<p>Post the sex and number of what children you would ideally have, as well as the time at which you would most like to have them (after college, after career's been well established, after retirement, etc.). Also post your intended methods of child rearing -- whether you would prefer that you yourself work and your spouse (assuming you're married) take care of them, or vice versa, or in a system somewhere between the aforementioned two, or as a single parent, or in some polygamous relationship, etc.</p>
<p>Personally, I don't intend to have any biological children (I hope to have a vasectomy performed whenever I grow to be (developmentally) capable of having a vasectomy performed), but that is not to say that I don't want children period-- if I were to experience any paternal longings (which I certainly might not), I'd probably just adopt. :) </p>
<p>All of this would ideally take place after I establish a decent level of financial security and find a willing and able partner, of course.</p>
<p>I've given this a lot of thought, oddly enough...</p>
<p>Quick facts: I want 4 kids, biologically mine, spread out so each kid is at least 4 years or more older than the next, and after I've finished the worst of my career (med school, residencies, starting a practice). I want to be a psychiatrist, by the way.</p>
<p>I want to find the man I want to marry in medical school, and marry him while the going is toughest and I need that kind of support. Once I'm out of medical school and done with my residencies, then here comes baby numero uno. Second kid will come when the first one is old enough to feed itself and sit on an actual chair- age 4-6, starting preschool, kindergarten, or first grade. I'll be late-30s. And numbers 3 and 4? I'll have to decide between quick succession or "Can I wait until the oldest can babysit?"</p>
<p>I'll be working, and so will my husband. I plan on working in the government somehow, as a psychiatrist, at least to build a resume and experience. Then, I will start a private practice in a city somewhere, and hopefully make tons of money (or whatever). My husband could be anything under the sun as long as we're both contributing to household income and stability- I couldn't handle four kids AND being the primary breadwinner. I'd have the kids far apart in age (4-6 years each) so I could continue to work, but when I start a private practice I'm hopefully going to be doing it through my own home, so childcare=not an issue.</p>
<p>(I just realised that with the current math, I'd be 48 and having my fourth child. I don't think that's even physically possible- or at least, medically SAFE).</p>
<p>2-4 for me. Not necessarily biological. I'm a fan of mixing biological and adoption, too. After I have a stable income and a place that could house my significant other (not sure if I want to get married or not), me, and a few chitlins.</p>
<p>I really don't want kids at all. I can't stand kids, and I hate being around them. <em>In comes rush of angry posts</em> So it's just best that I stay away from that area.</p>
<p>I haven't decided. I absolutely love kids (not just the aww. they're cute. but I love like babysitting & taking care of my cousins, etc. Babies to toddlers to kids etc). I won't have kids unless I get married. I wouldn't want to put kids in that situation. I just haven't decided if I actually want kids or not, but I do love them.</p>
<p>If I have children, it will be after I'm married (preferably sooner rather than later) and mature enough to handle them. I don't think the latter state of preparation will be until I'm around thirty. I'd like to have three children, preferably of both genders, and two or three years apart, and I'd like for my husband and I each to have an equal part in raising them.</p>
<p>Anyways, my boyfriend and I want a girl and then a boy three to four years later. :)
Biological, even though I'm scared to death of childbirth...
After thirty but before thirty-five.
Public school in an area with a good public school system.<br>
Dunno what to do about daytime care -- daycare, I guess? Or I'll just work part-time, at least when they're young...?</p>
<p>That's about as far as our plans... erm, speculations... go, lol.</p>
<p>Welll..ideally I want to have 3 kids,and I really want the first-born to be a girl lol. I want to have the first one after I get married in my mid-to-late 20s I guess. The other two I'd like to have when the first one is about 6. I guess they'll be in daycare,but not any random daycare..</p>
<p>And omg Poseur,I'm also scared of childbirth..<em>shudders</em></p>
<p>2 - 3 kids, the first-born born before I turn 30.</p>
<p>"I don't want to be the guy that when he brings his son to play in the park, people turn and stare and say 'Is he the father? Is he the grandfather? Is he the grandfather's grandfather? And why, oh why, is he pushing that traffic cone on the swing while his little boy sits in the mud and cries? Is he taunting the little boy? No, he can't even see the little boy. He's talking to the traffic cone, and oh look, he's actually putting the traffic cone into the minivan and driving away while his little boy still sits in the mud and cries, cries, cries, and the traffic cone sits quietly and watches Finding Nemo on DVD.'"</p>
<p>God everyone's saying they want to young parents and before at 35- I've seen what that does. My mom IS 35, she had me when she was 20!! It's nice to be the hot, younger mom but unless you have peers who also want to have kids that young, you are aloooone. My mom had no one her age who was going through the same thing. Obviously, she was in college, and you're talking about having kids late 20s early 30s. But I'd rather be in a steady job and relationship, and that means waiting.</p>
<p>mmh yes i plan to have 12 kids, 6 boys and 6 girls and i will most definitely raise them in a polygamous relationship. Actually, no. I will join a cult, and raise them there.</p>
<p>hahah no seriously I havent really thought about it much. Its way in the future for me</p>
<p>Actually, if you are financially stable (don't live in a trailer), intelligent (high IQ and the desire to educate your children to the fullest), and emotionally stable (not a nutjob) you will produce members of society that have a much better chance of being all of the above and more, contributing more than the local trailer trash. Of course, trailer trash kids could become the country's next president, if they have the motivation, but sometimes genetics and environment definitely help.</p>
<p>So... More access to birth control for trailer trash (or follow China's one-kid rule for certain demographics) and the smart people can give birth all they want..</p>
<p>(Half of this post is sarcasm. Half of it is PURE WIT.)</p>
<p>I want a lot of kids. At least two or three that are biologically mine, but I'd like to adopt quite a few, too. I spent some time this summer at an orphanage in Mexico, and while I've always wanted to adopt that cemented it. I want to have my first kid as soon as I'm out of college and married - so I'll be about 25 or 26 according to my current plan (my boyfriend and I plan on getting married in five years). I'd like all of them to be born by the time I'm 35 or so. I don't want to be one of those super-old parents. :/ My mom had the youngest of my siblings when she was 31.</p>
<p>For some reason, I've always felt like I'd have a girl first, but obviously I have no way of knowing if that's true or not for another five or six years. I don't really care that much about genders, but I'd like at least one of each.</p>