<p>So I am moving in to college on september 1 and my parents are asking me if it is really necessary for them to come and help me move in because they don't want to miss work and because they don't want to spend any money. They are basically planning on buying me a plane ticket and telling me goodbye. Of course I don't mind, but I want to know if it is recommended to bring your parents with you when you move in? and why?</p>
<p>Are you 18 years old? or older? I guess it would be a bit different for a freshman but I moved to NYC on Aug 1st by myself. I didn’t know anyone here and actually got stuck outside of my apartment building with 3 big suitcases for 45 mins because my landlord left all the keys inside my apartment. 't was a lot of work by myself but now I feel like I’m at home. It definitely helps having parents come along but if it will cause them problems and take money that they need, then it’s best to move on your own.</p>
<p>no Im 17 and I’m moving to Boston</p>
<p>Grow a pair and man up. You don’t need mommy and daddy to tag along with you everywhere. Let them work. After all, THEY are paying for YOUR education.</p>
<p>If you are flying to college I don’t see anything wrong with parents dropping their kids at the airport and I have seen it a lot from friends.</p>
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<p>I have to agree that a pair needs to be grown. When I was 18, I went off to the Army all by myself. Now , when I studied in the Philippines, Filipinos could not comprehend that. Many of then had BIG trouble (crying) being away from home. Infact, age 18 here is like age 30 there. When I told of being stationed overseas, they thought my parents came with me!</p>
<p>BTW. If you join Army Boot camp, parents are not allowed-- anywhere.</p>
<p>I think there’s nothing wrong with it, though I can understand that you might want to have your parents there. I don’t know, it’s kind of like a rite of passage, having your parents help you move in. In my opinion, anyways. I don’t think it’s so terrible if they can’t get off work though. It sucks, but it is what it is. You’ll be okay.</p>
<p>I guess some people who posted in here aren’t really close with their family. I’m close with my family and don’t think I’m too cool for them. Personally I’d love it if they were there to help me move-in. I wouldn’t expect them to hold my hand or anything but I’d like sharing that experience and then they could be on their way. Plus it would give them peace of mind. </p>
<p>It sucks that your family aren’t too bothered to at least help you out with moving in, but oh well it seems they aren’t too bothered.</p>
<p>Well you have it hard…my parents just said “Your 18 now, get out of my house” but yeah you have it rough…</p>
<p>Meh, my parents said they’ll go with me when I leave next year, but I doubt both of them will.</p>
<p>My mother joined the army and moved to Korea when she was 18. She feels that if she can do that, I can go to college elsewhere by myself too.</p>
<p>Joining the service is by far easier. Your without your parents but your basically shepherded everywhere you need to go, told exactly what you need to do, all by someone who has already been through what you’re going though.
Way harder to be given a plane ticket and sent out on your way and have to figure it all out by yourself.</p>
<p>Anywhoo, to all the ‘grow a pair’ folks above me, the OP did say he didn’t mind his parents method of seeing him off, only if it is recommended that they come and help him move in. To which I can only say that it would be easier having someone to help move your stuff in.</p>
<p>Ur wrong. Basic training is exytremely stressful-- physically and emotionally. There a lot of fear for pussies like me. Besides, you take a plane there alone anyway. But I was already traveling on planes before I was 18.</p>
<p>Also, you are kindof on your own at reception, which is where you get issues uniforms and get processed into the system. I got lost once, but I got caught be a benevolent SPC. They make reception ever more emotionally stressful than basic, because that’s where they weed out the people who won’t be able to handle war.</p>
<p>LOL, this is like the discussion going on in the Toy Story 3 Andy’s Mom thread.</p>
<p>If they can’t do it, then they can’t do it. There’s no reason you can’t go alone and be just fine. Heck, they’re paying for your education and even buying you a ticket so its not like they don’t care. They just don’t want to take time off work. My parents were with me, but only because I didn’t have my own car to drive myself up to school. Depending on how many bags you have and where you’re going to be staying it can be a good or a bad thing to have them there.</p>
<p>I moved in by myself and I was fine. The same can be said for many international students, some West Coast students and even a few students from in-state at my college.</p>
<p>To be honest, I am not entirely sure why you would want to have your parents there in the first place. The presence of parents seem to make move-in day only more stressful. I had the freedom to set up my room whichever way I liked, I skipped dinner to take a nap, and I made friends while some other students were still busy entertaining their parents.</p>
<p>Let’s be honest for a second: why were you hoping that your parents would join you? Are you concerned about the logistics of moving by yourself? Were you hoping that your parents would be an active part of your college experience? Do you think that saying goodbye in your dorm room would be more meaningful than saying goodbye at the airport?</p>
<p>My own college urges parents to leave after helping students move their belongings into their rooms. A thousand bugs (for airfare, hotel and lost wages) is a steep price tag for parents to help you handle two or three pieces of luggage.</p>
<p>^That’s what i’m wondering as well OP, do you just want your parent’s to go with you? Cause it doesn’t make them cheap if they still organized a way for you to get to school safely and for them to still make it to work. LOL, times are hard. You’ll find that out over the next year. You can’t just blow money without thinking. Not everybody is rich.</p>
<p>Honestly, at my college the parents tend to help their kid move in, maybe go to lunch or dinner before and then they leave.</p>
<p>umm if you’re flying to university then it’s extremely common for that to happen. my parents are a 45 minute drive from campus and i hardly ever see them and i wish that i could’ve moved in alone(2 years ago) just because i can handle myself and they just kinda get in the way. but i’ve done stuff like traveled in foreign countries for weeks on my own</p>
<p>My problem is not going by myself, my problem is if i will need them for move in (signing papers) or anything.</p>
<p>No, you won’t. I’m 99.47% sure</p>