competition between friends..how many suffer (or enjoy) it?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>how many of you suffer (or enjoy, for that matter) academic competitions with your friends? i seriously don't.</p>

<p>it's one thing when it's cousins. they're always family, they probably don't go to the same school as you, so it's not big deal. with friends however, doesn't the competition get in BETWEEN the friendships? isn't it annoying?</p>

<p>one of my close friends began competing with me just this year. she'd always try to beat me in physics and history, and whenever she did, she'd go, "i got a 96, i'm so happy, oh what did * you* get?" and when i told her my grade, and if it happened to be lower, she'd go "oh, phew." if i happened to score higher, her response would be a long sigh.</p>

<p>it really grew us apart this year. i don't care about competing with my friends (especially close ones). sure, i'd compete with a jerk that liked to show off, but someone i've had fun with and etc, not a chance.</p>

<p>i was just retrospecting, and that thought just happened to pop up..</p>

<p>anyone else gone through something similar?</p>

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<p>Not really I really don't care for competition.</p>

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<p>^ i don't either! but it's so irritating when someone turns a friendship into a race ><</p>

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<p>Who the heck ENJOYS ACADEMIC competition between Friends?</p>

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<p>someone who consistently beats their friends in the competition, duh! lolol</p>

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<p>Just realized how amusing your username sounds: "ASIAN SENSATION".</p>

<p>The mere reason you face competition academic-wise is the fact that you're korean. Nothing more, nothing less. Welcome to the crappiness of life. Just to let you know, true friends don't seriously compare their marks with each other.</p>

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<p>Wow Asian Sensation, you're slowly becoming a disciple of AOM! You joined TWO days ago with 110+ posts and 15 threads!</p>

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<p>@invoyable
lol good one there.</p>

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<p>^ no, i just have a lot to talk about..</p>

<p>jeeezz, is that so wrong =_= lol</p>

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<p>She can't keep up with me. :)</p>

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<p>i don't want to keep up with you, lol (:</p>

<p>but BACK to the thread- jeezz</p>

<p>has no one faced anything similar?!</p>

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<p>Well, simply earn higher scores than her. </p>

<p>That would shut her up for good, and eventually cease the comparison since your scores are above the roof for her. :) </p>

<p>hahaha, gotta love my advice.</p>

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<p>^ that would make sense, i just wish i didn't have classes with her. i have chem/history/eco with her next year.</p>

<p>i'm sitting away from her actually. she has too much nervous + negative energy around her from the whole militant attitude, loll</p>

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<p>Lmao........</p>

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<p>"she has too much nervous + negative energy around her from the whole militant attitude"</p>

<p>Is she growing a mustache too?</p>

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<p>I don't really like it. It's sort of different for me, because somehow I became some golden standard for grades.
Once I remember I got an 84 and my friend got an 80. His dad got mad at him, but then he said "But [name] got an 84! It was a hard test!" And then it wasn't so bad...
Another friend of mine sometimes calculates his scores out of [name]: his score/my score. He strives for 90% of [name].</p>

<p>Yeah, a lot of times, when people "beat" me on something, some go bragging "I beat [name]! I beat [name]!" It gets annoying, but I guess it makes me feel okay because they feel that's such an accomplishment to beat me.</p>

<p>Sometimes, I also feel embarrassed when when I get a high score and people ask about it. Especially in one class, where I was named the "curve destroyer."</p>

<p>Mostly we all want each other to do well, though. I think the OP should try to just be less concerned with her friend's competition. Make sure YOU discourage the competition by congratulating her when she does well.</p>

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<p>"Make sure YOU discourage the competition by congratulating her when she does well."</p>

<p>You never know, she could actually take it the amiss way.</p>