College Life: Prudence or Party?

<p>Walking through the famed quad of one of America’s best colleges before freshman year begins, I began thinking of what exactly I’m here to accomplish, and its relevance in my immediate success. I also wondered how the various dynamics of my social life here impact both my immediate and long-term success. </p>

<p>I find it interesting that students here are especially accepting of the binge drinking culture, “hook-up” (for lack of a better term) politics, excessive partying, and Marijuana use. I take issue with these three aspects especially because of my own experiences at the High School level. As I’m sure that, as college students, we are all familiar with the attributes mentioned above, I won’t waste space describing them.</p>

<p>I rose to the top of my high school class not because I was the most intelligent student, but because I invested my intellect more prudently than my peers. Yet, my dreams of a reformed college culture have largely been shattered by my revelation that many of my peers harbor an alarming interest in the previously mentioned inhibitors of academic success. It may be true that it is merely orientation, and that serious academic work has yet to begin, but I hold the personal belief that one’s actions taken now demonstrate the extent (and indeed behavioral tendencies) of a lapse in judgment that one will demonstrate during the academic year. Is it not true that if an individual gets “wasted” during orientation, they will certainly exhibit the same behavior during the academic year? This “work hard, play hard” behavior, I believe, is a malefactor in the academic success of this institution’s student body because of its contradictory conceptual duopoly in the average student’s perception of what can be collective referred to as “college life”. Yet, nearly (or at least the vast majority) of students buy into this misleading philosophy. While this behavior can arguably be an accepted norm at an ordinary institution, its prevalence at even the most elite universities is alarming simply because these are the future leaders of America. Why are the future leaders of America getting trashed on Saturday night? But perhaps the most important question: are they? No. They are not. The students “passed out” at 3 am Sunday morning are merely individuals in the midst of greatness, yet not a part of it; they will do well, but not nearly as well as those who are constantly focused on their work (inclusive of extracurriculars, etc.). </p>

<p>Some will inevitably argue that there are students who get trashed on weekends, yet manage to excel academically, yet under scrutiny this claim fails as well. Even if a student manages to accomplish this, he or she is still not living up to his or her potential. Therefore, there still exists (at the very least) a contradiction of philosophies: the “work hard, play hard” mentality grinds against its very components rather than complementing its various aspects. More likely, however, this student will fall into the typology described in my previous paragraph.</p>

<p>My philosophy is that it is not the student that gets “trashed” every weekend who will succeed in the real world; on the contrary, it is the student who abstains from this behavior in favor of academics and career success/direction who will accomplish the most. The leading misconception of the latter student is that this individual will possess inferior social skills, extracurriculars, etc, because these attributes require social ability, of which the studious individual lacks as a result of a limited social presence. Yet, I refute this misconception on the grounds that the individual who is able to present him or herself professionally and intelligently need not be especially versed in social relations. This individual need only exhibit an ability to present himself professionally, and above all, be intelligent and hard working. Who is the student who will be most able to demonstrate the above qualities? One again, it will be the student who has abstained from the negative aspects of college culture in favor of the positive attributes who will go the farthest. The individual who indulges in binge drinking and drug use may be able to ape the elements of success, but the transcripts, recommendations, and resumes will be the differentiating factor, the determiner of greatness.</p>

<p>So, going into my first year of college, I choose to not party, not drink, hook-up, etc. and instead throw myself completely into my studies and chosen extracurriculars. I choose not to follow my peers. Instead, I will blaze my own path in this maze we call college. I may not be the most intelligent student on campus, but through prudence, will emerge ahead.</p>

<p>^Good man, straight edge FTW</p>

<p>thanks tien</p>

<p>congratulations on winning the rat race.</p>

<p>thats all it is. a big fat rat race.</p>

<p>but cheers to you. (or maybe no cheers)</p>

<p>You know what I find disturbing?</p>

<p>1) Your holier-than-thou attitude
2) You're ignoring a good bit of data/research out there that shows individuals with greater social capital (a lot of which is earned through doing social things) earn more money. There are plenty of studies which find positive correlation between drinking and income.
3) Most importantly - that you view academic success and "partying" as some sort of zero-sum game and that you can't do both. Yes, partying to the detriment of your grades is bad. But there is plenty of room (not even approaching your hated "work hard, play hard" philosophy) to be social, party, hook up, and do the things you feel you are too good for, without doing one iota of detriment to your future success. </p>

<p>I'm not out to change your mind, because it's your life, just saying that there is a lot more going on, and part of college is learning things outside the classroom, whether about you, about your chosen career path, or about others.</p>

<p>I once thought the same way about drinking and partying vs academic focus. </p>

<p>Then one day I hang out with some people who party, drinks, and smokes.</p>

<p>Then I noticed they also done well in school and still very intellegent and even mature.</p>

<p>I realize that there is nothing wrong drinking socially and doing some of the more stupider stuff. Though I still stay away from marijuana. There is a correlation with TOO much drinking and partying means failure, but a moderate amount will provide academic success and a variety of other fun memories. </p>

<p>Everything in moderation.</p>

<p>hill, you have absolutely no evidence for your claims. What proof do you have that students who drink on the weekends cannot do as well as those who abstain? </p>

