<p>So my school released our roommate's contact info last week, and I found mine on Facebook and messaged her. We started a conversation and she was extremely friendly and I was happy that I didn't have some grumpy, unfriendly roommate. However, in the middle of our conversation, she randomly stopped answering me. I messaged her a couple of days later to give her my correct contact info,and again, no answer. She was on several times after that, and I went back over my message to make sure I hadn't said anything to offend her, and I didn't think I had. At first I was somewhat bummed out because I was kind of hoping to get along well with my roommate. But I know a lot of people say "you don't have to be friends with your roommate, just amicable." So I'm not really so much worried about getting along with her, even though she suddenly seemed to not want to talk, but I'm moreso worried about living with her. If she really doesn't happen to like me, I'm just a little bit worried about leaving my things in the room unattended when I go to class. I mean, I don't think she would be the type to steal or deface my things, but I'm still slightly worried about leaving my laptop and such. Furthermore, I was kind of hoping to have a rapport with her before we moved in so that we could discuss things such as guests spending the night, sleep times, sleeping with a fan/window open, and issues like that. However, I'm a little worried that now we won't really able to discuss these things, even when we're actually at school, if she's not receptive to it.</p>
<p>I'm sorry that this post is long, and I'm doubly sorry if my question is stupid or unclear, I'm just a little confused about what to do since this will be my first time away from home. I would just appreciate any suggestions of how I should handle the situation/if I should even care or worry. Thanks in advance for any help!</p>
<p>People forget to respond to Facebook messages all the time. Sometimes I read the message on my phone or iPod and then completely forget to respond once I log onto Facebook on my laptop (since I don’t see a new notification since it’s already been read). Also, sometimes people may log onto Facebook for a quick status update or wall post but don’t have time to type out a long message. I’d maybe write on her wall asking if she got your message (or perhaps e-mail or text her if you have that info?). I doubt she was offended. Good news is I think you’re probably overreacting I’m sure it’ll all work out just fine!</p>
<p>Is there any chance her internet/computer broke? She went on vacation? She works? She’s taking classes? She was grounded/banned from the computer?</p>
<p>Chill out and stop overreacting because she didn’t respond to your facebook message. More than once have I read a new message on my phone and told myself I’d reply when I got home, then forget because I didn’t get a new message notification.</p>
<p>You’re worrying too much. That’s how my roommate was when I was emailing him before we met up. He would respond with like four word emails to my paragraph long questions. Turns out that I couldn’t get him to shut up when we met up in College. Real great down to Earth guy. I think you’re over analyzing and should just wait until you guys meet up.</p>
<p>Not trying to be mean, but people, it’s ****ing facebook. Get over it. Stop worrying about it. People are different on FB than real life. Seriously, it’s plain stupid to actually sit there reloading FB to constantly stalk a person and see when they respond. Grow up. There are way too many kids coming on here complaining because of a FB “snub.” It’s facebook. It’s not worth getting upset about anything related to facebook courtesy. If you’re concerned about something so stupid, you may be too immature for college. If you read CC, you’d see that a bunch of other worry warts posted essentially the same topic, meaning it’s fairly common. </p>
<p>it’s really, really stupid to get upset that someone was online and not focused on communicating with solely you. you don’t get a notification on a message, just a little red popup, meaning it’s really easy to miss. Don’t read so much into facebook. It’s kind of scary.</p>
<p>^I don’t think she was necessarily “stalking” via Facebook. She just wants to communicate with her roommate before move-in day (which is highly recommended by the way).</p>
<p>Anyways, as for the rules for roommates, I heard most colleges require roommates to make a contract - listing absolute no-no’s, deciding visitor hours, study hours, about guests, sharing and absolute ‘no touch’ items, etc. I was actually really worried about the roommate situation too. The university I will be attending has a move-in day and a “welcome week” before classes start, so we have plenty of time. *Just make sure you and your roommate lay down the rules (compromise!) A.S.A.P. after you both move-in to avoid problems later on.</p>
<p>As for not replying on FB, I do that (most often, accidentally) all the time. xD It’s hard to keep track of notifications or I’d like to reply when I have more time on my hands. This may be for your roommate’s case. As long as you got the basics (such as 1 item only items that you guys would share: refrigerator, microwave), you should be fine for now.</p>
<p>My roommate did that, too. In the end we didn’t get along but I don’t think anything in our first email conversations caused that or were indicative that we wouldn’t get along. I wouldn’t worry. Some people just aren’t as fixated on this kind of stuff. Try not to take it personally.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone who gave helpful advice! I’m not gonna worry about it too much. I hope we end up getting along, but either way, I’ll be happy. [:</p>
<p>Another quick question: Where would I find a laptop lock? Would they just be at a store like Best Buy or Staples or Office Depot?</p>
<p>Try thinking of a short question to ask her after your last one. Then she’ll get a new notification that she has a message. If she forgot to reply before, that will remind her.</p>
I’m sure it’ll all work out just fine!</p>