<p>Ok so I maybe going to SF state this fall, and I maybe staying in a dorm. As a freshman of course, which maybe the problem altogether. Anyways how it normally appears to be is that for the first year in college you get a tiny room that you share with some other random guy. Well that is how it was for my bro who went to Brown, are things any different at SF state? I doubt it by looking at the floorplans. Anyways I'm quite concerned about this, because not only do I not want to sleep in the same room as some other random dude, but I want my privacy! I mean even if we became good friends I would still want my privacy, or at least my own bedroom! Such living arrangement seems so draconian, like it's a prison cell or something. I know that is sort of stretching it, but doesn't anyone else feel really bothered (or claustrophobic) by such an arrangement?</p>
<p>On top of all this I want to bring my girlfriend with me......damn if anyone I would sleep in the same room in everyday it would be with my girlfriend. Yet I doubt the university would let her stay.....or would they? I mean even if I sneak her in my other roommate would have to be ok with it, let alone the fact that I wouldn't get my private love-makin times with her. So I don't know what to do. Apartments are just to expensive it seems, especially in SF.</p>
<p>Single room. But about the girlfriend thing, if she's moving with you and not going to the school, maybe you guys should share the cost of an apartment.</p>
<p>I made a pact with my roommate from the beginning that you have to find a place to stay for the night if I give you a signal and dont enter the room if I have a sock on the doorhandle. Sometimes I would put a sock on the doorhandle because I didnt want him in the room and for funs.</p>
<p>thats what being in college is all about. learning how to live with others in a dorm setting. good luck finding a place that allows freshmen to have singles.</p>
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Anyways I'm quite concerned about this, because not only do I not want to sleep in the same room as some other random dude, but I want my privacy! I mean even if we became good friends I would still want my privacy, or at least my own bedroom!
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It's not that bad. It's not like you have to sleep in the same bed or anything. Once you become an upperclassmen you might be able to get a single, but that's almost unheard of for freshman. </p>
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Such living arrangement seems so draconian, like it's a prison cell or something.
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Please... it's not that bad. Sure there are some things that are annoying but living in the dorms with a roommate during your first year is all part of the 'college experience.'</p>
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On top of all this I want to bring my girlfriend with me......damn if anyone I would sleep in the same room in everyday it would be with my girlfriend.
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Well that's not going to happen if you're living in the dorms your first year. If that's what you want then you'll need to rent a private apartment.</p>
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Yet I doubt the university would let her stay.....or would they? I mean even if I sneak her in my other roommate would have to be ok with it, let alone the fact that I wouldn't get my private love-makin times with her.
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Well you can probably have an overnight guest, but generally only for a day or two. It's your roommate's room too so it's quite unfair to them if you just bring along a lodger attached at the hip (not to mention the University would surely take issue with it). </p>
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So I don't know what to do. Apartments are just to expensive it seems, especially in SF. What could I possibly do?
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Either you live in the dorms as a normal freshman or you shell out the bucks for a private apartment.</p>
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Apartments are just to expensive it seems, especially in SF.
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<p>They're expensive because you're paying for a lot of room to yourself. Why do you think dorms are cheap? You can't have your cake and eat it, too.</p>
<p>Maybe instead of focusing on your living situation, you can just try to be the next Jim Jones, get some friends and have a party. :) Cause honestly you sound like a selfish, conceded b-astard.</p>
<p>Holy smokes. Shut up. Stop whining. It's part of college experience to be living so close to other freshmen. I'll bet that your relationship with your girlfriend will go out the window by the end of your freshman year. Both of you will grow up so much that you both might be pretty different people. Is this girlfriend going to SF State too? Each of you can take turns- sleep in her room for a night, next time she sleeps in yours, to give your roommates a chance NOT to have guests over all the time.</p>
<p>There is no such thing as ideal. It's what you make of it. No air conditioning? Oh saw-rry, buy a fan. Bunk bed? Flip a coin or trade off each month. No privacy? Check it out again- both of you will have pretty different schedules so you'll have the room to yourself for a couple hours a day. This isn't high school. Prison cell? Buy posters, curtains, any form of decoration to cover the walls and make the room look nicer- haven't you seen pictures of dorm rooms online? You wouldn't know it unless there was a caption attached!</p>
<p>Your parents really spoiled you kids into thinking you're so special that you should get what you want. Bad news. The colleges don't think so.</p>
<p>I think your future roommate should be more concerned about this situation than you. Suck it up. Either shell out the big bucks or grow some cajones and learn to live with other people. It's not a big deal. You'll only be strangers for a minute. Having a roommate and being social (gasp!) is crucial to actually enjoying college. Your girlfriend won't be there 24/7. It might be nice to have some friends. I know, radical, but just a thought.</p>
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na man i feel ya its tuff out there in college u just a # u kno instead of #1. u kno its like u luv ya gurl n u wanna b wit her but u gotta go party n u wanna go get drunk n go clubbin u kno. so u jus gotta break it off college is a tough time u kno u just gotta be free.
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I think your future roommate should be more concerned about this situation than you. Suck it up. Either shell out the big bucks or grow some cajones and learn to live with other people. It's not a big deal. You'll only be strangers for a minute. Having a roommate and being social (gasp!) is crucial to actually enjoying college. Your girlfriend won't be there 24/7. It might be nice to have some friends. I know, radical, but just a thought.
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<p>Agreed. I feel bad for whatever sorry SOB gets him as a roommate. Or maybe he'll get someone who will set his dumb*** straight? I kind of hope for the second one.</p>
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na man i feel ya its tuff out there in college u just a # u kno instead of #1. u kno its like u luv ya gurl n u wanna b wit her but u gotta go party n u wanna go get drunk n go clubbin u kno. so u jus gotta break it off college is a tough time u kno u just gotta be free.
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<p>Wow. Didja evr get dem skilz dey call reedn n ritn? Coz u kno wha... u dumb.</p>
<p>Not that i'm a serious f***tard like yourself, i was just trying to make sure you could understand me.</p>
<p>Get a job. Then you can afford to pay for an apartment.</p>
<p>Of course, while I know plenty of people (myself included) who have worked more than 40 hours a week while being a full-time student, I also know it will eat into your recreational time. But that will be all right, right? Because at least you won't be sleeping in the same room as someone else.</p>
<p>No? Well then drop out of school, get a job or two, and just hang out in the vicinity of the campus. You'll be able to socialize with the same people you would have been able to socialize with if you lived on campus.</p>
<p>Oh, wait. You want the degree? Two words: diploma mill. Sure, that will take some money, but you'll have money because you'll be working. And sure, some employers actually make sure that the PhD you were awarded 5 weeks after you graduated from high school is from an accredited school. But don't worry! Some don't. And nobody cares about the education itself.</p>
<p>You do? You actually want an education? Take a gap year, use the next few months to research which schools have affordable off-campus housing nearby. Or affordable off-campus housing some way away, with public transit to get you back and forth. Your mistake was picking an expensive city in which to live. Problem solved.</p>
<p>Or, if you have your heart set on SFSU, you could just go live in a dorm like all the other freshmen who would probably prefer singles too. Take some of the free time you're not spending holding down a job to pay the bills and use it to write your parents nasty letters complaining that you would be enjoying college a whole lot more if they had made you share a room with your brother your whole life. Call up the local police department and ask them whether you can tour a prison to find out whether living in a dorm is different at all. (Here's a hint: I'm betting the convicts think that it's different because you have a key and can come and go.)</p>
<p>You can request whatever you like, but you can't get everything you want any more than the rest of us can. So pick what's really important to you and compromise on the rest.</p>