Condescending "friend"

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<p>So, I'm currently staying with a friend from high school right now for break in NYC and it is just awful. During my entire stay, she just kept on talking about schools, schools, and...schools. Whenever we are walking around her school's campus, she would always talk about how great her school is (I don't have a problem with this), but then she somehow always brings up my school and always have something negative to point out about it. If I promptly defend my school, she finds some other way to say something bad about it. It's just getting really annoying because I am here to have a good time, but it's like some competition now. She didn't even used to be this way.</p>

<p>Here's a bit more background: My friend couldn't pick her dream school because it was too expensive, so she settled for a tier 2 school in NYC, but she is getting a FULL-RIDE with study abroad opportunities, exclusive internships--all for free! I go to a more "renown" school, but I NEVER EVER brag or even talk about my school when we hang out. Just recently, she's just been all about school and talking about how bad she feels for everyone else because they will walk out with debt and she wont. She always says stuff like,"What can you possibly do in your college town? I have access to the city and everything." I don't even start it. </p>

<p>And she's always insulting my other friend's schools; it's so annoying. One of my friends is going to community college because she couldn't afford NYU, but this friend is always talking down on her because of her decisions. I also have friends going to some public universities like Pitt and Penn State, and she is always just saying bad stuff about how those schools aren't great as they are cracked up to be. When I told her that I was thinking about attempting to transfer to NYU or USC for a better program, she just laughed at me and said,"Well, good luck with that" in a very sarcastic tone. I'm really disappointed with my visit because I came to explore the city, catch up with her and have a good time, but college really changed her. I'm going back home tomorrow and I cannot wait. Anyone else have a similar kind of situation?</p>

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<p>sounds like a great friend you got there.</p>

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<p>She’s probably just been experiencing cognitive dissonance at the fact that she couldn’t attend her dream school, so she’s reducing that by convincing herself her school is the only good choice and everyone else’s choices are wrong. Don’t worry about her.</p>

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<p>you go to a ‘world “renown” school’ and she goes to a ‘tier 2 school’. enough said. the matter is closed.</p>

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<p>Sometimes people attempt to mask their own jealousy and insecurities by doing this. You are the better person by taking the high road and not even getting into it with her over her comments. And if you want to transfer to a better program you should! Do not let her comments bring you down. I wouldn’t be making any more trips there if I were you. :)</p>

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<p>She’s just jealous. You go to the better school :)</p>

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<p>That sounds exactly like a girl I used to be friends with. We’re both hs seniors, and she is so competitive. She tries to compete with me academically, musically (we play the same instrument), and with the prestige of the schools we are applying to. I just slowly started talking to her less and less. Now we don’t talk at all, and I’m much happier.</p>