<p>Try looking into Santa Monica College. (If you decide to come back to California that is.) It has the number one transfer rate into UCLA, and USC. On average the local CC will send off about 80-150~ or so students to UCLA, but SMC sends, on average, almost 600 every year. (For the past three or four years.) Also something to think about is that you might want to find a professor or two at your CC who has some sort of connection to the top schools. Look for people who did their post grad, or UG work at an Ivy. (Any top school will suffice, as most of these people tend to have friends at "other" schools. It's the good ol' boy network at its finest.) Honestly, many people here tend to get too caught up on the prestige game, and what that means for admission. Sure some things are common sense. For example, Stanford requires extremely high SAT scores for admission in general, and even more so for their transfers. May not be the smartest choice if you don't have a unique and outstanding package. MANY schools, however, will take you even if you don't have the "correct" academic formula, BECAUSE OF your interesting background, not in spite of it. It's all about the spin. Work really hard on your essays, and I think you have a great shot at the top 30 in either category. Look into Liberal Arts Colleges who are connected to big name schools. For example, Swarthmore is connected to UPenn. </p>
<p>Also, how far are you willing to go? (Are you looking at a certain part of the country?) What do you intend to do with that major choice? You said you wanted top grad school placement. Are you going for Law school, or graduate studies in international affairs? These might be some helpful questions to answer because a school like Georgetown will help you go very far in both of those directions. (If you have a high, not Ivy high, SAT score then you have a great shot at GU.) </p>
<p>Don't let people tell you that you don't have a shot at great schools. Keep up the high GPA, be a good dad, husband, and live your life. Find passions that will cross over as great EC's, and make sure that what's on paper is simply a reflection of the journey you, and your family, have had so far. Make sure they know you mean to succeed, and have found the strength to do so because of the experiences you have had. When people read your essay they should know that becoming a family man so young, and pursuing your dream for a top education has been fulfilling, challenging, and eye opening. (Even if it hasn't been you might want to implement that.) These guys want to see some sort of intellectual virtuoso, so at the very least give them something to tear up or laugh about. </p>
<p>Also, check up on some of the school's policies on GED's. Sometimes the CC education will cancel it out, and sometimes they just don't accept it. Other schools, mostly the UC's, really don't care as long as you transfer from a CCC.</p>
<p>I admire your courage at taking on both the challenge of a family, and the challenge of acquiring a top education. I wish you the best of luck.</p>