classmate bitterness over acceptances-- have you experienced it?

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<p>I don’t understand why some people can’t just accepts that pigs<em>at</em>sea is smart. Shows the bitterness amongst CCers imo. well, in my class yes i’ve noticed a change in attitude from my friends. all of my friends are attending in state (actually in the city) colleges which aren’t so…well great. I guess i’m the only one in my friend group deciding between an ivy and a top private research university. I don’t even brag about it in school, but whenever someone asks where I got in and all I feel terrible; I really don’t want people to feel different towards me, but whatever. I’m graduating and i have a whole new life experience to live.</p>

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<p>@desi_chick, I wholly concur with your mindset and empathize with your “vulnerability” when someone asks about college plans.</p>

<p>For me, it was a matter of defeating my insecurities and doubts about myself and my accomplishments in high school. When people tell you can’t, you keep your mouth shut and do it.</p>

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<p>My son has a <em>teacher</em> who is making snarky remarks about S getting into his dream school off the waitlist. In fact, S has a Guaranteed Transfer Option to the school in question, so even if he does not get off the waitlist this summer, he may very well graduate from dream school with the class of 2014.</p>

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<p>^^^Desi, you can always go with “I haven’t decided yet.”</p>

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<p>I have to admit I was a little bitter–perhaps even still am–about one of my classmate’s acceptance to Yale. Its never been her dream school but it was for me; she actually liked Princeton much more but was rejected there. I will be attending Princeton this fall, and I think she’s a little bitter about that, too. Oh, the irony.</p>

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<p>The only person from my school who’s going to an Ivy is a recruited athlete who isn’t even in the top 10% of the class, while a bunch of us who were far more qualified got rejected. So yeah, I’m one of those bitter people we all hate so much. Oh well.</p>

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<p>A lot in my school want to be engineers, I’m kinda the only girl that wants to be though. So I got a full ride to Carnegie and everyone says it’s only cause I’m a girl. Though, I’d say the full ride is more about minority status (since when I visited a lot of minority guys got the same ride) and my extra book money given is the cheery on top for being a girl. I think I got in because I have the highest SAT scores in my class and I’m the best at math. I also have a lot of leadership roles, head tech for theatre, visited the school, had an interview, and did engineering programs. It’s like, if I’d just have easily gotten in doing nothing but having boobs then I wish I’d known that sooner so I could’ve slacked more.</p>

<p>Also, there are two friends that have this tension because one got into Williams and the other didn’t though they have very similar stats. And it was the latters’ dream school. But she’s going to Tufts anyway so it’s not like she’s suffering much. Still, you can feel the oddness. I just say whatever, <a href=“http://knowyourmeme.com/i/000/039/080/original/5008_9c00_420.gif?1265669754[/url]”>http://knowyourmeme.com/i/000/039/080/original/5008_9c00_420.gif?1265669754&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>Me and two of my best friends applied to the same college. We had planned to all be room mates. But when both of them were rejected, it made discussions about college really awkward. Like, how could I show my excitement of my own acceptance when my two bff’s got rejected. I mean it’s all fine, and we are still all going to colleges in MA, but sigh, college.</p>

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<p>My class, though statistically my high school’s strongest class, didn’t fare very well in admissions. I was the only one to get into UCLA and UC Berkeley, and though a number of friends applied to U of Chicago and Pomona College, none of us got in and I was the only one waitlisted for both. Since I was aiming a bit higher than UC Berkeley/ UCLA, I was obviously disappointed with waitlistings at those two schools and Brown. Though I am somewhat disappointed, I really try not to complain about it at all, because lots of my friends got rejected from UC Berkeley and UCLA, so I have it pretty good compared to them. It’s lame, 'cause CC and friends from other high schools are the only people I can really express my misery over my waitlistings without coming off as a “pretentious snob.” D:</p>

<p>One thing that has ****ed me off post-admissions cycle is the junior class. They have a huge number of people who are somewhat delusional about how hard (or easy in their eyes) it is to get into schools like Stanford and Yale and the like. One girl, who has a low B average with spattering of A’s and C’s and an average courseload constantly brags about how she is a shoe-in for Stanford because her family’s net worth is around $10 million. Her family has not donated money, and she has no connections with the university, but she thinks she deserves to get in based off her income. She scoffs at me for being rejected, though I have my class’s highest GPA/ SATs, am one of the most involved, etc, as compared to her dearth of good scores and involvement (NO ECs at all). Another girl, who is number one in the junior class, thinks that that #1 will also guarantee her to Stanford. She has no extra-curriculars except for lots of sports, and thinks she’s a shoe-in. Their conceit and self-entitlement really upsets me, because I’ll have to listen to it in one of our joint classes. I would rather not be the person to tell them that they have to get their head out of the clouds, etc., and somewhat wish I was there next year to see them get rejected (esp. for the former girl). Blech.</p>

