<p>I'm not 100% which forum this should go in, but I think this is my best bet.</p>
<p>I'm on the verge of transferring from my current school, almost entirely because of something that happened to me on campus. The way the school handled it was atrocious—it was the worst thing that ever happened to me in my life, and everyone who was supposed to help me was downright mean to me me and only made things ten times harder on me.</p>
<p>I have, not once, found one member of the administration that has shown an ounce of warmth or caring. It was like, the second I came in saying someone was hurting me, everyone went from "we care about you" to "we're raging sociopaths." In a last-ditch attempt, I went to the president last month, and he smirked nastily at me and said, "I find it hard to believe anything you said," then told me if anything happened to me again, he was giving me no other option than to go back to the people I went to last time (which, by the way, my PTSD would probably prevent me from doing).</p>
<p>I just don't get it. I feel like they're giving me no choice but to leave. Are there schools that get enough applicants that they see their current students as disposable? It's horrifying: it's like everyone here is more nasty and dismissive than the next. Why? I can't make sense of it. How hard would it be to stop being a jerk for two minutes and keep me around?</p>
<p>I don’t know…I just don’t think I want to go into a lot of detail on a public forum. My real question was about why there would be a school that really doesn’t seem to want students to stick around, not specifically about what happened.</p>
<p>I can see why you don’t want to go into detail, but I don’t know what happened. All I can say is that I’m sure that the college didn’t say that they wanted to get rid of you, they’re just very inefficient and bureaucratic.</p>
<p>There is nothing we can say until we know what happened. Is it something you can go to the police about? If so, they are obligated to help you. And if it is a continuing problem, I’m rather sure the school could be in some very large trouble if they don’t at least try to help you.</p>
<p>Hello Jccm666,
As everybody said, we don’t know what is the seriousness of the incident,
But, if you are saying that it was the worst thing that happened in your life, then, I think it is a really bad thing,
What I can say, knowing this, is that you must search for answers,
Think seriously if the education that the University offers really worth all the things that happened with you, because of this incident,
Maybe, you’ll find the answer!
Did you talk with your parents? Maybe they can advise you better,
And, think, you talked with some people and they didn’t solve it. Ask them why they didn’t do something? Because they must do something, depending on the situation,
I hope I helped you,
Good Luck and Good Work,
Giulia.</p>
<p>yes, unfortunately, I was at a school where they wanted two students to leave - the college was in a bind because the student was breaking the law (drug addict, busted with lots of drugs on campus) and the other was an there on a long expired green card and INS was looking for him. </p>
<p>I’m sorry for your anguish and pain. I agree you need to speak with a support staff outside the administration - family, friends, counselor, medical staff outside of campus. Perhaps it’s time to enlist some support and have someone else come in on your behalf?</p>
<p>Okay. I’m going to try to sum this up, but it’ll be long. First, I had an abusive roommate my freshman year. She isn’t my roommate anymore, because the year ended. I definitely wasn’t doing anything illegal.</p>
<p>The problem is, according to the school, nothing happened, and it’s nothing I can prove. When I first asked for help, the residence hall director gave me an eyeroll and told me I was “being melodramatic.” After living with it for five months, I was on the verge of a breakdown, and the head of housing laughed at me and dismissed my entire side of the story as “crazy ranting.” According to the school, all of the problems I had were a result of me just being some kind of ranting lunatic.</p>
<p>What complicated it was that the school has a housing shortage, so there was literally nowhere to put me. When I came back in a crisis situation and was begging people for help, the head of housing acted like I was some sort of brat who was walking in and expecting people to wait on me hand and foot. Every time I’d say something, he’d lash out at me and tell me I was entitled, demanding, and that I’d been being mean to my roommate. I tried to defend myself, but he’d just laugh and say it was crazy ranting.</p>
<p>I begged him to stop, telling him he was making things much harder on me. He ignored it and kept attacking me until I started to become suicidal, at which point my parents stepped in, and he put me in a hotel. He thought I should be kissing his feet, since I was such a horrible person and didn’t deserve it.</p>
<p>At this point, the administration seems to see me as a brat and an annoyance; they also deny that my roommate was doing anything. It doesn’t seem to matter what I say—they find a way to dismiss everything, and since they tell each other how horrible I am behind my back, I get dismissed before I can open my mouth. I had e-mails that showed what the head of housing had been saying to me, and the president still called me a liar. I don’t think a professional opinion would help… I just don’t understand why they can’t be nice for two minutes.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hate to say it, but you may want to rethink attending this school. Unfortunately, you need to stay calm until you can get what you need to transfer out of there. (i.e. recommendations, etc.) Other option which I’m sure you thought of is to move off campus and get the local police/law involved. (Take it out of the campus admin. control as much as possible.) You may have grounds for restraining orders, harassment charges, etc. many states now also have stronger stalking and bullying laws if this applies. I would encourage you to document and save any evidence you have…phone messages, e-mails, diary, etc. It’s obvious they had to believe something went down if they moved you out! Did you go to campus medical offices at all? Get your records, etc. Unfortunately, I’m not shocked a campus would want to sweep this under the rug! I was an R.A. and I had to deal with some stuff like this - I had to go to my parents and consult law enforcement on my own to help one of the students on my floor. The school was really ****ed at me (and the student that was the victim.) When police charged the other student, they shut up. Hang in there!</p>
<p>I’ve sent in transfer applications and am awaiting my decisions. Right now I’m counting down the days. </p>
<p>I don’t have evidence that can directly prove that she was doing anything. The main thing she was doing was sleep-depriving me on purpose; she didn’t sleep normal hours (she just took naps at random times) and kept me to four or five hours of sleep a night every night because she thought slamming things by my head while I was sleeping was funny. This happened dozens of times every night, for five months. She also screamed at me about pretty much everything I did and came up with absurd stories about how everything bad that happened to her was my fault. (She was on the verge of failing out, so she was having a lot of problems.)</p>
<p>My digestive system basically started to fail from the extreme stress (according to the doctors in the student Health Center, it has to do with seratonin in the abdomen), so I couldn’t eat without getting sick, and I started having daily panic attacks when she was waking me up; I do have health records about these things. The problem is, I can’t prove what caused them. The school claims I just had a mental problem and couldn’t handle being at college, and that was the issue, which was why they had to move me.</p>
<p>The head of housing even went so far as to chastise my mother for sending someone so mentally unstable away to school. Thanks a lot… Of course, when I ask why I was fine until my roommate got the notice she was on academic probation (that was when it started), and have been fine this year, I don’t get an answer.</p>
<p>This is so sad. It took courage for you to hang in there so long - at that time in my life, I don’t know if I would have been as strong. IMHO, this is clear cut bullying…hopefully, you will get the transfer info. soon! Do you still see this ex-roomie around campus - is this person still harassing you? (I hope not, but if so please be careful.) Also, when you are out of this school I would go public with the lack of care and concern they showed you—you have a lot of social media sites to choose from (like CC) but first, stay safe and move on from that mess. I hope you met one or two decent prof. & counselors along the way. Hang in there! I believe you…go on and be the best you can be!</p>