<p>Anyone else feel like this?</p>
<p>Like i feel as if i know a large amount of people at my school but to actually have the time to hang out with them ..i just dont. theres a select few who happen to have schedules that are similar to mine..those are the oens i spend more time with...but it feels like everyone is so busy doing their own things that its hard to coordinate group hang outs and stuff.</p>
<p>anyone else feel this way?</p>
<p>Yes, I do too. I bet a lot of college kids feel that way. It's normal. Nothing to be worried about. </p>
<p>You should get a bf.</p>
<p>That's how the real world is</p>
<p>Yeah, that IS how the real world is. One of the big questions in life: do you have fewer, closer friends or more acquaintances. What's the right balance? IMO, one close, true friend is worth about 10,000 acquaintances.</p>
<p>I'll give you 8000 acquaintances and we'll make that a deal.</p>
<p>yeah its really bad, almost all the students at my college are commuters, so as soon they end their day, they just fly off.</p>
<p>I definitely had more close friends than acquaintances than when I was in high school. Back in HS, my friends and I all lived pretty far apart, and none of us had a car until end of our Junior year, so in general our hanging out time would end when we finished with clubs at the end of the day.</p>
<p>In college, everyone lives within walking (or quick bus ride) distance, so there was a lot more time to hang out, go out for dinner, or do stuff together. Also, problem sets until 5 AM do a lot for building friends and team spirit. Never had anything of that sort in HS.</p>
<p>Agreed. I went to a small high school, so my friends and I were in a lot of the same classes together. We were all in the same clubs, etc. So we spent a lot of time together.
Also, speaking of problem sets at 5AM, my HS friends and I were all horrible procrastinators and I recall a few nights of being on AIM with them until 3 in the morning talking about finishing projects.</p>
<p>Good times.</p>
<p>In college, it's so much harder to coordinate schedules, everone's so busy. I think the key is making friends with people who are involved in the same extracurriculars as you are.</p>
<p>sometimes it's easier to have close friends in college if those are the people you happen to hang out with the most. but hanging out the most doesn't mean they're automatically your closest friends IMO. but some people you enjoy being with more you never see because it's inconvenient, you dont live near them, you have your own "friend groups" etc. so i agree, it's harder to build a relatoinship.</p>
<p>you'll have a lot of acquaintense though, that's a given, cause a lot of peopl eyou meet you never really see again or maybe you just see walking around but don't do anything witht hem. </p>
<p>but regardless of what happens, if by close friends you mean people you can really talk to not just people you party with or hang out with in large groups a lot, those aren't too common in life in general not just college...</p>
<p>i have the opposite problem. I have my boyfriend and a really close best friend, as well as maybe 2 other close friends here at college, but don't really have a large group of "acquaintances"...i have seen how most people have A LOT of "friends," so i thought maybe i had the bad end of it, but i spoke to an RA about it and he said that i have the ideal situation. the only thing i did to change this situation i guess was to begin spending all my time with the people i cared about most. the others, they are just kind of "there" now, i am friendly with them, but i stopped making an effort because i knew they wouldn't be there for me when i really needed them.</p>
<p>I have definitely found this to be true at least for me and I really don't like it.</p>
<p>That's so true. I'm pretty invovled, so I tend to know people, so friends I'm with are always like "you know so many people!!" but in reality I know them on a superficial level and I don't actually hang out with them. I really only have 5 or 6 people that I actually hang out with. And even those people I don't know that well compared to high school friends. It doesn't really bother me, though. My personality doesn't require close friends- I prefer a lot of friends that I don't know so well.</p>
<p>MNKeeper, I have the same "characteristic" property as you. i tend to know more ppl, yet keep them at a certain distance. why?> no clue, just the way i am.</p>
<p>i feel the complete opposite....when i talk to people i know superficially i get bored of the conversation and feel kind of awkward. i'm always trying to see if i can reach some "new level" with them. some people i never do so i kind of forget about them...some work out.</p>
<p>remember that you've really been in college for only 15-18 weeks--it takes longer than that to make real friends. keep things in perspective. the lifelong friends will come in time.</p>
<p>Being active in dorm leadership, at the end of my sophomore year, I think I could recognize a thousand people by name and face. Close friends . . . my roommate, an RA from another floor, and one of the girls in one of my activities. </p>
<p>These were people that I could just hang with, watch a movie, or even do solo studying and not feel awkward. I don't think there are that many people in any given place that you can feel that connected with.</p>
<p>i definetly dont feel the closeness to my college friends yet as i do from my friends from home who ive been friends with for years. could be the time thing and the fact that i wasted time in the beginning of the year hanging with one group that i really dont mesh with.</p>
<p>now i have friends scattered all over the place, and i hang out with a different group of people every night of the weekend. its nice that way casue i get to meet tons of people and change it up. but i do miss having that bond with 14 best friends from home. it will come with time as some acquaintances turn into great friendships</p>