<p>I have had my roommate for about three months now, and I added her on FB. We talked a couple of hours on the first day, but now we barely talk. I want to get to know her better before moving in, but I don't want to be annoying. How would I do that? We have talked about the basic dorm stuff, but I don't like to be the one starting the conversation (especially when she doesn't reply to questions I ask her about the room). When we do text it is every few weeks, and it isn't even more than 20 minutes. I am not trying to be the girl who wants to be best friends with her roommate.</p>
<p>Should I let her approach me? Any tips for conversation starters that aren't about the dorms or background information (hobbies, school, family)? Her hesitation makes me feel like she has a problem towards me, or she might be really shy.</p>
<p>It sounds like she just might not be interested in getting super personal before moving in, and try not to take that personally. If you’ve tried to ask her basic questions about herself but she only wants to talk about the dorm, I would go with that for now so you don’t seem clingy. She’ll probably be more open once you guys meet in person, or there’s a chance that she won’t and that’s ok too - remember that you really don’t have to be best friends with your roommate; as long as you guys respect each other in the room that’s what’s really important. So if she’s giving you the vibe that she’s uncomfortable, I’d say hold off on that stuff for now and just talk about the dorm - remember you’ll have a full year to get to know her once you get to college :)</p>
<p>She may be shy, she could just not really know what else to talk about (meeting roommates is almost like going on a blind date!), or she could be busy with work/camp/etc. People often cram a LOT of things into that last free summer, like vacations, visiting friends and family, and working to save money, so she could just not realize she’s being a little flaky</p>
<p>Eh no need to find any reason to dislike them before you in person meet. I had found a roommate via fb to dorm with, but then once we started talking more and stuff i realized i didn’t get along with this person like I thought, so I cancelled the roommate confirmation and am now gonna be assigned someone random, I plan to not online message them, or if they contact me just talk about dorm stuff.</p>
<p>May be she doesn’t want to be friendly with you. This may be due to so many reasons like busy schedule or shy in nature. In this situation after some time she will frank with you.</p>
<p>She may be busy, have things going on in her life, etc. Without knowing her that well, you can’t really judge. I wouldn’t press the issue. Just wait until you guys move in.</p>