<p>I go to a small LAC, so I know (or at least know of) most of my classmates. Pretty much without exception, the ones who have the highest GPAs, and the ones involved with tons of ECs party on the weekends. Go to wikipedia and look at the bios of presidents, CEOs, and high ranking officials. An unusually high number of them were members of fraternities (and sororities). </p>

<p>"the individual who is able to present him or herself professionally and intelligently need not be especially versed in social relations. This individual need only exhibit an ability to present himself professionally, and above all, be intelligent and hard working."</p>

<p>This is untrue. Outside of academia, who you know is as important as what you know. In the business world, the people who get the promotions are usually the ones who know how to schmooze with the boss. Our society even has a term to describe work-world nepotism: networking. </p>

<p>I'm not here to pass judgments on how you want to live your life, but don't condemn something you don't understand and (I'm guessing) have no experience with. The truth is that most students at elite schools enjoy drinking and socializing. </p>

<p>Oh, and btw, you need to work on your writing style. You are using way too many adjectives and qualifiers, and your prose has an arrogance to it that I doubt many professors will appreciate.</p>

<p>OP--You ought to realize that if you really want to succeed in this world, you're going to have to socialize. And you can do this without partying and drinking and doing drugs and whatnot. Just don't discount the value of being social. There are many, many people out there who want to hire someone who can do more than merely present themselves intelligently.</p>

<p>I wrote this at 5 AM. I hope you don't assume that this is what I would submit as an academic assignment.</p>

<p>and to URichmond, yes, social skills are necessary, but an individual can gain social skills without indulging in all the negative factors of college life. Some of the world's greatest individuals have been those who were considered "prudes" in college, yet had enough social skill to communicate effectively with their peers. A person who possesses enough clarity of thought and intellect to prepare an enticing enough application get admitted to a top school probably has a sufficient social skill level to repeat the process in a job interview.</p>

<p>"Oh, and btw, you need to work on your writing style. You are using way too many adjectives and qualifiers, and your prose has an arrogance to it that I doubt many professors will appreciate."</p>

<p>Pretty much my thoughts. What a pretentious little bugger.</p>

<p>And honestly, to the OP, I find social situations, including parties, beneficial. Some people already mentioned how important social skills are. There is no reason that one can't meet his academic potential if he does a bit of partying here and there. It isn't like one spends every hour of his spare time studying anyway. At least not the well rounded individual. I (and most other people) have more than enough time to teach myself a course, as thorough as possible, without abstaining from weekend parties. </p>

<p>Extracurriculars aren't usually during Friday and Saturday nights.</p>

<p>dood, hill....chill the eff out. you can count on one hand the number of writers, politicians, musicians, philosophers, intellectuals, activists, and all around amazing people who DIDN'T consume cannabis, drink alcohol, and engage in other activities in their youth or throughout their lives.</p>

<p>go ahead and name some, please....and hint, religious nuts don't count.</p>

<p>I'll have to agree with BigRedPreMed on this.</p>

<p>With the OP's attitude, you won't be going anywhere anytime soon. Get off your horse.</p>

<p>I'll have to agree with BigRedPreMed on this.</p>

<p>With the OP's attitude, you won't be going anywhere anytime soon. Get off your horse.</p>

<p>Haha and a side note; I hope I never run into someone like you at my college.</p>

<p>I don't see why you are finding the OP's post offensive. He didn't say that partying should not be done at all, he's saying that those who party excessively and drink excessively wind up not reaching their full ACADEMIC potential, which is an undeniable fact.</p>

<p>And success is arbitrary- you all are basing success off of wealth and fame (too much Hollywood I presume). I myself would rather enrich my mind with the words of geniuses past and present instead of forgetting the events of a night with alcohol. The whole experience of academia, in my opinion, outweighs wealth and so called "success."</p>

<p>"words of geniuses past and present" name one genius past or present who wasn't on something?</p>

<p>Aristotle and Plato and Socrates ate concoctions of ergot fungus, which is what you derive the chemicals in LSD from. we grew cannabis before we grew wheat.</p>

<p>Look, we live in a drug culture, its ingrained in humanity east to west. It's all about moderation and taking care of yourself. some people can't control themselves, and for them, you must discover whether you can control yourself and then choose to abstain.</p>

<p>Well he chooses to abstain from the start. Simple is it not?
And for those who are arguing for drugs and such, look at yourself, your arguing for a bad habit for gods sake. (I see this all the time on digg and such, where everyone goes ballistic for anyone wanting to take away their precious cannabis)</p>

<p>i'm not arguing for drugs, but for a smart approach to them. drugs are a part of our culture. caffeine, alcohol, anti-depressants, cannabis....it's all around us, certain drugs are accepted by certain people.</p>

<p>I don't care if you don't think some drugs are your cup of tea, but be tolerant of those who choose to use certain drugs, whether it's coffee or cannabis let people be and don't critique others. It makes me mad when people go "nothing good comes from any drug" but that's simply not true, substances are a part of our history and have had a place throughout time in human existence.</p>

<p>You definitely want to do Shannen Doherty AND party.</p>

<p>What? I'm the only guy who watched Charmed for the eye candy? >_></p>

<p>whether people wish to admit it or not, drugs do run adverse to academic ambitions/goals. That should be obvious. Cannabis is not going to help your grades.</p>

<p>I'm not looking down on those who choose to indulge in these values. I'm just saying that I choose not to, and giving reasons why. </p>

<p>There are better ways to network than getting *****-faced on a saturday night</p>