<p>Ok, so i've been dealing with some cruel people as i'm about to leave college and I was wondering if anyone has dealt with this issue. A couple of my "friends" and family deliberately ignore me and act condescending right before I leave. I never understand what I do that makes them mad. They ask me, "Hey, what college are you going to," so I respond, "I'm going to college X." Then it's like automatic hatred and just act really rude for no reason. I'm not the type of person who flashes education into people's faces and I never brag about it but I feel like i get some uncalled for behaviors from people when they know i'm going to college. Does anyone experience this, too? Thanks...</p>
<p>:( I’m sorry OP. That’s weird though. If I was your friend or family member, I wouldn’t want to spend my last days before you go off to college fighting with you. I hope everything works out. Maybe ask them what’s the issue? I find that some people have different ways of showing their emotions. Maybe through being rude to you their expressing their feeling of missing you when you leave. </p>
<p>Hope all works out OP :)</p>
<p>I get the impression that these people didn’t go to college? Or went to really crummy ones and never tried to improve? I wouldn’t let it get to you. They may not even be aware of their hostility but sometimes people resent others who have what they never had. It ain’t your fault; you applied yourself and you’re making something of yourself. Don’t try to appease them.</p>
<p>Be condescending back. Constantly remind them that you’re superior and far more intelligent than them. Don’t be afraid to get a little cocky. =D</p>
<p>some of these “people” include the OP’s family members. If ur family can’t be happy for you going to college, then there’s something seriously wrong here.</p>
<p>Thanks for the responses, guys.</p>
<p>I’m thinking it might be jealousy. The members of my family who act hostile towards me aren’t that close to me, but they live close by. When I went and visited my cousins, they just both asked me what I wanted to do with my life, so I tell them honestly…but every time I talk about careers and school with them, they get very passive aggressive. For example: When I told my cousins that I would like to teach media/film at college level eventually, they started criticizing my school for it saying that, “That school isn’t good for what you’re doing.” Or telling me how to go about my career and picking out the so-called “mistakes” i’ve already made (meaning the school I picked is wrong for me). It really irks me because i’ve always been supportive of them, but I just leave before it gets uglier. My uncle would also ask me what my major is, and when I tell him it’s English, he just laughs at me, thinking that English is the study of our language, which isn’t exactly what English is. </p>
<p>I just feel really crumby because I don’t want to leave on bad terms, but a part of me wants to just leave everyone behind (because NO ONE in my family does anything beyond the town we live in). I only feel like my true support is my sister, mom, my other family members in a different country, and a few close friends. I just hate leaving on a bad note. Ugh.</p>
<p>You can always try and mend things. But some people are just totally set in their ways. Try not to let it get to you. You’re goin on to bigger and better things. You say nobody in your family does anything outside of your town, frankly it sounds like they could be resentful that you’re leaving for something else but hey that’s the way things go sometimes.</p>
<p>Are you going out-of-state? Or to a private?</p>