<p>Eh. I've been into this one guy for the last three months (not counting the time when things were only friendly, just the time we've been hanging out alone a lot and stuff)...but yeah...I'm not so sure what I want anymore. Things are complicated. </p>
<p>I've reopened myself to other possibilities, though, and have several options...but nobody has caught my interest like the other guy has. </p>
<p>Like I said, I'm not sure what I want anymore. I just know that it's going to take someone really awesome to distract me from the other guy.</p>
<p>I'm kinda having the problem of dating two girls at the same time...my ex from back home i still see sometimes, and now I'm seeing a girl at school I really like. It's so damned complicated!</p>
<p>I think I'm the only one in the group who knows this other guy in our group is gay (he told me). A girl friend thinks the guy is coming on to her (her theory is that he's bisexual, even though I insist otherwise. I haven't told her that he is actually gay, since he's not comfortable being out to everyone), but because she thinks I like the guy (I used to but not anymore), she avoids being alone with the two of us. As a result, the three of us don't do anything together. The solution to this is that he discloses his sexual orientation to everyone, but I don't think he's ready to do that yet. Also, the guy and I are interested in other people (interests which are reciprocated) but because we don't really understand what's going on between us, we are afraid to make a move on the other people, leaving us in a state of limbo. We are both fiercely independent and kinda proud, thus we don't want to be the first to say "stop pretending that you like me" because we're afraid that one of us doesn't like the other in the first place. My situation is more complicated than yours, mightymeals, but I really don't mind. It's an interesting dilemma that has given me much to think about.</p>
<p>Mine is good, for once. :) It's funny, in high school I was always the single one among my friends, now I'm the only one of my close friends here who's in a relationship.</p>
<p>Not to say that actually getting to this point wasn't filled with ups-and-downs, drama, peer-counseling, awkward moments (days, weeks), and not to say that everything's perfect now, but life's good for once.</p>
<p>Vail has a point...to an extent, but I think it's important to form relationships with people other than just friendship. </p>
<p>I didn't do the dating thing much in high school because, frankly, I thought 99% of the guys in my area were douche-bags, and I had better things to do with my time anyway. The only downsides to saving myself all of the drama then is that I'm probably worse than most guys about expressing emotions and am overly sensitive to clinginess. So yeah...I'd rather not be 25 and still not be able to let someone get close enough to actually have a meaningful relationship with. You've got to learn at some point, you know.</p>
<p>The key to dating in college is balance...and avoiding the fickle hook-up type relationships if that's not your thing. Put academics first, of course, but at least keep yourself open to the possibility of a relationship.</p>
<p>Wow, I can't believe there are still people here that think college is all about academics. College is all about learning how to be successful in life, and learning how to start/maintain romantic relationships is a big part of that (unless you're asexual). Most college kids will be lucky if they remember 10% of the material they learn in college, but we will remember HOW to do things, whether it be how to write a paper, do a calculus problem, or pick up chicks.</p>
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<p>I think that if I'm paying thousands of dollars to get an education, that should be my top priority, not dating. HOWEVER, I do believe that if a guy I like is interested in me, then I will pursue that opportunity. You have to realize that not everyone is ready to be in a commited relationship. If you find that weird, then you're probably going to find that the fact that a lot of professors (associate professors who are in their late 30s) are not dating anyone and are single. Either they haven't found the right one, or they are too busy for dating (constantly doing research etc.). I'm doing a lot more here at the university than just studying all day (I hang out with my friends, I'm involved in a lot of activities) but if the right opportunity comes along...I'm not going to brush it off.</p>
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And I have to agree with Vail in every post he makes on this site. He is a man of true knowledge.
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<p>Thanks DeluxeHardballer! I'm just Thankful that I can share my opinion with others in a way that it gets across to them, and I admit, I have been enjoying my time on these boards quite a bit as of late.</p>
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<p>Nah, stable friendships are fine with me, and I'd prefer those anyday over "romance" (if you'd even call it that, especially at the college level).</p>
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<p>Not necessarily, I suppose, if marriage is something you want to do, then yes, you would have to learn at some point. Now here's where I would argue that college is NOT that point.</p>
<p>On the other hand if you're someone like me, who isn't interested in marriage, then no, you don't have to learn, and you can live just fine without those skills.</p>
<p>That is assuming of course, by "relationship", you mean a 'romantic relationship' and not just friendship. Because (as I said before) I value friendships, and I would definitely encourage those in college or any other point in life.</p>
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<p>Lol, why are you already making these decisions!?!?!?! LIVE LIFE!</p>
<p>willmingtonwave: You seemed to be criticizing Vail for not being interested in marriage, and that he should 'live life'. I was attempting to point out that 'life' is not the equivalent 'marriage' ("!=" is a common symbol for 'not equal', often used in computer code). That is, Vail's lack of interest in marriage does not constitute a failure to 'live life', as you seemed to imply.</p>
<p>a little off topic here, but not exactly...</p>
<p>is it common for ppl to date or have an intimate relationship with their college professors especially very young ones, like professors in their late 20s?</p>
<p>i know of several girls (mostly freshman/sophomore) going to colleges and universities in the Boston area who do secretly have a serious relationship going on with young professors.... is this common at all?</p>