<p>I was all set in high school. High GPA, SAT, recs, essays...had it all. I got into a couple good schools, namely NYU Stern and Boston College. So I picked NYU after a little while, and here I am now. A month and a few days into school, and I absolutely hate it. Now, I'm pretty sure what is wrong. I mean I've come to the realization that I don't like big classes, don't like being away from home, and don't like the city. I mean, I can't sleep at night it is that bad. I came to you all for advice on how to get into college, now I come to you asking what should I do. My parents say give it a year, but I don't think I'll be capable of that. I've already applied to schools closer to home for the spring semester, but I'd be giving up a lot by leaving, as you all know. Stern is a topnotch business school, I don't doubt that. What I do doubt, however, is if I even want to pursue a career in business, as well as where I would wish to pursue it. Thank you all for reading this.</p>
<p>Use the college counseling center because you also may be suffering from depression. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and out of sorts when one first goes away to college. The new environment, independence, etc. can be difficult to cope with. Getting counseling now will help you adjust better and also will help you figure out whether or not to transfer.</p>
<p>Many times, students who hate their colleges during the first couple of months, by winter break love their college because they've found friends and have a better sense of who they are and how to handle the experience.</p>
<p>gold,</p>
<p>I know how you feel, but do NOT give up. Listen to your parents, give it time, and use the resources that NYU offers such as the counceling. Best wishes.</p>
<p>give it some time. I hated it when I got there too, but with time you'll find your own little niche in the school.</p>
<p>Give it a year. Could easily go uphill from here.</p>
<p>I don't think people are completely considering Gold Platinum's situation. He is in New York City for Christ's sake, and he can't sleep. NYC is definitely overwhelming. I think if you'd be happier in a suburban area, go for it. See if BC will take you back. And although Stern is amazing, it is not the only business school around. I'd suggest Bentley or Babson. Yeah they may not have Stern's prestige but both specialize in business.</p>
<p>What exactly do you not like about it? </p>
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<li><p>If you don't like the big classes - don't worry! Stern is a specific business school, so I'm thinking once you complete the core curriculum that is required of all the majors, you will be having specialized business courses. This will lead to a much smaller class size and classes with other people who are in Stern. Only the first year or so will be huge classes - and they will only continue getting smaller each year. </p></li>
<li><p>Have you not made friends? Of course, you're only a month into school, so maybe you haven't had the chance to make enough friends yet. Are you being active and outgoing? Join some clubs and maybe join a business fraternity in Stern if you haven't already! They don't seem to party too much but you can make friends there. You can join some clubs with your culture or your interests. Good luck with making friends if thats the problem!</p></li>
<li><p>How do you know you don't want to pursue business? I mean there are many things you can do with business - there's so many majors. And don't forget you can do a double major/minor in CAS too! Have you even had many business courses this early in the year? Of course if you really hate it, you should transfer out.</p></li>
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<p>Good luck with everything - try to stay a while longer and if you still cant fit in definitely transfer. NYU is an expensive school too, especially if you are not enjoying it.</p>
<p>I am also curious as to WHY exactly you don't like it? I am in fact planning to go there....</p>
<p>The idea of staying someplace you hate for a year would seem overwhelming to me. But how about sticking it out for the rest of the semester? That probably seems more doable.... I also would postpone any decisions about "the future" until after you've completed your semester. Important decisions should not be made when you are feeling under stress and who knows? You might start feeling more at home in a month or two. </p>
<p>I went to a college with a total enrollment of 425 students -- and my first class had 103 students! Sometimes those intro classes that fulfill requirements are huge but class sizes decrease dramatically when you get past some of those. You also may start to enjoy New York more once you start making more friends. If you are not in an activity, join a group that revovles around something you love. If nothing else, find a study group -- or start one! </p>
<p>In short, plan to stay where you are until the December break. Do you know the song, "Love the one your with?" Make it your theme song for the next few weeks. Get the most you can out of your classes, take advantage of the cultural and social options available, try to make as many friends as you can over the next few weeks. You will either come to love your current choice or know for certain that it is not a good fit.</p>
<p>Gold,</p>
<p>I was in similar shoes frosh yr: I hated BC and was convinced I would transfer. I sent out a transfer application around this time of the year ... then midterms past and Thanksgiving break came. I wasn't planning to go home since my family is far and not that well-off, but my parents surprised me with a plane ticket. I can't say exactly what it was, but those few days home changed everything. Maybe I just needed to get it out of my system, but by Sunday I actually missed BC and was psyched to be heading back to Boston. And I've been happy at BC since (check out my screen name if you have any doubt about that). </p>
<p>So my advice is to take a break from New York and spend some time home if you can, even if it's just over a long weekend. Even if you don't end up itching to get back to school as I did, it will definitely help put things in perspective. And you'll get some good sleep and be re-energized to tackle whatever is ahead.</p>