college is so weird

<p>it's even weirder when your teachers are so young and hot that they're almost dateable. (I mean TAs, not profs, since some TAs are fresh out of undergrad). I just met with one of my TAs for office hours the first time, and I got really nervous... and now i can't stop thinking about it. >< i thought he was hot from the beginning, but i didn't think much about it until i actually spoke with him one on one and alone. i also keep thinking about my other TA too, who's super funny and cute. i even had a dream about her!! i wish she could be my older sister, but i get kind of jittery when i see her too. (i'm a female btw, who isn't bi or gay... just always wanted an older sister) i may have a slight crush on the first one... i'm going to have him again later... ahhh... so strange. not that i'm thinking about it, but has anyone ended up dating their TAs?</p>

<p>um no. A few of my friends were TAs for a while, but I never took any classes with them, because that would be unethical, considering they were friends before. My english instructor for the past two semesters (not a TA) seems like she would be really funny and random to hang out with but I gather that she's about 8 years older than me so that probably wouldn't work so well. I don't have any more classes with her now though.</p>

<p>i hang out with my professors.
A LOT.</p>

<p>it's not weird to me.</p>

<p>i have never been in a class with a TA, but i don't see much difference. it'd probably be even less weird to initiate than a friendship with a professor.</p>

<p>I tried to ask one of my TA's (who was an undergrad and in one of my other classes) to my fraternity formal one year. She respectfully declined because of the issues of her being my TA, and by the time the school year was over I was dating someone else...not really sure what happened to her.</p>

<p>not dating a TA, but dating a Graduate Assistant coach for one of my school's sports programs that I work for. I'm not an athlete, and both my boss and his are aware and have no problems with the relationship.</p>

<p>I know a few people who have dated/slept with TAs, usually but not always after they were done with the class. Undergrad TAs aren't such a big deal since they don't have any real grading input. In most cases with grad TAs, flirting might have happened during the student/teacher relationship, but nothing overtly sexual or romantic happened until after grades were in. The one case I know of where a student and a grad TA started dating before the class was over, the TA wasn't actually in charge of the student's section and only graded a couple of her quizzes and a page or two of exams. They hid it until after finals and are still very happily together over a year later.</p>

<p>Probably weird because you never formed any relationships with your high school teachers. I've always formed relationships with my teachers since middle school so making friends with my profs was never an issue... it was a question of how friendly and far could the conversations go. My brother never really has so it's not quite in his mind that he might get along pretty well with his professors in college and will be in your position of seeing how it's weird....</p>

<p>But I will tell you that if you do become friends with a TA or prof before (or during) a class that you take with them, just TRUST them on their grading. It's not easy for them to be objective and they'd rather not discuss it. You just have to trust them and have a honest relationship so they can grade you objectively and give you grades that you actually earned. Easiest way to deal with thisi issue is tell them you want their honest feedback.</p>

<p>i really liked one of my previous TAs and wanted to keep in touch with her. i didn't get a chance to really talk to her while i took her class, but now i really miss her, and i can only say hello when i pass her. i tried adding her on facebook, but she just deleted her account. so sad. :(</p>

<p>Hm. I don't think relationships with high school teachers are the same thing, ticklemepink... I certainly formed relationships with some of my teachers in middle school and high school, but it's not like they were equal friendships--as opposed to becoming friends with former TAs, who I now get drunk with, go out dancing with, and in one case will be sharing a house with.</p>

<p>My roommate had a really flirtatious relationship with one of her TAs. They were both super attracted to one another and went on lunch dates all the time, but kept it non-physical until the end of the semester, when they started dating officially. I think they're still together, but I'm not sure. </p>

<p>What I am sure of is that one time I came home and had been sexiled by their newly physical affair. That situation pretty much defined awkward.</p>

<p>a lot of TA's I know are still undergrads, and frequently socialize/party with people in their classes.</p>

<p>I understand, I totally feel for my TA when I met him for office hours (before he was just the cute, awkward TA that I thought I had a crush on him). I've heard that lots of people end up dating their TAs but definitely definitely wait until grades are in! My TA and I went out for coffee quite a few times and after the class (but not final exam) was over, I got quite forward and tried to hint at my more-than-student/TA feelings and it resulted in an awkward phone call that can basically be summed up as, "We will revisit this situation after grades are in." </p>

<p>Which we did and so far, he and I have kept talking and hopefully will. Only issue is it was discovered he has a girlfriend, but he's sending mixed signals and this, my friend, is a totally different issue. </p>

<p>So
a) crushing on TA is awesome, makes you go to class and, at least in my case, I definitely worked harder on papers because I didn't want him to think I was dumb...
b) don't make moves until after class, but do go in during office hours and just talk...
c) while talking, try to find out if he has a girlfriend if possible :D</p>

<p>^^ ouch. really true :)</p>

<p>haha. is this TA from last quarter? </p>

<p>liking the TA or thinking they're cute definitely makes it easier to go to a class you'd otherwise hate. lol</p>