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what D needs to REALLY think about is how much she is willing to MISS in college because of hours and hours for dance....</p>
<p>is she in any shows now, and if she doesn't have that, is that okay with her?</p>
<p>how important is it to her to be a ballerina with no audience while missing lots of other things</p>
<p>I guess I would want my D to really think about chosing s school from such a narrow perspective</p>
<p>Say she hurts herself, and that can really happen, she needs to be sure the school is a place she can really see herself if she can never dance like she used to
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<p>I disagree with several things you raised. Just because someone is very actively involved in an extracurricular or even a minor in college, doesn't mean they are missing out on the college experience. I have a D who is heavily involved in her EC in a lifelong area of passion that she did not want to give up in college as an EC. I don't feel she is missing out on anything at her college. In fact, her college experience has been enriched by being involved in things other than academics. </p>
<p>As far as choosing a college from a "narrow perspective,".....finding a school that offered her EC was ONE of several criteria she had in picking a school. There are hundreds of colleges out there. She narrowed it down by several criteria and all of the colleges had to have this EC, as well as the other factors she wanted in a college. So, the EC didn't rule the list but the schools had to have it. </p>
<p>She is not missing lots of other things!</p>
<p>If my D hurts herself, which I pray to God she doesn't, and in fact her EC is very dangerous (I know someone she did it with growing up who was paralyzed recently doing this EC at her respective college), her school would still be a school she adores. She loves her school for many many reasons beyond this EC endeavor. However, she also loves this EC activity which has been one significant component, of many, of her time at this school. </p>
<p>If a kid has a passion, I see no need to squelch it when they reach college. Their passion may become their major/career as with one of my kids (not the one I was talking about here) and it may become a serious passion/hobby like my other kid is still doing at her college, but is not a major (couldn't be a major anyway but same idea). It is a sport. </p>
<p>Both my girls grew up dancing a LOT. One of mine IS pursuing a major/career that includes dance....musical theater. I understand injuries but she would not stop going after her passion because she MIGHT get injured. It so happens, my D was severely injured in a car crash immediately following her college auditions. While I would hate to see any kid so injured, it was worse in this case because she is going into musical theater which involves dance as a part of the degree program and the career itself and one of her injuries was a fractured pelvis. She has five metal screws in her hip now. She miraculously recovered from all of her injuries in time for college. Chita Rivera has five metal screws in her hip too. A close friend of my D's in her program is paralyzed from the waist down and is still in the program and in dance classes. She has been quite successful so far. Not even her injuries by a drunk driver has kept her from her passion. </p>
<p>I think if your D really cares about dance and wants to minor in it, double major, or merely take classes and dance in an EC group, she ought to go for it. I can't see giving up one's passion when it is unnecessary to do so to attend college. She can dance at college and even have a wonderful social group in her EC endeavors. My kids' EC passions and endeavors didn't stop when they got to college.</p>