<p>ok, i know we're all trying to stay positive here but we have to face the very real fact that many of us will be rejected. i, personally, am expecting 3 rejections in the next week but even though i'm expecting them i still feel like i won't be able to handle it when i actually have them in my hands. so my question is, how do/will YOU cope with rejection? any tips?</p>
<p>before i applied EA to Yale, I made a list of 100 reasons I didn't want to go there and put it in an envelope... when i was deferred, i opened it up and laughed for a while</p>
<p>The best way to cope with a rejection is to consider your other options. There is no point in mourning about something that can never be, you know what I mean? So, just look for the positives, and think about all the colleges that have accepted you (Hopefully a good list). Since there is no way to change the outcome of a decision, might as well think about the positives. (I suggest watching Comedy Central for the whole day :D)</p>
<p>I like that idea of thinking about all of the colleges that did accept you or most likely will accept you. Because it really doesnt make sense spending your whole 4 years whereever u may end up saying "what if". I say, think about how u can make the most out of the colleges u did get accepted to, and ur 'rejection' if it comes wont be that bad...thats what i try to do.</p>
<p>I'd say it's probably a little easier on me because I applied to a bunch that are around the same "tier" as each other (Wake, Duke, WM, URichmond, Davidson). I haven't really set my heart on going to any of these places yet, so a couple rejections shouldn't hurt me too much...I'll move on. In fact, it'll make my final decision a little easier.</p>
<p>Any of these places will give me a great education...besides, college is about what YOU make of it.</p>
<p>Stay positive, you guys! It is almost the end of our journey, so dont give up or lose faith yet!!!! SO what if duke rejects some of us, you know?</p>
<p>We are all going to end up at great schools and have a great time in college (I hope...and if not, there's always transferring...). The bottom line is that college will be what you make of it...if you spend four years crying about the fact that you didnt get in to your top school, college is going to suck! (I am probably gonna be rejected from my top choice...Ive come to that realization already...).</p>
<p>GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!</p>
<p>one, even two, rejections in one week i can handle. but all 3?? especially if everyone around me gets all acceptance letters..</p>
<p>BUT like you all said, i will try to think positively. i did already get into UNC-CH and U of Michigan so even if i don't get into those top private schools, i've still got two of the best public schools in the country to choose from :)</p>
<p>Yeah, thats they best way to go...i wish i could sort of fast forward to Wednesday to see if i got in...</p>
<p>I got Waitlisted today....Twice....(Northwestern and Davidson)....</p>
<p>There go my chances at Duke...</p>
<p>Do you guys need Duke to be successful in life? Are you half the personjust because you dont got to Duke? Nope. If Duke rejects anyone of you tell them, whatever. Whatever! Tell yourself that they missed out on an amazing applicant. I really want to go to Duke too, it is my top choice, but I know that admissions selections has less to do with me as a person than it does with pure chance. I am qualified to go to Duke, I would be successful and I know it. If they dont accept me, or anyone else on this board, they messed up. Period. Same goes for all you guys, you are all qualified, it is up to that one representative from your area that reads thousands of applications and says which kids they want and dont want. A PERSON IS DETERMINING YOUR ADMISSION TO DUKE, NOT GOD NOT SOME AMAZING ALL KNOWING ENTITY! I will still be here checking these posts like crazy, but I will not be hurt if Duke rejects me. I will instead work harder in life to show them and anyone else that did not believe in me that they thought wrong. SO LETS LOOK FORWARD TO WEDNESDAY WITH FEARLESS POSITIVE ATTITUDES.</p>
<p>I LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE!!!!</p>
<p>And, i totally, absolutely, whole heartedly agree with you...i dont believe that my life is over if i get rejected from Duke, because whereever i go...i will make something out of it...I will make close friends, I will get that gorgeous girlfriend... I will have my flings and I will study my a** off...I dont have to go to Duke to do this and I dont have to get accepted into Duke to make myself complete.</p>
<p>I AM qualified for Duke, and I AM a wonderful applicant...just like the rest of you.</p>
<p>We all are great people and must prove that we can withstand any obstacle that faces us..even if its a rejection from Duke...So...like my dear friend said...WHATEVER!!!!!!</p>
<p>I will succeed at Duke or whereever else i go because i have the same amount of determination and effort that made me the person I am today!.</p>
<p>LOL mjs, what are you babbling about? HAHA....you are already IN cause of the minority recruitment thing like me.</p>
<p>I am just worried about UPENN. AH, my sweet, precious UPENN.</p>
<p>Bahamain: yes, you have an excellent chance of being accepted. And everyone is right; a piece of paper from some people you've never met and who really don't know you can't define you. In fact, where you go to college can't define you. Anyone who likes to think that where they go to school validates them as a person is weak. Defy classification.</p>
<p>DMC: UPenn is a nice school, very tough to get into, nice place. Good luck.</p>
<p>"I am writing to let you know that the Admissions Committee has decided to defer its decision on your application for admission to Duke University until April 2005."</p>
<p>Ugh....those 1, 2, 3, 4, ......28 awful words that have plagued me for 4 months will soon be replaced....Hopefully with "CONGRATULATIONS!"</p>
<p>Great positive attitudes guys! (and girls?)</p>
<p>I would be optomistic if i was in the normal pool, if i was not applying for financial and if i wasnt a int'l student. 25 students out of possibly thousands is a long shot for me...Sorry, but i refuse to set myself up to be disappointed..i just know that i am really a great applicant and would do well whereever i end up..even if it is the College of The Bahamas which is 3 miles from where i live.</p>
<p>CubsRule: I recite that letter to my friends...and they think it's really weird.</p>
<p>Whats weird about it?</p>
<p>haha, sometimes I open up the letter just so I can see the word 'defer.' Then I try to will it to change to 'accept' using my mind. It usually works better when I am sleeping.</p>
<p>That defering letter just kinda makes it seem like they fell asleep the night before all decisions were due and still had 100 left, and just weren't able to get to yours. Just me?</p>