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<p>^Well, just remember that they’ll find out the truth later, although too bad you won’t be able to see them when they’re bitter because some one who’s not rich got into HYPSM.</p>

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<p>^^I find the juniors here rather annoying too. They don’t think of themselves as shoo-ins anywhere especially selective, but they’re an incredibly competitive class, probably on account of their small size.
One example: They just had a race for Senior Class president next year. It was the hugest thing of all time basically. Posters all over the school, heavy campaigning during lunch, videos on FB, t-shirts, donation of FB statuses. It was like some of the campaigns I hear about on here.
Example 2: They’re obsessed with test scores. Admittedly, most of the juniors I know are the more competitive ones, eg: ones in AP Chem, on Academic Quiz Team. One just felt the need to announce his 239 on the PSAT in the middle of practice. And when PSAT scores came out, it was all they talked about. And all they wanted to hear was how we seniors had done, what had qualified for NMF. Ugh.
Example 3: They’re also obsessed with our college acceptances. One girl in chemistry announces to which schools her senior friend (who is a valedictorian) has most recently been accepted and then continually brings those acceptances up. And all they want to know is where we got in, what our “secrets” are to admissions.</p>

<p>Maybe I just feel like whining. I like some of them, honestly.</p>

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Usually, I discover that sometimes its better not to give advices. I’m really bitter with all my college decisions, but there’s nothing I can do about it now. I really hate when the people around me say that " It’s alright, you’ll do fine." As if they couldn’t really see the amount of work, dreams, hope that had been collected through the years, months, week, and days. Let your friend be, and she’ll discover things on her own. I kept my rejection letters, and to the one I’m really disappointed the most I framed. I want to prove someday to those colleges that rejected me, that I’m far better and smarter than they though I was. Sometimes, rejections is just a journey to the creation of a better person. :]</p>

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<p>^Thanks. I actually didn’t say anything, but it was only because I had no idea what to say.</p>

<p>Haha, the juniors at my school are definitely more “passionate” about college admissions than we are right now. Sometimes I’m so glad I go to a high school where college is not a big topic - only a few seniors at my school besides my close friends had even thought to ask me what colleges I got accepted to and so on. But then again, I have no idea where everyone else is going either :/.</p>

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<p>I’m okay with giving advice. Many of the juniors at my school are clueless in terms of the AP exams, SATs etc. The junior class is similarly laid-back as our senior class was. My school isn’t big on competition…or really anything academic, sport, or school-related. Needless to say our morale is a little on the low side. :p</p>

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I really need to stop giving this rant, since nobody seems to listen. But admissions standards at private institutions are inherently arbitrary. They conform to whatever the school wants them to conform to. And if someone gets admitted, it’s because they are “qualified” according to whatever reasoning the school in question uses.</p>

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<p>No one really felt bitter about my UMich, NYU, or UChicago acceptances.
However, I do feel a little bitter about one girl’s Harvard acceptance (granted, URM who was eminently more qualified than I was) and one girl’s UPenn acceptance. The girl got into Wharton, and not saying she certainly wasn’t deserving, but my stats pretty much blew hers out of the water and I got waitlisted. However, I am happy for her and am very excited for my future at Chi.</p>

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<p>The OP is a complete tool. Looks like the adcoms made a serious mistake.</p>

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<p>^Can you please stop hating on her in every thread?</p>

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<p>Oh yeah; there was a girl at my school who got into Princeton and Harvard, and this other girl (who I actually really, really don’t like - she tried to get her parents to move her high school freshman brother out in order for her to do her college apps) who wanted to go to Harvard but didn’t get in (it was not a surprise to me but apparently it was to her), and she spent all of our physics class *****ing about how she didn’t get in and trying to make in seem like the other girl didn’t deserve her acceptances.</p>

<p>I can’t blame people if they’re bitter about other people’s acceptances, but I do think that you need to have a lack of maturity to publically display your bitterness/jealousy.</p>

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<p>Yes, I am “bitter” about my friend’s acceptance into a school that I applied to as well but was not accepted. Even though my test scores were higher than hers, yet my gpa was a little lower, she was accepted and not me. Whats the point of even taking tests if they are just going to pick t he ones with the higher gpa. GPA’s don’t mean ishhhhhh!tests are to tell schools how well you are at college course work.</p>