<p>Going to either school is not a guarantee she will get into a tippy top. But she will grow up and need personal strengths, resilience and interpersonal skills and more. B puts pressure on her but lets her have friends visit, have time to socialize after school and live her life. Neither school will deny her a shot at Ivies.</p>
<p>Hard work being rewarded is more than NMF or an Ivy. Think about it- you want her into Harvard or you want her happy, stable, have friendships, self esteem, grounding- all while fulfilling her potential? I understand your concern. But 10% is a huge number.</p>
<p>Adding: yes it is possible to be a high achiever and have a life. That’s different than putting your kid in a pressure cooker based on hopes she can -maybe- get into Harvard. If she has the goods, she will achieve at B. </p>
<p>And, what you will eventually hear on CC, be prepared: at her age, these are not her dreams.</p>
<p>That said, we put our girls in a very good prep near home. They loved being the friends others could visit, being able to stay late for certain ECs- or even get back to school for an evening opportunity or performance. In many ways, these extras empowered them. They could breathe.</p>