Hi! I am currently a sophomore and am not on campus because all of my classes are online due to COVID. But for this year, my roommate and I were supposed to live with this two other girls on campus (we’ve never met them but have met them through our class’ facebook group). My roommate ended up switching schools anyway, so now I do not have anyone to live with (that I am super close to) for the rest of my time in college. Anyways…
The same two girls that we were supposed to live with this year, messaged me the other day and asked if I would want to rent a house with them off campus next year, along with another girl (most juniors and seniors rent houses/apartments at my school, so it is a normal thing to ask). But on the other hand, my other friends (a guy, and about three other girls) asked if I would want to live in an off-campus apartment with them next year. I have to let them know by the end of this week since they are leasing it soon.
So here’s the dilemma: I do not know if I should rent a house with the girls, or live in an apartment with people I am already friends with (I am only really close with the guy; we are not dating because he is not straight, but he is my best friend on campus). The thing is, the house is right across the street from campus so I can just walk right to class and the rent is fairly cheap, while the apartment buildings (one of which my friends want to live in) are far away, so that means I would have to walk like 20 minutes in a bad neighborhood, or buy myself a car to drive to class everyday and then pay for a parking ticket. The girls who are renting the house already have the house picked out, while my friends do have any plans set in stone… and I also am not sure how or if five people are going to fit into an apartment. And as for the girls who have asked me if I wanted to rent a house with them, I am nervous that they will not like me or that I won’t like them/find them to be rude; I get along with everyone I meet, but people have seemed to dislike me in the past and I am nervous that it will happen again. And the fact that I have never met them makes me even more nervous. I do want to find a close group of girl friends though and feel as though this is my chance. I also do not want to hurt my friends’ feelings though – the group of people renting the apartment, because I am really close with the one, and feel as though he’ll be really upset if I choose not to live with them.
What would you do? Or what do you think I should do? I just need some advice/guidance lol. I am so lost. Thank you!