<p>I used to lurk a while ago (this new site design hurts my eyes too much), and I remembered your name, but sadly I never signed up. </p>
<p>Maybe I should give it another try.</p>
<p>Good luck, though!</p>
<p>I learned about this site from my kids, but both of them avoided it like the plague. Whatever they were feeling before they signed on, they left feeling more panicked and more inadequate about themselves. So . . . I know it's hard this weekend, but try to maintain some perspective. For an outsider, it's heartbreaking to read all these posts by smart, caring, interesting students, and know that only a few of them are going to get their immediate wish. And really, truly, it's not because there's anything at all wrong with the ones who don't get accepted, it's 100% because Yale doesn't have enough beds or classroom space for all of you.</p>
<p>My wife and I both went to Yale and loved loved loved it -- we just couldn't have loved it more, and we are actually completely different types of people. We never would have become friends, much less partners, but for the Yale Residential College system. Our children were raised to go to Yale. Both of them were ultimately turned down there, despite numbers and records that put them in the mix. But both have had a great experience elsewhere -- one that is a lot more similar to what I went through at Yale decades ago than I expected. The differences are truly minimal, and they aren't all in Yale's favor. My kids don't care at all that they don't go to Yale. The only people who are still sad about it are their parents, because it has really lessened our emotional commitment to Yale (ended it, in my wife's case), and that feels like a loss.</p>
<p>Hahh that's true.</p>