High School relationships broken up by college?

<p>Just wondering if anyone had a steady relationship in high school and what happened when you guys went off to college?</p>

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<p>I broke up before I left for college. I recommend everyone who even has to ask this question do so as well. I'm also heartless, so take that as you wish.</p>

<p>my boyfriend went off to college last year, while i was still in my senior year of highschool. we stayed together, and are still together now.. and this year we're both going to the same college. it was REALLY hard, and at some points especially the beginning really the only thing that kept me with him was knowing that once he came home we wouldn't be separated anymore. so if we weren't going to the same college the next year i don't know if i could have done it.</p>

<p>it depends on your relationship about what you should do. but most people don't make it through the year. if you're not that serious, i would probably say to not continue it after the summer, that way it's not as hard when one of you ends up finding someone else. but if you're really serious about each other, then try it out.</p>

<p>Yeah, I did that whole thing. She cheated. Twice. So I'm not dating her anymore.</p>

<p>Experiences here as well. Don't do it. Take the heartless guy's advice. </p>

<p>People change, meeting "better" people, reevaluate their priorities. Not worth it. </p>

<p>You can always try again in the future, if it was meant to be.</p>

<p>well i know it is a good advice to break up and move on, but its hard for those...well me who are really in love with that person. I mean we have broken up n it sucks, cuz im all deppressed and i miss that person, so we got back together....and im scared of being at college n braking up and not be happy cuz recovery from a break up and let go of someone you love is ****ing hard! you just can't forget the person you've been for a long time ....we are having lots of problems but im working them out cuz i really care about this person, but im scared of going off to college like in a month and not been able to work a long distance relationship......however any word of advice on how to stay strong after a brake up and being able to move on and get rid of the love. I mean i've never experienced it...so yea i don't know....</p>

<p>Quite frankly, if you're already having problems I doubt you have much hope. If you want a long-distance relationship to work, you're going to need very, very good communication, which I guarantee will be harder than you think.</p>

<p>Exercise, it makes u feel better.</p>

<p>Make new friends in college, it is possible that you will like hanging out with me more than you ever liked beign with ur gf.</p>

<p>The best advice I can give you is from what I went through with my own D. Once you break up wyou need to stay super busy. Your friends need to be there for you. Get out. Don't stay home by the phone or computer. Once you break up don't go back it only prolongs the hurt. Good Luck</p>

<p>I think the one thing you can really do to keep your long distance relationship is to make sure that both of you are committed enough to agree not to have any friends of the opposite gender. I don't mean never being around someone in a group or something but not having an actual friend. In fact, I think it would make any relationship, not just a long distance one, stronger. Of course, both of you would have to be willing to do that and not feel that it's not worth it. But if you aren't willing to give that up you may want to reconsider how important the relationship is to you.</p>

<p>Just so you know where I am coming from, I am a rising senior in college who has been in a committed long-term relationship for almost two and a half years with about 9 months of long distance involved.</p>

<p>That sounds disgustingly unhealthy.</p>

<p>I plan on staying with my girlfriend in college. This was a mutual choice.</p>

<p>We agreed we can have friends of the opposite sex, but they would have to be loose friends and the guys would have to be gay.</p>

<p>If you don't trust your girfriend or boyfriend not to cheat on you with friends of the opposite sex you shouldn't even try a long distance relationship with them.</p>

<p>It's not about not trusting them. It's about you personally (and hopefully your significant other) feeling strongly enough about each other for you to want them to be the only girl/guy in your life. It's not about physical intimacy.</p>

<p>Fine. If you're too insecure in your personal intimacy with someone to even allow her to be friends with another guy you're in an unhealthy relationship.</p>

<p>That's your opinion, and you are entitled to it, but that's what we both believe in, and no one is forcing anyone.</p>

<p>Well my girlfriend and I are planning to break up. We have had a lot of fun these past few months, but both realize that staying together (8+ hours away) during college might be a bit difficult. I try not to think about it too much, so when it happens it will happen. </p>

<p>I had orientation recently, and based on a lot of the girls I met, I don't think I'll miss her too much.</p>

<p>acollegestudent, not again....
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<p>If I ever had a girlfriend who wanted me to do that, I'd break up with her on the spot.</p>

<p>Sorry to post in both threads, but since they are very similar I thought it applied to both.</p>

<p>Hehe... there are too many relationship threads... sure, we on CC all know how to get into Ha-vhad and all that, but we're clueness hopeless nerds when it comes to the opposite gender. (What? What do you mean they don't have cooties?)</p>