<p>there needs to be a brawl at some point</p>
<p>I still have a theory that a lot of people regress in maturity during freshman year from when they were in high school (more independence w/o realizing the consequences yet). But, weren’t people “fake” in high school, too, OP? I went to my high school’s football game, and that just brought back how much BS went on.</p>
<p>That is probably the college you attend. You NEED to transfer!</p>
<p>I’ve never understood why people think binge drinking is fun. I’d rather go to a baseball game or something, but whatever.</p>
<p>^ Me too! I mean, people can do whatever they want and drink how much they want, but I just never understood getting to the point of being blacked out and forgetting what happened the night before. That’s nuts! =</p>
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<p>well that’s just attention whoring or approval seeking. anyone who does stuff like that is a loser in my book.</p>
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<p>Good thing people don’t read your book. All life is attention whoring and approval seeking, anyway. You just hide behind that to rationalize why you aren’t having as fun of a time as others.</p>
<p>ITT: butthurt</p>
<p>drinking is awesome. where i am at this next week is nothing but drinking. it is great</p>
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<p>rofl, are you joking? no it isn’t. at least, not unless you’re insecure, which i suppose most people are.</p>
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<p>It must be nice to believe a blissfully polite view of the world.</p>
<p>College application process = attention whoring and approval seeking</p>
<p>Competitive unpaid internship = " "</p>
<p>Competing for the best job = " "</p>
<p>Attracting the best mate = " "</p>
<p>You fail. Get up and attack life before you drown in your own silly contempt of others. They’re doing it right. You’re doing it wrong.</p>
<p>none of that is “all life.” those are specific situations that require you to shine above others. You don’t need to make drawing attention and approval the focus of your entire life, especially not at something as simple as a party. I understand the point that you’re trying to make, but you fail, you’re wrong, and, despite your desire to look cool, you’re probably an annoying dweeb. Next.</p>
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<p>Of course it is. Every remotely significant action you perform in your life is motivated by the biological drive for self-preservation and reproduction. Your whole life is grooming yourself and building yourself up for a career, and then finding suitable mate to have offspring with. This drive is reflected in how we act in everyday situations. And parties are competitive environments and do require people to “shine above others” as they are not the more mundane occasions in life. And the partiers are better for it. They have more friends and hook-ups than you do, despite all of your moralistic complaining. And they’re happy. They probably network, and despite what you may think, it could very well be that their future business partner is going to be someone that they met at a frat party and thought their keg stand was pretty cool. That’s life.</p>
<p>Look at Bush. Networking, connections, etc., is key.</p>
<p>I understand the competitive nature of practically every interaction. However, this new argument contradicts the first post that you made. If you’re doing a keg stand under the impression that you’re just having fun and letting go, but are really doing it to look cool and impress others, everything is fake about that keg stand. </p>
<p>If you think that I have a “blissfully polite view of the world,” you’re totally wrong. I actually have a very negative view of people and the world. Personally, I think that most people’s opinions of me don’t matter. So I’m only going out of my way to impress when it really matters. And I don’t think that doing a keg stand impresses anyone anyway. It just makes you look like a goof.</p>
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<p>It isn’t the conscious thought about the keg stand specifically. It’s not some secret plot. People put themselves in those situations to have a good time. It turns out that having a good time at a party is a time-tested (re: thousands of years) strategy for improving social standing. There isn’t anything “fake” or “phony” about it. It is human social networking at work. The fact that someone can have a good time doing something as a part of a larger - and probably unrealized or subconscious - desire to network isn’t a contradictory idea.</p>
<p>URagin- I hate to be this guy, but tobaccoNchocolat isn’t wrong. You can do your thing, but he’s right.</p>
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<p>Yeah, i understand that. i think that I’m just different. I’m having a very hard time enjoying socializing nowadays. I don’t know what happened, but I somehow shed that evolutionary facade of fun that masks ulterior motives. Now I just have the ulterior motives.</p>
<p>My original point, though, is that these things that we do for ulterior motives are inherently fake. Whether you enjoy doing them or not.</p>
<p>And I also thought that you were one of those unaware people who thought that people doing things ‘just’ for the fun of it, which is what i was arguing against. So there’s just been a misunderstanding.</p>
<p>Dude, I am the most jaded person on the planet. Half of my enjoyment on CC comes from baiting delusional high school hopefuls. I understand what you mean, because I briefly used to be the same way.</p>
<p>The key is to embrace it, really. It takes a lot of confidence to stomp it out that way, but it pays off. You can have a real pure sense of fun while understanding your limits and having a firm sense of rationale on the choices you make. So go out, have fun, play fiddle with the devil. Sinning is a litmus test.</p>
<p>Um, OP, most people have hung out with friends before. Partying = hanging out with friends. Almost everyone is a partier.</p>
<p>It’s easy to have fun at parties, provided that you don’t participate in any unnecessarily risky behaviors, and a great way to release stress besides. Going with your recent acquaintances/roommates/friends only makes the experience better. I didn’t party much in high school, but now, I find things to do on most nights and on weekends. Granted, the academic year hasn’t really started (in terms of assignments), so I’m sure that this will end in a week or so, but I’m going to enjoy it while it lasts. :)</p>