Caught cheating with a friend in Calculus, he's still in NHS and I wasn't accepted..

<p>So my friend and I got caught cheating on a calculus test back in first semester. It was a stupid decision and we decided to check our answer to a tricky question.. He and I both got detentions for the cheating incident. I'm a sophomore and he's a junior. He was already in NHS when we got caught cheating, and I still hadn't had a chance to apply. So I applied several weeks ago and while everyone around me received acceptance letters, mine never came. I was clearly rejected. Yet, my friend is still in NHS despite what has happened. I find this situation to be unsettling and unfair. </p>

<p>How can the administration waive his detentions and keep him in NHS while rejecting me for only that reason? I don't know what to do. I don't t want to go and complain yet I find it really unfair. NHS has been a dream of mine to be in ever since elementary school and to have it stripped away due to a momentary, stupid decision is really cruel. At the least, I thought he would get kicked out too, and while that sounds horrible to say, it's what is FAIR. </p>

<p>I know I would've been accepted to NHS if not for the cheating incident. There's no question about that. I just need some guidance on what I should do and how to handle this situation. Thank you!</p>

<p>A. Don’t do anything. Maybe see if you can re-apply next year?
B. Fight to get your friend kicked out of NHS. Figure out a way to do it behind his back or you’ll lose a friend. </p>

<p>NHS isn’t that big a deal, in my opinion. At my high school, we have to go to the Cram Jam (a midterm tutoring thing), tutor underclassmen, do ten hours of community service a semester, and attend the end-of-year picnic. I didn’t get in until my junior year because I was having some medical problems and didn’t apply my freshman year. Do most colleges even give NHS a second glance? Probably not. Do community service, tutor independently, or get a student leadership position in Student Council or something; it will look better.</p>

<p>I understand how you feel. It can be really frustrating to watch others cheat and still get ahead or to be punished unfairly for something. And seeking justice isn’t wrong, unless you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, and I think you are. Maybe wait a few more days and think about it, and if you’re still sure you won’t feel bad about hurting your friend, go for it.</p>

<p>OP,</p>

<p>what is your proof that the cheating is the only reason?</p>

<p>That being said, I think the school should be embarrassed for having any cheaters in the NHS.</p>

<p>As long as it did not go on your record or ruin other chances, such as scholarships or college admissions, it should be fine. I rejected my NHS Invitation because I would rather use my time to volunteer at a hospital or somewhere more meaningful than clean up beaches and our school campus. To top colleges, NHS makes no difference because it’s given that all applicants can qualify for it. There is no reason not having membership in NHS will hurt you as long as your transcript shows that you have the academic capabilities to join and your hours show that you are just as involved and active.</p>

<p>Do not stress over this, please. I did for my entire sophomore year because all my peers did not reject the invitation and would cringe every time I hear someone else mention NHS. But now, I couldn’t care less because I know it will have 0 impact on college decisions.</p>

<p>There are lots bigger injustices in the world than this one.</p>

<p>I don’t mean to suggest that what you describe is fair–only to suggest that membership in NHS is of virtually no importance, so you haven’t been seriously harmed.</p>