<p>I’m not bitter about anything since I got into what I wanted. But I was a bit annoyed when the school announced one person’s acceptance to a great school and didn’t announce the other two people who got into great schools as well (one of which was an Ivy-not the top Ivies but an Ivy nonetheless, which for our school is a big deal).</p>
<p>What do you say to someone who’s really disappointed about her college decisions? I don’t know her that well but… I seriously thought she would get in to the schools she wanted to and even told her so, but then, she didn’t. I totally didn’t expect it at all. I feel like nothing I’ll ever say to her is going to make much of a difference, besides maybe telling her that the schools she did get into are great (they are), but I feel like even that is such a pointless statement.</p>
<p>@xrCalico23 – you’re right, there is nothing you can say to her that will help right now but you don’t need to feel bad for her. The college acceptances are just the beginning, you never know how things are going to turn out once everyone matriculates. She may end up loving where she ends up and come to feel that the cards fell like they did for a reason.</p>
<p>Luckily, I go to a Thomas Jefferson caliber school where academics are the #1 concern and students look forward to learning. Thus, everyone is extremely proud of each other as we have almost 15 going to princeton, 5 to harvard, 4 to yale, 13 to MIT, 3 to caltech 1 to stanford 6 to columbia 5 to penn 3 to brown and 18 to cornell. so obviously a LOT to be proud of. no need to hate on each other we have a LOT of school spirit</p>
<p>No pigs, not all “people” exaggerate. My son didn’t, that much I know. He’s not the least bitter of anyone’s successes, nor would he ever posture himself as “the winner” if he got into schools others sought, but they were waitlisted or rejected from.
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<p>Why do you care about what your classmates think? It’s not your fault they’re loosers. The only thing worse than a looser is a sore looser.</p>
<p>Winners take what was dealt to them and deal with it. They move forward rather than dwelling on the past and wallowing in self sorrow. Bitterness about things you have nothing to do with and have no stake in is a sign of weakness. It’s for loosers.</p>
<p>^ Tortfeasor…I don’t understand?</p>
<p>Personally, I’m not really bitter…but then when my asian parents start screaming at me for getting rejected (which often includes derogatory comments towards my intelligence, my physical appearance, my behavior, etc.)…I start getting really ***<em>ed. *sigh</em></p>
<p>^ It’s “losers.” But yes, that’s the way to go.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, and the hype over being accepted to the best school I applied to (financial reasons etc.) is meaningless now…only one month later. I believe the same holds true for the one girl I know (she attends a different school - no kids from my school broke the ivy barrier) who plans to matriculate at Harvard in the Fall.
You’re in - NOW WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO? ;)</p>
<p>No bitterness here! Some really great kids got into some “tippity top schools” and everyone is happy for them. A somewhat unstable child got into “tippity top schools” and still not bitterness. Now, “tippity top” can deal with them and everyone else are free to continue with happy and successful lives.</p>
<p>I turned down a full ride for Harvard because commnuity college gave me free goodies to go there :D</p>
<p>@Aoshi33 - ?? I don’t get it. Who are you referring to?</p>
<p>I’m sure some people were bitter at my school, but not many. Most people were happy for their fellow classmates/friends. It’s interesting, because now (finishing up on the first year) you can see how people reacted to their school, the good, the bad, and the ugly :P.</p>
<p>Plus, I think things happen for a reason. I got into some UCs but I am going to a community college because of financial reasons. I’ve had some great teachers so far, and I’ve figured out what I really want to pursue, while NOT wasting my parent’s money. And I’ve gotten ahead, so now in my final two semesters before I transfer, I can take some fun classes :). If I hadn’t gone to community college, I wouldn’t have found what I truely want to do (psychology) and a school that’s perfect for my future (UCI - yes, I would consider this my “dream school”! [for undergraduate studies at least]).</p>
<p>I think Aoshi33 was referring to the original post.</p>
<p>^ Oh. I didn’t think it was arrogant. o_0 I digress. Continue!</p>
<p>It’s a little subtle. The OP wants to start a thread about stories of classmates bitterness over acceptances. Then the example she gives is a story of how she got into Stanford, how she isn’t going, (letting us know she has an even better offer), and how one of her classmates who really wanted to go but didn’t get in and is upset.</p>
<p>Her classmate is the one to sympathize with, he didn’t get into Stanford. But the OP wants us to sympathize with her because he wasn’t that nice about how she got in and he didn’t. She turned his rejection from Stanford into some problem he has with being gracious. Not to mention the fact if he sees this thread she has just rubbed salt in the wound.</p>
<p>@Pea - I understand now. I didn’t take that much time to read the original post. I could honestly…care less about the ulterior motives and/or arrogance of a poster on an online college forum. 
However, I believe a thorough review of Emily Post should be called into order :rolleyes: …I dislike poor etiquette. :/</p>
<p>This kid in my class told me my dream school was impossible, “even for me”. He’s an ******* about it when the topic arises. But, that’s life.</p>
<p>As a mom, I’m a bit baffled by the lack of humility some (not all) of the posters on this thread possess. Those of you who got into top/ivy schools – way to go. Before you go thinking, however, that you’re “all that” – that your application was “flawless” and that there was something so unique about you and that you “deserved” it…please reflect and look over other CC posts. Recognize that LUCK plays an incredible role in the college decision process. Because of the sheer numbers, others who had EQUALLY IF NOT BETTER stats, ECs, awards, etc. did not fare as well as you. Don’t delude yourself into thinking you’re better than them or that you worked harder. In short, it’s often a simple numbers game. And Pigs, I would caution you that pride always comes before the fall.</p>