<p>wow thats describes me exactly...and what i'm worried about is that they'll turn out more successful than me</p>
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Huh. In my group of friends, I'm the one who doesn't really care that much, and all my friends study like CRAZY but we all get like the same grades. I'm pulling off salutatorian right now, so I'm happy, and I've found my balance of work/play.
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this is kinda me too, with my uber-nerdy friends...our GPA has been consistent but who knows...only 1 year has passed. The amount of studying that they do compared to mine is astronomically high.</p>
<p>I have put up with this several times throughout high school. I hurts when I have to choose between a social life and school, because, the answer will never change. Since I am a CCer, and you are a CCer, I am assuming you can guess what the answer is.</p>
<p>It is so hard to talk about grades in front of them, because they think I am being irrational when I want to get an A+ instead of an A. I don't want to think of it as I am more mature than them, because I can be the biggest pervert out there, but rather I have higher goals and more ambition.</p>
<p>EatBreathMeth's equation is so true, at least to me. I showed a couple of snobs CC, and they totally had a nervous breakdown.</p>
<p>Two scenarios for me:</p>
<p>1) I have friends who don't take any AP classes, and think I'm stupid because I spend so much time doing homework and studying for all these classes. One of my friends DEMANDED I drop ALL my AP classes this year so I could spend more time with her. I got really ****ed because I don't like people trying to dictate my life.</p>
<p>2) I have all my friends who are in my AP classes who don't study at all. I mean, this is a bunch of you, too. You are all so NATURALLY smart and don't have to work at ALL towards getting good grades. You show up, kinda pay attention, and get valedictorian and go to Harvard. It frustrates me so much to think you guys don't have to worry about grades or about tests or anything. It just HAPPENS for you. GRRRRRR.</p>
<p>That was my rant. :)</p>
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Lol! I've got the same problem. I have a group of friends who always gets in the low 80's % and they study like mad, and they get jealous when I get A's. And there's another friend who feels she must always be in competition with me i.e. she always asks for my grades, that stuff... So I don't discuss that with her anymore. And she's the minimum-work-maximum-reward kind of person...</p>
<p>why bother with them. in my group, im the smartest one of them all. and on the soccer team this year, i beat the seniors and the juniors in grades by a point average. and they tell me, dude have some fun. i just dont listen to them cuz im already having fun plus working hard. right now they understand me and school so they respect me and theyre pushing me to get into the school i want. all im saying is that if u have friends like that, just say whatever and move along. and besides school doesnt fulfill happiness. it just gets u somewhere.</p>
<p>Yeah... I just don't talk about school to them. Anyway, everybody in my whole class know my grades. Thanks teachers for your discretion! :) But I have teachers from upper years that know me because of that, so that can't hurt. Studying for me isn't a chore, it comes to me like that. Most of my class knows me and they respect me, but they don't know I want to get in a US college, so they push me to go to universities like McGill or whatever is good here. I have tons of ambition compared to the other top students, but at least I'll go somewhere...</p>
<p>I think people should be hanging out with friends and having fun everyday.</p>
<p>I prefer non-academically oriented friends. I don't have to listen to classroom drivel when I'm having fun...</p>
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has anyone else been in this frustrating situation?? advice??
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In my experience, people who are sensitive about these things think every suggestion to relax and take it easy is a personal insult. Maybe they're not jealous. Them thinking you need a bit of fun in your life is not so different from you thinking they need to study harder.
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acceptance into a good college=more promising future, good alumni connections better change of a high end career
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Yeah, but you don't have to go to Stanford to be successful. Colleges with lower acceptance standards produce successful alumni, too. Point is, there's nothing wrong with thinking you need balance in your life. You're doing the same to them.</p>
<p>Alex</p>
<p>CC is giving me a shock. People who want to give away their whole social lives? I respect people who do that but I couldn't...Sorry but I believe a balance is best and before anyone says I'll probably go to community college, I had a 3.9 GPA and will be going to Phillips Academy Andover this year. </p>
<p>But I do need to step up the work wayy more this year methinks. </p>
<p>Good luck to you EatBreathMath but I really hope you don't burn out or regret not doing anything now. What math level are you at by the way? Because you seem really passionate about it (username scares me...) and I am just entering a American school now from Australia and I'm wondering what level math do people in America consider very good for a sophomore? I'm doing Calc BC but the other person I spoke to is doing it too so I don't know whether its ordinary or whatever...</p>
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EatBreathMeth's equation is so true, at least to me.
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^^^^^^ THAT is a priceless typo :]</p>
<p>^ Lol! </p>
<p>I try to keep a balance too, like shore, but I'm more of an introvert, so, most of the time, I can pass entire summers without seeing my friends and it doesn't really affect me much... We have a weird friendship, but it works so... I don't sacrifice my health and social life to get good grades, I simply try to find a balance.</p>
<p>it also seems like my interests have shifted...ALOT
in middle school/early highschool i hung out with friends a lot and social activities were important for me
back then i cared about being popular/having cool friends/yadda yadda..typical highschool stuff</p>
<p>now..since i'm getting so close to the point where i have to start applying for colleges, i've reevaluated my values and goals..
ya know..i just thought..where will i end up in the future?? and i don't want to end up life my friends who are constantly worrying over their boyfriend/drama..it's pointless!!
i just wish that i knew how important school was earlier
this summer really turned me around, i'll have a record number of AP classes next year(junior) and all the pressure will be on me with keeping straight A's, national merit scholar, excellent test scores including SAT/SAT2/AP
junior year seriously decides your fate.. you can't mess up
ughhh...</p>
<p>yeah im basically to the point where i don't care about anything else other than school anymore</p>
<p>whenever i'm doing something fun, i feel guilty because i think that i should be spending my time more productively reviewing vocab for the SATs/studying/etc...</p>
<p>Pretty much all my friends are non-motivated academically despite their inherent intelligences and placement in challenging classes.</p>
<p>I myself do not like to talk about academics, and like to spend the least amount of time possible for academic activities, so I can do better things like partying. I don't really know anyone that doesn't go out at least once a week with friends.</p>
<p>i think the "well rounded" asset of a good college applicant is partly BS because it pertains mostly to being academically well rounded.
this kid at my school was accepted into harvard(not a legacy/athlete/donater)
and he was an antisocial genius!! he seriously did not know how to socialize with people and spent every lunch in the library
but he won tons of science awards and he was brilliant
he came into ap physics knowing EVERYTHING beforehand
he could have passed the AP test without taking the class..that was how much he studied</p>
<p>most of the kids i hang out with are ranked around 300 or 200 out of a little over 400 and im ranked somewhere between 7-12. I personally cant stand hanging out with most smart people because their mostly kind of just socially akward. I think its just your personality. Since im the kind of person who you would never think i was smart until you saw me in a classroom i put less emphasis in school than a lot of the other smart kids in my school. I can see it being hard being friends with people who arent academically oriented if you do school work all day or like to have intelectual conversations.</p>
<p>oh crap, I typed "Meth" instead of "Math". That was awkward....</p>
<p>haha my group of friends are pretty much my entire schools top 20 (including me) and we're all into AP/honors schedules except for one friend who is more a friend of a friend who complained to my other friend (our valedictorian) that he always feels dumb when we all talk about school and college etc. because he like failed his AP tests and tries to maintain a 3.0. Well I really felt bad when I heard about this because it's kind of mean.</p>