<p>If you found someone you really liked, someone you think is a perfect match for you, would you date them even if you're both seniors in high school going off to different colleges in August? I'm basically in this situation right now and would like some advice. I don't want to get into a relationship and have it go sour because of distance (~2 hours) but on the other hand I don't want the "what if" to haunt me.</p>
<p>We talk and laugh a lot with each other even like 30 mins after class when the school's closing down. I get the feeling she's waiting for me to make some type of move, but I'm holding back right now because of the reasons listed above. Advice please!</p>
<p>I think you’d probably be kicking yourself at the end of the year for initiating a relationship that was destined to prematurely end, if you do intend on completely separating after the school year ends.</p>
<p>However, if you’re okay with the thought of a long distance relationship and you really, really like her than maybe that is an option for you! My boyfriend and I have been dating long-distance for almost two and a half years now (1500 miles of distance), it’s really not too difficult given that you one, love the other person, and two, have at least one chance to see them a year (we see each other twice but I think once would be good, depending on the duration of the visit!)</p>
<p>If you’re not into long-distance, chances are that you will be so excited to finally get to college that the relationship will fade from your memories faster than it would under, let’s say, slower/more boring circumstances anyways. And there will be plenty of girls wherever you will relocate to, if you find yourself wanting another relationship.</p>
<p>My advice is wholly dependent upon how much you like this person and, consequently, how far you’d be willing to go for her. Hope it helps regardless! Oh also, remember, you could genuinely explain to her that you are interested, but you don’t want to establish a relationship if both of you know it won’t last past graduation.</p>
<p>UGH I can’t be of any help because I’m in a similar situation. I’ve been talking to this guy I like who goes to a community college (yeah, I know haha), but he’s started talking about dating… And we’re both so head over heels for the idea, but then we always end up on the subject of me going thousands of miles away for college and get bummed out. We’re kind of in the midst of forcing ourselves to be friends now, which is just really weird. I don’t know if it’s worth trying to continue the friendship when we both really just want to date and probably won’t be satisfied otherwise… </p>
<p>On the other hand, for YOU, you said the distance is only about two hours, which I admit is a lot compared with the current closeness, but I’m going to college far, far out of state most likely, and even if I’m instate, I’ll be like five hours away minimum. So, your distance sounds very doable to me. Like brightstack, I think it just depends how much you like this person. Some relationships are worth two hours and the struggles of long distance, and others aren’t. I really don’t think the distance is the big issue though in your case, the issue is just commitment, reliability, and how much you really love each other. I think I’d still give it a shot, just knowing the possible time constraints. You never know what will happen.</p>
<p>It all depends on the person and how much you like them. Long distance relationships can certainly work (my boyfriend of 1.5 years is currently studying in London and I’m on the east coast of the us), but they must be rooted in a strong friendship first. If you plan on just breaking up in august don’t even bother, but if you’re serious and willing to work out a long distance relationship then by all means go for it.</p>
<p>I say go for it and enjoy a summer romance. But… at the end of the summer, go to college with the agreement that you are going to potentially see other people there. If it is meant to be, neither of you will find “the one” at college anyway. If not, you will have a great summer.</p>
<p>You’ve got 6 months or so, you might as well give it a go. If it’s still going well when you leave, you can always try long distance and, as others have pointed out, it’s not too far.</p>
<p>Don’t do it. You don’t want to go off to college as “the guy with the girlfriend”–from everything I’ve heard it would be just too much stress, trying to handle a relationship and adjust to college at the same time.</p>
<p>I don’t advise dating someone “just for fun”, either. Believe me, I tried this. It was a lot less fun when he fell in love with me, what should have been a simple breakup became incredibly messy, destroying our friendship and really hurting him. I regret it so much now. This is your last semester of high school. You should relax and enjoy it. If you want to have fun, have fun. Trying to make a new relationship work, only to see it either suddenly end or gradually fizzle out a few months later, isn’t fun.</p>
<p>It may be fun now, but it’ll really suck when it’s time for you both to leave. My cousin made that mistake and she and her boyfriend were fighting for weeks before they went off to school. There were tons of emotions flying everywhere and my cousin even contemplated not going to the Uni she was supposed to go to and being with her boyfriend (THANK GOD SHE DIDN’T!) But they parted ways and I guess aren’t officially “broken up” they do what they want since they’re both on different sides of the country, of course, but the situation is kinda complicated and they’ll always be unfinished business. We’ll see what happens when they meet again this summer! </p>
<p>But long story short, don’t do it! Save yourself all of the complicated feelings and trouble. Try and stay friends. It’ll save you a lot of pain, drama and heartbreak.</p>
<p>I think what everyone’s saying is that a serious relationships will just hurt- the solution is to try and keep it non-serious. OP and his friend who is a girl would seem to be casual if they got together.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t do it. Most of the long distance relationships I know of haven’t gone very well (whether it’s breakups or people cheating on each other). If you would like to try then that’s you but I would pass if I was in your situation.</p>
<p>I’d do it now. Don’t worry about what-ifs. The two of you could flame out in a few months, and the long-distance dating thing will never become a problem. Don’t become so paralyzed by possible future problems that you don’t do what you like in the present. Don’t miss out on what could be a great experience.</p>
<p>That being said, if you choose to date, I wouldn’t continue into college. It’s a new environment with new friends you should enjoy to the fullest. Having a long-distance girlfriend eating up your time and energy is not a good way to make the most of it.</p>
<p>Every couple I know who tried to long-distance ended-up breaking up after a few months. Might as well part on good terms. My friend and her boyfriend decided to stop “seeing” each other when he left on his mission (he’s Mormon, missions last for about 2 years); it just would not be worth it.</p>
<p>Well, after thinking about it, the relationship couldn’t be a serious one and would probably be ended before
leaving because as LonelyHapax said, I don’t want an LDR to drain my time and energy while in college, not to mention that I could always meet someone better later on at UF where I’m going. I also know how it can be a bit difficult to keep a relationship from becoming serious, like mmmgirl’s story.</p>
<p>Besides, I’ve got a lot to deal with right now with school and other stuff and have little time available to give her. I was also planning on doing a big motorcycle trip this summer before I get caught up with college, so there goes the possibility of the summer romance that intparent mentioned. I think I’m just going to enjoy being single and free for a few months more and worry about relationships again later.</p>