the residential college system is that it is set up specifically so that everyone is accepted and welcomed. You can be yourself, no matter how quirky, nerdy, artsy, etc. and it’s completely fine. Out of my core friend group, I would say about half are in science/engineering, and half are in social sciences/humanities. I’m in the social sciences myself.</p>

<p>And about dating in college, not sure why you think that doesn’t happen at Rice. Although it’s a bit more common to see people in relationships or simply hooking up, casual dating definitely happens and is definitely feasible. One of my best friends takes girls on dates–well, he did until he decided to get into a relationship with one. Another of my friends takes girls on dates all the time. In fact, I would say that although casual dating is not as common at Rice (though it definitely happens!), people at Rice are just as preoccupied with relations with members of the preferred sex as people at any other school.</p>

<p>In sum: you can be perfectly artsy, want to date, and not be overwhelmed by drugs/alcohol or science/engineering majors at Rice. Although alcohol is a part of campus life and there are a lot of S/E majors, that isn’t all there is. Take it as you will. I can’t speak for Wesleyan though, unfortunately. It’s a great school in and of itself so whenever you make a choice, just don’t look back. Hope this helps!</p>